Honest question about the formal dining night

[Adrienne]

Ok sorry if i offend anyone here. Both my partner and i are female but neither of us is really feminine enough to feel comfortable in a dress or skirt. Most of the time the two of us wear mens clothes (i am 6'3" so womens things aren't long enough for me, and my partner is not quite pooh sized, but just really solidly built and is built more like a man (straight up and down instead of in and out like most girls )

What i am wondering is if we wore nice black pants with dress shirts, or my partner wanted to wear hers with a tie (she loves ties especially her pooh bear one!) if we would be considered as appropriately dressed for dinner at the formal dining night on the DCL cruises?.

This situation is a whille away for us cause we won't cruise for at least 2 yrs prob. (we live in Australia so it's a huge distance to fly on top of the cost) but i was just curious, as when we come to florida to go on a cruise we will want to go a week long i'm sure (do as much as we can cause of the cost of the airfares y'know.

Sorry if i offended anyone don't mean to but these are the questions that just burn in my head that need to be answered

Adrienne

 

[lbgraves]

I don't see why that wouldn't be considered dressing up. Some women have worn nice pant suits for formal night.

 

[KEH]

It sounds absolutely fine to me.

 

[RonnieJo66]

First, let me say, you shouldn't feel like you're offending anyone. If it bothers them, then it's their problem.

I have seen many women wear dress pants on the cruises. I have seen many people in general not "dressing" as they should as well. I think you would be fine dressed for formal night. Dressing for formal night is a matter of taste I guess. Who's to say whats correct Wear what you're comfortable in.

Hugs,

RonnieJo

 

[SQUIGGLE]

My adult DD does not "dress up". She has worn nice black slacks with a white top; on a Holiday cruise she did have a top with silver threads through it. Both ways looked fine.

 

[stina]

Dear Adrienne,

You shouldn't worry about offending anyone. All are welcome here and everyone has the right to be themselves. To answer your question, I think dressing up is dressing up no matter how you do it. Some people like to wear sequins, others like simple black dresses or suits. I'm sure all of us together on formal night will look dazzling no matter what!

My partner (female) and I (female) will be cruising this September. We'll happen to be wearing dresses, simple ones though, no big sequins or ball gowns for either of us. But I could just as easily wear a suit. What we're wondering is how we'll be introduced when we board the ship, that should be interesting...it definitely WON'T be MR. AND MRS.!!!
But ultimately I really don't care, we're gonna be cruising with the Mouse, it doesn't get any better than that. Magic for everyone!

Enjoy your trip~
Stina

 

[Jsme]

I see no problem in what you would like to wear. Many people get upset at what others wear on formal night. For the record, I will say I enjoy dressing up, but I do not look down my nose at anyone for not.

 

[jrabbit]

If you want to view the current "appropriate" formal night clothing "debate" join us on this thread (but bring your own snacks )

 

[logan1_2000]

I've already had my kettle corn and sweet tea on the other thread. And I am in favor of dressing up. And I don't think that adhering to formal night requires a dress of the ladies if that is not the attire of choice. And what the OP has described for her and her partner seems a reasonable application of formal night:

"What i am wondering is if we wore nice black pants with dress shirts, or my partner wanted to wear hers with a tie (she loves ties especially her pooh bear one!) if we would be considered as appropriately dressed for dinner at the formal dining night on the DCL cruises?"


Like the Pooh Tie idea--I wore a Mickey tie to Palo last cruise. The outfits the OP described would be terrific with a jacket of some kind, but hey, its the caribbean, and I am no ladies jacket expert, so if I'm wrong and it would not work together witha jacket of some kind, so be it. In any event, most of the female attorneys in my firm are dressing professionally and for court in attire that does not include a dress or skirt of any kind, just slacks or a woman's suit.

Hope Stina lets us know how she/they choose(s) to be introduced when she and her partner step on board.

 

[ChrizJen]

I'm so glad you asked! I kinda threw in a similar question on the infamous "Formal Night" thread...and got no response. But they were pretty busy over there, so I understand!

Anyway, I'm in a similar situation. My partner and I will be on a 7-night in September as well, and while I enjoy getting "prettied up" and will be wearing a formal dress, she is definitely not a dress kinda girl. So we're trying to figure out what to do for formal night. She was thinking about wearing a nice pants suit. (probably no tie, but nice pants, a dressy shirt, and maybe a jacket.) This thread puts my mind at ease a bit knowing that she can be comfortable and won't offend anyone.
So thanks for asking...

And Stina, We were kinda wondering about the whole announcement thing too...We were on a 4-night back in '03, and I can't remember how we were announced because it was our first cruise, and we were just in such awe with the whole thing that we weren't paying enough attention to notice.

Anyway...Thanks, Adrienne for your post. And I hope that you will be able to cruise Disney soon!

-Christal

 

[dis ms.]

Sorry if i offended anyone don't mean to but these are the questions that just burn in my head that need to be answered

Adrienne,

I'm with the others on this. You haven't said anything offensive--you were simply asking a valid question. If people have a problem with your lifestyle, it's just that--their problem. You're both adults, so your love life is really only your business. My DH and I are of different races and, although ours is not a "typical relationship", I'm not concerned with how others feel about it.

Now, to answer your question, (dis ms. says as she carefully steps off her soapbox) , IMHO, the attire that you're considering should be fine. I hope that you and your partner have a wonderful cruise!

By the way, Adrienne, if you really want to offend some people here, tell us you're pulling a child out of school for a cruise, letting that child's unpotty-trained younger sibling swim in the Mickey pool, and--on completion of said cruise--you have no plans to tip your servers. (Sorry, I couldn't resist!)

 

[lindakmonty]

As you've heard a few times here... be yourself and be comfortable! As far as the announcing as you go onboard they say...well, my last name is Montgomery so they said "welcome, the Montgomery family" and once I took my mom, my cousin and my son...and they said : "welcome the montgomery,castle, and taylor families".... I thought that was kind of funny!! Have a blast and enjoy yourselves. It is vacation!!

 

[ldb1030]

My sister and her partner always wear nice slacks on formal night!
We are getting ready for our 4th cruise together next summer and I'm SURE they'll do the! You'll look great! Have a wonderful time!!

 

[jrabbit]

I'm so glad you asked! I kinda threw in a similar question on the infamous "Formal Night" thread...and got no response. But they were pretty busy over there, so I understand!

-Christal

We're just hav'n fun over on the "other" thread I added this link on the other thread for you earlier today, but you may have missed it. Here's info on Renting Tuxes

 

[nordkin]

My partner and I have been on three cruises and we have always been introduced as the King Grieg family. As far as formal night, both of us always wear a nice pant suit and have never felt out of place. We have never had a problem on any of our cruises and do not anticipate any on our upcoming repo cruise in August. Just be yourself and enjoy your vacation.

 

[ChrizJen]

Thanks, jrabbit!