Hollywood Marriages

[MiknMinMouse]

Is there something about people being married in Hollywood that takes the "til death do us part" out of their marriage vows? I'm completely baffled by how quickly actors/musicians get married and divorced and married again. Not even that but just how they view marriage. For Instance people were so surprised about Brad & Jen but did anyone remember that during all of their interviews both of them were pretty clear that they didn't think marriage was a forever thing. The breakup that has really shocked me is Nick & Jessica. I really had hoped they would make it. Too bad there aren't more Paul Newman & Joanne Woodwards out in tinsletown. Just wanted to get that off my chest

 

[Jennifer S]

I just think most celebrities are not living in the real world. Plus they get a lot of attention that = BIG head and they spend so much time apart - usually.

 

[marybet]

Most people's marriages aren't front page news. The only difference in Hollywood marriages and "regular" marriages is that we read about them. I don't know for sure but I would think that the statistics aren't much different in Hollywood then for the general public.

 

[goofygirl]

I think some marry purely for the publicity. I think even some have children for that reason too.

 

[ducklite]

Too bad there aren't more Paul Newman & Joanne Woodwards out in tinsletown. Just wanted to get that off my chest

I agree. Meryl Streep has been married to her husband forever, and Goldie and Kurt, not married but might as well be. And Mel Gibson's another who's been married forever.

I think some people have a more realisitic approach to life in general.

Anne

 

[Sleeping~Beauty]

Now I'm trying to think of long lasting Hollywood couples. Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson come to mind.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Most people's marriages aren't front page news. The only difference in Hollywood marriages and "regular" marriages is that we read about them. I don't know for sure but I would think that the statistics aren't much different in Hollywood then for the general public.

ITA, except I'd guess that the divorce stats on married couples where both of the spouses are famous is probably higher. Then again, how often do you hear about any actors/actresses and their unknown spouses? The majority of the marriages you see in the press all the time are just the ones where both of them are famous in their own rights.

 

[bicker]

Most people's marriages aren't front page news. The only difference in Hollywood marriages and "regular" marriages is that we read about them.

That's a really big part of it, I bet, though beyond that, being front-page news places far more pressure on a marriage than anything we "regular" folks have to deal with, even with all the extra money celebrities make.

I don't know for sure but I would think that the statistics aren't much different in Hollywood then for the general public.

To the extent there is, I'll bet it has to do with that fishbowl phenomenon.

 

[princesspumpkin]

I'm completely baffled by how quickly actors/musicians get married and divorced and married again.

I could say the same thing about many people everywhere (even on the Dis )

 

[scubamouse]

threads like this reinforce why i think the gov't has to get out of the marrying business, period. let them all have civil unions unless they do a church ceremony.

susan sarandon and tim robbins have been together forever. same w/kevin kline and phoebe cates (ok that was one i thought would NEVER last!). i'll add felicity huffman and william macy. and then my would-be boyfriend Hugh Jackman and his wife.

i do think there are a lot of celebrity/celebrity marriages are encouraged as good career moves.

 

[Sleeping~Beauty]

Kevin Kline and Phoebe Cates? I didn't know that. I always wondered what happened to her. She used to be the it girl for a brief period in the 80's.

 

[OhMari]

Now I'm trying to think of long lasting Hollywood couples. Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson come to mind.

Tom Hanks was married before Rita.

 

[missypie]

One year at the Oscars, Steve Martin had a good line about why Hollywood marriages don't last: "Because we sleep with so many different people."

I have my own theory...lots of the stars are gay and get married for show. Think about it. If you've hung around with theatre or dance or music majors in college, or have otherwise been involved in the theatre, you'll realize that there's a large gay population. Lots of the Broadway stars are gay. But in Hollywood, almost no one is gay. How can that be? You drive East after theatre school if you're gay and West if you're straight? You can't expect the marriage of a gay man to a straight woman to last a lifetime.

 

[Imzadi]

Even within the professional Screen Actors Guild, the celebrities we see out there only make up .01% of the actual professional actors within the Guild. You factor that in with the over 50% divorce rate, & probably statistically they really aren't very different than "regular" non-famous marriages/divorces.

I've seen many posts here where posters listed relatives, friends, co-workers who've been married & divorced many times. Some posts are: "Should we attend this (3rd) wedding"; "Do we have to bring a gift for the 3rd time around?"; "I can't believe my bozo brother got married AGAIN! "

 

[Figment22]

Now I'm trying to think of long lasting Hollywood couples. Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson come to mind.

They do seem like they have a good marriage. Also, Warren Beatty and Annette Bening. It took WB a LONG time to settle down but now it seems like they're definitely in it for the long haul. John Travolta and Kelly Preston seem well matched as do Brad Whitford and Jane Kaczmarek. William H. Macy and Felicity Huffman also come to mind. Maybe I'm going out on a limb with this one as he seems like a nutso sometimes but Sean Penn and Robin Wright-Penn seem to have a good marriage too. They've been married almost 10 years and they had a couple of kids together even before they were married.

 

[stinkerbelle]

The breakup that has really shocked me is Nick & Jessica. I really had hoped they would make it.

this actually didn't shock me.
I think he married her just so he could sleep with her.
JMO

 

[princesspumpkin]

Even within the professional Screen Actors Guild, the celebrities we see out there only make up .01% of the actual professional actors within the Guild. You factor that in with the over 50% divorce rate, & probably statistically they really aren't very different than "regular" non-famous marriages/divorces.

I've seen many posts here where posters listed relatives, friends, co-workers who've been married & divorced many times. Some posts are: "Should we attend this (3rd) wedding"; "Do we have to bring a gift for the 3rd time around?"; "I can't believe my bozo brother got married AGAIN! "

As a card carrying SAG member, my sentiments exactly!

 

[MiknMinMouse]

Maybe it's the couples who try really hard to stay OUT of the limelight that last. I know divorce is not totally a Hollywood phenomenon, but they really seem to do the breakup get a new person quick thing very well. It really seems like the stars who aren't on the front page of every rag do better. It does seem like as more of a group they don't do the work it out thing very well, or through thick and thin, or better or worse. I know the entire 17 years I've been married hasn't been a fairytale but I still wouldn't trade my life for theirs. I have a wonderful hubby and some great kids.

 

[florida-again]

My theory is that many of us base our marriage decisions on financial security to an extent. I am quite sure MOST people don't get married the second they realise they want to spend their lives together.

For many, myself included, marriage won't come until other things have been secured, a lifestyle, a job, a house, financial security etc. Not because I don't want to get married, but I'm just sensible and realise that a marriage needs security in all areas.

Celebrities, meanwhile, don't have to think about these things. They've got 'love', what else do they need? So I guess while they're not waiting for financial/lifestyle security, they also don't have the extra 'waiting' time to get to know each other.

Just my theory...I'm feeling pensive today!

 

[MiknMinMouse]

I was reading an article about Nick & Jessica and I really think her dad is a large part of the problem. I guess even some Hollywood couples have to deal with meddling in-laws (something that I've actually never had a problem with THANK GOODNESS)