Here's how Christmas eve went with the DBF

[mudnuri]

The way it was suppose to happen...

I would go with the DD's to my family's christmas eve bash, and he was going out with a couple of friends. Then this morning- after the DD's did their gifts etc. and went to their dads, he'd come over.

The way it happened.

christmas eve, I went to my family's bash, he went out with a couple friends. We got home about 9, and DD8 wanted to know if he was going to come open the presents we got him. Remember- he doesnt enjoy christmas- so I wasnt' "suppose" to get him anything...

I called him and said dani wanted to see him before she went to bed...he came over, and opened his gifts- each time, glaring at me with the comment "when they leave tomorrow, your in trouble"

DD's were buggin bout presents...so we decided to let them open the gifts from me, play with them for awhile, then crash...and thats what we did.

So things didnt go as we planned, and he still enjoyed himself. He put together the stuff that needed assembly, and set up DD8's stereo....He's sleeping in the spare room, while the girls and I enjoy christmas morning....
I'll update later as to just how upset he is about the presents .....

Brandy

 

[kristen821]

Maybe he'll begin to make new traditions and enjoy Christmas again. I love stories with happy ending so please share.

 

[shortbun]

First year with my now spouse, I gave him gifts on Epiphany and explained the gift giving traditions. Fast forward 23 years and I got many gifts from him. lol Just smile and say, "yes, I've been a very bad girl this year!!!!"

 

[Marseeya]

Is he an atheist?

 

[Disney Doll]

Last time you posted about DBF and his dislike of Christmas, you didn't like my response of how I think he should start to suck it up, get over hi Christmas blah, stop giving the ex control over his emotions, and start living his life again, so I'm not going to say it again.

 

[mudnuri]

Last time you posted about DBF and his dislike of Christmas, you didn't like my response of how I think he should start to suck it up, get over hi Christmas blah, stop giving the ex control over his emotions, and start living his life again, so I'm not going to say it again.

no need to say it, he did it on his own, without me having to say 'suck it up and be a big boy"

There is the difference!

Brandy

 

[disneymom3]

Last time you posted about DBF and his dislike of Christmas, you didn't like my response of how I think he should start to suck it up, get over hi Christmas blah, stop giving the ex control over his emotions, and start living his life again, so I'm not going to say it again.

Well as I recall, Brandy also posted that he had brought over everything to make cookies and told the girls that Christmas was a sad time for him but he was going to work on it. Geez, he's a grown up, not a robot.

I would imagine part of the issue is the same one DH has for me. If I get presents for him and he does not shop for me, he feels guilty and like he is a big loser.

Let us know how the rest of the day went.

 

[mudnuri]

I would imagine part of the issue is the same one DH has for me. If I get presents for him and he does not shop for me, he feels guilty and like he is a big loser.

Yup, that happened here too...but the gifts were from my DD's, so it went okay....its amazing that men always do stuff like that....

The rest of the day went excellent, we didnt go to Okemo, as it had rained the past 2 days.....hung around the house, took the tree and decorations down which is something I always do on christmas day. Cleaned up the pine needles, went out for chinese, then went and saw Fun With Dick and Jane....all in all a very good christmas in my house!

The DD's had a good time with their dad, and are still on a christmas high, or at least they were at 6 when they called this morning to say hi LOL

Brandy