Holidays...... I can't be the only one who....

[princesspumpkin]

doesn't make a big deal out of them? Now don't get me wrong, I don't criticize those that do. I always say "whatever works for you", but my family doesn't really do a lot of stuff on holidays. Me, DH annd DD are the three musketeers. We appreciate each other everyday. We tell how much we love each other all the time. We do special things for each other constantly. We don't wait until a holiday to express our gratitude for having one another. So, when holidays come, we don't feel the desire to exchange gifts or cards all the time. Sometimies we get caught up in the moment of a particular holiday and will do exchange gifts. Sometimes we just say "happy whatever holiday it is". If there is something that i know that DH has been wanting very badly, I might get it for him for a particular holiday. Sometimes we decide to buy ourselves something together for another one. What does bother me is when people ask me what DH did for me for such-and-such day - as if it's required of him. Then whenn i say 'nothing out of the ordinary", they look at me as if I have two heads! I guess what i'm saying is that we don't get bothered if something elaborate isn't done on any given holiday, and I'd like to know if there are others out there that feel the same way. Thanks for not flaming

 

[Maleficent13]

I actually breathe a sigh of relief when the holiday (whichever one) is over, and life can go back to its routine. I'm just not a holiday person...I never have been. It's always driven my mom nuts.

 

[bananiem]

I feel the same way, but not everyone is as lucky to be in a similar situation. I can see why some people would like the extra acknowledgement.
What I don't understand are the people that get their undies in a bunch because it's Mother's Day so therefore nobody should celebrate it. (For the record I do not mean the people who have had fertility problems or have lost children. I understand their thoughts on the day.) I mean the ones that think we should bow down before them because the are "Pet Mommies". I don't get upset on Secretaries Day or Bosses Day. Heck, even when I WAS a boss I made sure my staff didn't do anything about it.

 

[mickeymousemom]

Glad to know I'm not the only one. I do make a big deal of Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I never have over birthdays or other holidays. I do make sure my kids feel special on their birthday, but as for me...I just don't want a big deal made out of it. My in-laws are just the opposite(except for my DH) and think I'm Satan for not throwing some huge SOIREE' everytime a holiday or birthday comes up.

 

[NMAmy]

I actually breathe a sigh of relief when the holiday (whichever one) is over, and life can go back to its routine. I'm just not a holiday person...I never have been. It's always driven my mom nuts.

I take after your mom. I love holidays and I love going all out to celebrate them.

But MY mom gave me the best advice EVER. If something is a big deal to you, TELL people. Your husband is not a mind reader.

DH is not a big holiday guy. He buys little gifts for no reason and is very appreciative all the time. However, since he knows it means a lot to me (and I go all out for everyone else), he does it for me. But I tell him what I'd like. For example, I make a list of items I'd like and where they can be purchased. Or that I'd like to go to dinner or whatever. If he doesn't KNOW, he can't do it. Plus, I remind him ahead of the date. As in, "Seven more shopping days until my birthday!"

 

[Beth76]

Ugh. The pet mommies one threw me over the edge. I had to make a comment on that one. I'm with you OP, I am not a holiday person. I think the only holidays I like are Memorial Day, Labor Day and 4th of July because you get a day off of work and there are no gifts or candy involved.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I feel the same way! We appreciate each other everyday. Sometimes we go "all out", sometimes we don't.

As my kids have gotten older I want to spend our holiday's vacationing, instead of running to the relatives.

 

[Planogirl]

My family members also appreciate each other every day but we also acknowledge holidays. It's possible to do both IMO. I say that everyone should do whatever feels right for them and not worry about what others do. I never ask anyone what they did for a holiday.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

I've always felt my husband is kind of wasted on me because he always wants to go all out for every little holiday.


Really, I love my husband the best because he is the kind of guy that will get up early with the kids every Saturday morning and make them be quiet so I can sleep in. I don't need an overpriced vase of flowers from him on Mother's Day.

 

[disykat]

I'm the same way. Beth, the pet mommy thing threw me over the edge too - even though I have a pet that "calls me" mommy! We generally acknowledge the holiday, but don't really do cards or gifts.

 

[YourMajesty]

I feel the same way! We appreciate each other everyday. Sometimes we go "all out", sometimes we don't.

As my kids have gotten older I want to spend our holiday's vacationing, instead of running to the relatives.

I like the vacationing idea! We love to travel and as the kids get older it's so much easier. It's the polite and fun way to avoid countless holiday gatherings.

 

[palmtreegirl]

 

[Becky2005]

I'm one that doesn't really think the holidays are a big deal per se. I did find out one year that not having a birthday cake on my birthday bugged me. So now I make sure I at least get a piece of cake or something sweet that day. Other than that no biggie.
My birthday is in May, our wedding anniversary is in May, Mother's day is in May, my 5 year old's birthday is in May....so it would be *way* to overwhelming to do all of it each day. Of course, I make a big deal out of the 5 year old's birthday (the reason mine takes a backseat! LOL! His is the 22nd, mine is the 31st - I usually liked to celebrate his birthday with family on Memorial day as everyone had the day off! The coordination I have to do sometimes!) This year is his first kid party and it's the Saturday before Memorial day because that's the way it fell with us having time to do it.

As for the other days it really is no big deal to me. The one I'm still trying to figure out is Sweetest day - what is the difference between that and Valentine's day????? To me, they just added another Valentine's day. I was a Secretary and I *hated* Secretaries day...honestly forget taking me out to lunch, just give me a raise instead. One reason I hated it, is I would have people I barely had contact with all year would all of a sudden be bringing me gifts. I felt so akward, then forget boss' day - we had LOTS of different bosses and never quite knew how to deal with that one. Do we take our direct supervisor out? Or the head of the department too or the entire department????

Then again, I'm also weird because I *LOVE* getting appliances/practical items for gifts, especially if it's something I've been wanting. I don't get gifts every year though, which is fine. This year I did - I got an electric griddle (it's a combo present - anniversary, mother's day, birthday).

 

[Amapola]

DH and I haven't exchanged presents in years. We usually try to go on vacation at some point over the Xmas-NY holidays, which also covers our wedding anniversary in January. We both have summer birthdays, so our summer vacation is our "birthday" celebration. Other than Christmas day, when we have a big open house for all our relatives, I don't care for holidays one way or the other.

Oh, and yes, everyone I know thinks we're extremely weird .

 

[princesspumpkin]

I knew that I wasn't alone