Help!!!!

[Mom21]

My funny story about this. My dd was in panties from about 22-24 months. However she would not poop in the toilet. I had pull ups in her drawer. When she needed to go poop, she would go and change into a pull up, poop, and then come and ask me to change it. I tried everything. She started preschool at 2 and 1/2. never pooped in her pants at school. Always held it until she got home and then straight to her room to change....LOL. I figured a child with that much control should be able to go into the potty.

So took her to Disney for her 3rd bday. After a day at the parks we decided to go to RaceRock Cafe. I had promised her we would go back to MK for ice cream and fireworks. Well in Racerock she started crying she had to go. We had to cut our dinner short and go back to the hotel. I told her I had no pull ups so if she didn't go then I would stay in the room with her as I was afraid she would go in her pants and there was no where to change her. You know what a pain it is to go from the hotel on a bus, then to the TC, then trying to get to the park.

So back to the hotel. I put up my feet and grab a book. She knew that meant business. I wasn't budging. I told my husband to take my stepson (then age 7). Well hubby went, then stepson went, then dd says, "I'll go Daddy." She comes back in about 20 seconds and tells me she went. I didn't believe her. Sure enough she went, so off to the park for extra special treats. Next day, no problem. Then we go home. As soon as we got home off she went for her pull ups. Needless to say those things went into the trash. She said, "But Mama, I only have to poop in the potty at Disney." Nope little girl....not so. LOL. So that is my tale of how Disney poopy trained my dd. Wow what a magical place. The promise of fireworks can do anything.

 

[brandylouwho]

Well, the no pooping thing was really getting on our nerves again. We started giving her more fiber and fruit juices, but it didn't seem to amtter.

So, we noticed DD often went and hid by her bookshelf to do the deed...so we put her little potty back near her books and she started going in the potty.

Now she realizes that it is much easier and cleaner to go in the potty, even the big potty, but she seems to need privacy, rarely goes when we are in the room with her.

Then, to help things even more, we spent the weekend with some cousins that are also young (5, 3.5 & 2). She was so excited to be a big girl like the other cousins that we had no accidents.

Now if we could only get her to go at daycare (I don't think she has EVER gone #2 on the potty at daycare). Then again, maybe she just doesn't have to go during the day.

This is all new..so I am praying she doesn't regress again.

 

[Mom to Jordan]

I don't think it's extreme at all, and I also wouldn't treat it as a punishment. The idea is self-sufficiency and teaching that we must deal with the consesquences of our actions. By age 3 (assuming the child has no physical or development issues) if a child is not potty-training it is an issue of control, not biology. If the child is making the choice to poop in their underwear, then they should also deal with the clean-up.


Agreed, I was getting ready to respond and then went back and read the child's age. That makes the difference. As long as he is deveoplmentaly on track in other ways, it is time for him to take some reponsibility for his action. Not pumishment, but natural consiquences. He poops in the floor, he cleans it up. Now if he was holding it, that can be a medical concern and would need to be handeled differently. DS went though a holding phase after he was #1 trained, but he was two. We just were patient and encourged and with in two weeks we were fine. DN was a holder and needed medical intervention of a stool softner to get through it but again she was two, not four. I think what ever you decide it is most inportant to stick to it. Not a pull up one day and not the next.
I would encourage lots of praise but maybe back off the bribes as they can get out of hand really easily.

Jordan's mom