High School Class of 2016/College Class 2020

[luvsJack]

We are really ready for graduation, and there is a month to go. DD has been doing fine in all her classes (all As at the half-trimester mark) and has decided on college, but she has had to cope with several of her "friends" ostracizing her for no real reason. Apparently, the leader and "head mean girl" of her group of friends decided that she didn't like DD's choice of college- mainly because DD chose to attend a school out of the state and on a great scholarship when the other friends all failed to get accepted at their first choice, out of state schools and are settling for the state school instead. She has had to listen to them all tell her she will hate this college and that she is wrong for leaving them.

Head Mean Girl started totally ignoring DD and bullied the other girls into doing it, too. She told me a little bit of what is going on when I noticed she seemed a bit sad lately. She said she doesn't understand why they are all being so mean, since she has always been supportive of their decisions. She got frozen out of Prom (luckily, an old friend from home went with her- they had fun) and has been pretty lonely around campus with very few kids to hang around with. She told me she doesn't mind too much, but I know this is putting a damper on what should be a great time for her.

Sometimes being the mom of a teenaged girl really stinks! I don't know how to make her feel better, and I would love to give those girls a piece of my mind (but I won't).

Only 31 days until she graduates and is done with the drama...

Awww. I hate she is going through that right now. Now should be the time to enjoy the last days with your friends. Girls can be so vicious when they are jealous.

I thought dd's group was going to all split but its gotten better somewhat. She and her bff are both in choir. Both auditioned at the same schools, both recieved the same offers. But they both auditioned for show choir at one school and neither one made it. Dd was dissapointed but excited about singing in the concert choir. Her friend was devastated and angry at the world. She took it out on the rest of the hs choir as they prepared for their final performances and state festival. Dd had enough and told her off. Her friend calmed down somewhat but now its all better and everyone seems good with their school choices. Now, if they can just get through prom without totally breaking down in a puddle of drama.

 

[WVMomof3]

We are really ready for graduation, and there is a month to go. DD has been doing fine in all her classes (all As at the half-trimester mark) and has decided on college, but she has had to cope with several of her "friends" ostracizing her for no real reason. Apparently, the leader and "head mean girl" of her group of friends decided that she didn't like DD's choice of college- mainly because DD chose to attend a school out of the state and on a great scholarship when the other friends all failed to get accepted at their first choice, out of state schools and are settling for the state school instead. She has had to listen to them all tell her she will hate this college and that she is wrong for leaving them.

Head Mean Girl started totally ignoring DD and bullied the other girls into doing it, too. She told me a little bit of what is going on when I noticed she seemed a bit sad lately. She said she doesn't understand why they are all being so mean, since she has always been supportive of their decisions. She got frozen out of Prom (luckily, an old friend from home went with her- they had fun) and has been pretty lonely around campus with very few kids to hang around with. She told me she doesn't mind too much, but I know this is putting a damper on what should be a great time for her.

Sometimes being the mom of a teenaged girl really stinks! I don't know how to make her feel better, and I would love to give those girls a piece of my mind (but I won't).

Only 31 days until she graduates and is done with the drama...

OMG, are you me? LOL I could have wrote almost the same post. Her friends were mean because she was looking at other schools, unfortunately, mostly due to money, she IS going to the same state school as the others. She really wanted away from them to get a fresh start. Also, got left out of their prom group. I'm hoping she makes some new great friends in college.

 

[MomofKatie]

OMG, are you me? LOL I could have wrote almost the same post. Her friends were mean because she was looking at other schools, unfortunately, mostly due to money, she IS going to the same state school as the others. She really wanted away from them to get a fresh start. Also, got left out of their prom group. I'm hoping she makes some new great friends in college.

So sorry that is happening to your DD as well!

Yes, I am pretty glad she is heading away on her own from her hs crowd. She is a real "no drama" person, and somehow found herself with a very drama-filled group of friends. We are both looking forward to a bunch of nice, low maintenance friends at college.

 

[jetskigrl]

I had to jump in here and bump our thread up Well...we are in the final stretch now. DD has 6 more full weeks after this one and will probably be one of the last to have her Graduation ceremony, LOL. So now that May 1st has past, I guess everyone has their decisions made? We are just waiting to hear if DD got into the dorms (small school with limited dorm space - priority goes to out of country and out of state kids first). But hopefully she will still get in.

How are all the graduates holding up?

 

[okeydokey]

Going to sign for an off campus apartment Saturday. I think we are both ready. A friend told me her theory about dealing with High Schiol seniors. They act in a way that makes you not so sad to see them go. My daughter has been quite self centered this year, and really detached from family life. I don't appreciate this selfishness. I am hoping some distance will make her appreciate her family a bit.

 

[wishesuponastar]

Daughter chose her college on Apr. 29th. I need to ask her about getting a roommate. Physical is scheduled for end of June and the college wants 3 medical forms completed by doctor. Oh, daughter is going 3 hours away. How about everyone else how far?

 

[MomofKatie]

Daughter chose her college on Apr. 29th. I need to ask her about getting a roommate. Physical is scheduled for end of June and the college wants 3 medical forms completed by doctor. Oh, daughter is going 3 hours away. How about everyone else how far?

Congrats on her choice! 3 hours is a good distance- close enough to come home every once in a while if she wants, but far enough that she really feels like she is 'away at college'.

DD is going 7 hours away from home- 3 states away. She does dorm/roommate selection next week, and just has 1 medical form to turn in, I think (proof of required immunizations). Her orientation is over 2 days in mid-July, and she registered for an honors environmental service activity the week before classes start. Hopefully, we are done with all the major stuff.

 

[wishesuponastar]

Thank you and Congrats to you and all the students!

Yes, 3 hrs will make her feel far away which is what she wanted. I have to look into if there is a bus to get her home for times we need that. How do you feel about your daughter being so far away? I wish my daughter would have went to the college an hour away mainly because it would have been easier on us to get her.

 

[luvsJack]

Has everyone made it through prom or is it yet to come? Dd's was this past weekend. There were sad tears, happy tears and ended up having a great time. Although Saturday morning, I was worried. Pictures were great and they had a great time at dinner and then six couples in all their finery went trouping through the mall to find two of the girls more comfortable shoes. 4 of the girls wore converse!

 

[punkin]

DD is going almost 8 hour drive away. I am unhappy with that. We've gotten nothing from the college about medical nor dorms. We're in a little bit of limbo. DD has been talking to other accepted students and thinks she found a girl she'd like to room with.

 

[wishesuponastar]

MomofKatie and wvmomof3 so sorry about the mean girls to your daughters. I hope your daughters are ok.

 

[wishesuponastar]

Has everyone made it through prom or is it yet to come? Dd's was this past weekend. There were sad tears, happy tears and ended up having a great time. Although Saturday morning, I was worried. Pictures were great and they had a great time at dinner and then six couples in all their finery went trouping through the mall to find two of the girls more comfortable shoes. 4 of the girls wore converse!

Our prom is next Friday. Glad your daughter had a great time. Funny about the converse.

 

[wishesuponastar]

Punkin sorry your daughter is going so far away. Hope her roommate works out.

Did anyone see that President Obama's daughter is taking a gap year then going to Harvard in 2017? I am guessing she wants to do some travelling first. I would have loved to offer that to my children.

 

[magsmum]

I just wanted to update. DS did an overnight at one of his visiting days and fell in love with the school. Unfortunately, it was not affordable at the time. We asked for a merit appeal and financial aid review there and, at his second choice school, the admissions officer initiated a review b/c DS was not awarded the top scholarship/honors program (although the school was extremely generous) and he wanted DS in that program. Both reviews were successful- second school did make the top offer along with a spot in the honors program, and first choice doubled their merit aid (it had been by far the lowest offer). The increase in the merit aid from the top choice school put it just in the range that we think we can afford. The financial aid office has been wonderfully supportive to deal with. We can all see how well DS would fit with that school, so the deposit went it and he is very happy. Just signed up for Orientation (June) last night and this weekend we will start to fill out information for the Disabilities Support office to hopefully transfer his 504 to the college setting! No prom, it was last year. He's getting the best grades ever (all As third quarter which sure helped with that merit appeal), and just got a job offer on Sat. It was a big week! Now, hopefully it is just smooth sailing. He has to complete on online language assessment in the next few weeks, but it all feels manageable. Sophomore daughter is already talking about what schools she wants to start visiting!

 

[WVMomof3]

Prom this weekend and AP tests this week and next. I think she is basically done with school since she has 6 AP classes so they are all pretty much done when the tests are taken. Official last day is May 17th. Graduation Memorial day weekend.

 

[jetskigrl]

Going to sign for an off campus apartment Saturday. I think we are both ready. A friend told me her theory about dealing with High Schiol seniors. They act in a way that makes you not so sad to see them go. My daughter has been quite self centered this year, and really detached from family life. I don't appreciate this selfishness. I am hoping some distance will make her appreciate her family a bit.

It is going to be a reality check for DD, for sure. She has always been pretty easy going but we do argue about the basic stuff (helping around the house, picking up after herself, etc). So I'm curious to see how she does when she has to share a small space with a dorm mate

Daughter chose her college on Apr. 29th. I need to ask her about getting a roommate. Physical is scheduled for end of June and the college wants 3 medical forms completed by doctor. Oh, daughter is going 3 hours away. How about everyone else how far?

DD just had to submit vaccination records and a TB test (which we still need to get done). DD is only going to be 14 miles away but she still hasn't driven on freeways so it is about a 45 minute drive on city streets (due to traffic). So we will probably see her a lot on the weekends.

Has everyone made it through prom or is it yet to come? Dd's was this past weekend. There were sad tears, happy tears and ended up having a great time. Although Saturday morning, I was worried. Pictures were great and they had a great time at dinner and then six couples in all their finery went trouping through the mall to find two of the girls more comfortable shoes. 4 of the girls wore converse!

DD's prom isn't until June 4th and I'm not sure if she is going yet. If she does, it will just be with her friends and she probably won't go all out on hair and makeup. I told her she needs to decide soon since there isn't much left in the way of dresses at the stores now (since theirs is so late). DD said that she wants to wear her converse too

 

[jetskigrl]

Prom this weekend and AP tests this week and next. I think she is basically done with school since she has 6 AP classes so they are all pretty much done when the tests are taken. Official last day is May 17th. Graduation Memorial day weekend.

DD is taking her AP English Lit test right now (fingers crossed). I wish we were that close to being done. We still have a long way to go.

 

[mjkacmom]

It is going to be a reality check for DD, for sure. She has always been pretty easy going but we do argue about the basic stuff (helping around the house, picking up after herself, etc). So I'm curious to see how she does when she has to share a small space with a dorm mate



DD just had to submit vaccination records and a TB test (which we still need to get done). DD is only going to be 14 miles away but she still hasn't driven on freeways so it is about a 45 minute drive on city streets (due to traffic). So we will probably see her a lot on the weekends.



DD's prom isn't until June 4th and I'm not sure if she is going yet. If she does, it will just be with her friends and she probably won't go all out on hair and makeup. I told her she needs to decide soon since there isn't much left in the way of dresses at the stores now (since theirs is so late). DD said that she wants to wear her converse too

Make her drive on the highway this summer. Dd19 was a reluctant driver (not sure how she even passed the test). She was afraid to highway drive, so DH got out there with her. She then transitioned to driving highways if she had someone with her, and this summer, will have to drive on highways alone. Ds18 was fine right from the start.

Also, encourage her to stay on campus on the weekends. Dd19 is only 40 minutes away, and also has a train option, but rarely came home her first semester, and transitioned better than some of her friends who came home a lot.

 

[jetskigrl]

Make her drive on the highway this summer. Dd19 was a reluctant driver (not sure how she even passed the test). She was afraid to highway drive, so DH got out there with her. She then transitioned to driving highways if she had someone with her, and this summer, will have to drive on highways alone. Ds18 was fine right from the start.

Also, encourage her to stay on campus on the weekends. Dd19 is only 40 minutes away, and also has a train option, but rarely came home her first semester, and transitioned better than some of her friends who came home a lot.

Thanks I think DH is planning some routes to get her on and off the freeway easily for practice. She just got her license on Friday (and she is a very timid driver too) so we will have her practice a lot this summer. I also told her I would pay for one more lesson if she is more comfortable learning freeway driving from a driving instructor.

I do have a feeling that DD will be spending some weekends at school since she will probably need the time in the studios.

 

[MomofKatie]

Thank you and Congrats to you and all the students!

Yes, 3 hrs will make her feel far away which is what she wanted. I have to look into if there is a bus to get her home for times we need that. How do you feel about your daughter being so far away? I wish my daughter would have went to the college an hour away mainly because it would have been easier on us to get her.

We are ok with it- she has been living 2 1/2 hours away for the past 2 years, so we are used to not seeing her often. Now, we will go 3 months between visits home, instead of 1. Of course we will miss her, but the drive isn't too daunting. My parents are about halfway between our house and school, so we can break up the drive. DD can also visit there if/when she wants a "home" weekend.