Home from work w/ 2 sick boys

[DizzieDizney]

Let me start off by saying I have a 6 yr old and 3yr old. The 6yr has had a fever since Sunday (101 to 103). My 3yr old woke up lastnight w/ a fever of 103 currently at 102. Second let me say that I just got a new job. I have been working w/ this company since 29 Sept 03. So this is my 3rd week of work. They really stress the fact that they only want dependable employees (people who don't miss work for any reason). Right now I'm in training for 6wks then go into transition for another 6wks and they really pay close attention to those new hires that miss any days of work during this time period. I am on probation for 6months which I'm sure most of you are familiar with that I can be fired w/out notice during this time period. I have tests every week til I get out of transition and I have to maintain a 90% average or I will get fired. I have a very high stress job but I can handle it and I know I can do the job. What bothers me is that I can't miss a day of work without feeling guilty. My husband is in the military but right now he is going through a change of career fields and is also in training and can not miss a day. And today we both had tests. His a 5hr test, mine was just a 25 question test. Anyways, I had him call in to work where he had to speak to 3 supervisors and his camander to explain the situation. The comander told him he HAD to come in to work ASAP. Well... I went to work and left dh w/ the kids took the test then explained to my trainer that I had to go home because dh had to go to work. My trainer explained to me that it would go against my dependability (like i didn't all ready know this) and that when they do the progress reports it wouldn't look good for me. I'm so frustrated that a big company like this one does not care or take into consideration that we do have families we need to care for! Not only do I feel guilty for leaving work but I feel guilty for feeling this way because my kids are sick and I know I need to be home! What am I suppose to do? I don't have family who could watch the kids near by. My in-laws got jobs of their own. I really don't want to give up my job but in situations like this I just want to give up!!!!!


sorry this is so long and jumbled...my thoughts are so flustered right now....I know my 3yr old will still be sick tomorrow...and that one of us..me or dh will have to stay home... since dh job is priority here it will probably be me...

 

[CEDmom]

I'm really sorry you're in such a prediciment. I hope your boys are both better soon. Would it be possible for you to contact human resources at your company and speak to someone about the situation?

 

[DizzieDizney]

cedmom, thx for the reply...i hope they do get better soon too..my oldest fever is going down...99.6 right now...but my youngest just read 104.1...I called the doctor they want me to bring him in...so since dh is at work i have to drag both my boys in...stessssssssssss.......


I guess I could talk to human resources about it..It wouldn't hurt to try. Well I'll keep ya updated..

 

[sharbear]

I feel so badly for you. I don't know how people can deal with the stress of a full-time job and sick kids and everything else that goes on. My DH is just not available to call out sick in his job. Just getting him to take vacation is so very hard. I finally accepted that this is the way it was going to be and I work part-time. None of my or my DH's family is close, but I am lucky that my DH's job allows me to work part-time. I hope that the kids feel better soon. It might be a long winter if taking off for sick kids is such an issue with this employer. But it's hard to get a job these days, I know my DH's employer is not hiring anyone. I'm lucky that we both have jobs.

 

[mrsmom]

I just wanted to say I hope your two boys get better really soon, Hang in there, and takecare of yourself too , Something is going around my kids had it two weeks ago. I hope it all works out.
Kim

 

[Mishetta]

I sure hope your children don't have a viral infection. My DS8 fevered for 3 straight days. Now DS2 has it! Anyway, I no longer work so I don't have your problem anymore but when I did work (part time) I had a wonderful boss & whenever I had to take time off for my children, her response always was "you're a Mother first, & all else comes second!" (I truly miss her!) She was a Mom too & understood. More "Mom's" should be out there in the work force so that they would be more understanding when someone needs to take time off for sick children. It's not like you're out on a picnic for heaven's sake!

Don't put yourself through torment. You're home with your ill children & I'm sure there is no where else you'd want to be right now. Just face whatever falls your way once you return, but for now, remember how much your babies need you. You're making them feel better just by being there for them!

As someone once said to me, on your last days on earth, you won't be thinking about how sorry you were not to have spent more time at work....right?

(((Hugs)))

 

[Serena]

You know, I know some people take advantage of things, but I don't understand why employers can't be more understanding with people.

Hang in there, it will be alright.

 

[DizzieDizney]

Well I'm back from the doctor....sheesh why do they make you wait for ever to be seen? Anyways, turns out my 3yr old has an ear infection in both ears and an infection in his throat... I got some antibotics(sp) The doctor said his right ear was really red

Anyways, I want to thank you all for the well wishes. These boards are truly a great thing! Just let me say that I don't have very many friends around here and it's great to be able to let someone know how you feel and get responses.


Mishetta, thanks for those last words! Really makes sense now...I really needed that! I feel so much better!

 

[Disney Ella]

I'm sorry you have to put up with such pressure on top of having sick kids. What do they expect you to do? Leave two sick little kids home alone? I work part-time and am looking for a full-time job and this is the one thing that worries me. Before I had kids, I worked at too many places that weren't understanding at all of parents' responsibilities and watched people who were good employees treated like scum because they had to take a day off to care for a sick child. I mean, it's not like they weren't coming in because they were flying to Vegas for the day.

Hope the kids feel better soon and that one of your jobs becomes more understanding.

 

[cati]

I am sorry you are having to deal with this. It is bad enough your dear little ones are sick but to also have to worry about your job is rediculous.

Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in quickly and they will be feeling better soon. Do you have any friends you could call and BEG them to watch them tomorrow??? What about your pediatrition - would he know someone you could call on?? I know you should not even HAVE to think about someone else taking care of your sweet children when they are sick, but if you dont want to lose your job, maybe they would know someone.

And then again, you may want to tell the people at your job if they cant understand the situation, then maybe you dont want to work with them. That you are better off without them.