Help with a ridiculous situation? (long, sorry)

[airhead]

...Mrs. D!!!! C'mon,you gotta feel bad for this chick. Pitiful....

 

[Toby'sFriend]

what was the story with LadyAurora?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

what was the story with LadyAurora?

Her signature says that she was LadyAurora. Not sure why she isn't any longer. She has step child(ren) from her husband, too.

 

[Disneyrsh]

We actually have tried very hard to get pregnant for a long time, and no go. I suggested that it should be a false alarm, and he said no, I'm "too far along." And I've had "morning sickness." I think he has his head in the sand about the results of this tale he's told.

***!???

That's just plain bad karma.

 

[Chicago526]

Well, the poster could be joking. But if not here's some advice (if she's still reading).

The only way I can think of to get out of this in a hurry, is to have DH say that it was a false alarm (your cycles got goofed up), and the "morning sickness" was a mild case of the flu, and you got a false positive on the home test. You just confirmed with your doctor, and there's no baby.

It answers all their questions, and doesn't make you or DH look like total idiots.

But you've gotta do it NOW.

 

[poohandwendy]

The only way I can think of to get out of this in a hurry, is to have DH say that it was a false alarm (your cycles got goofed up), and the "morning sickness" was a mild case of the flu, and you got a false positive on the home test. You just confirmed with your doctor, and there's no baby.

He doesn't even have to say that much. He can simply do what TM2 suggested, say "My wife has had some female health issues that suggested she was pregnant. Unfortunately she is not." Period. He does not need to elaborate further. As a matter of fact, elaborating is what got him in trouble in the first place...so he needs to keep it short and simply make it clear that she is not pregnant. And if anyone asks him for more details, he can say he doesn't even really understand the complicated medical aspects of it himself and then change the subject.

 

[psmomma]

How sad... that is all I can say. I don't know how or why he would get the woman he loves into a situation that will only cause pain, because she chose to go along with it.

 

[Chicago526]

He doesn't even have to say that much. He can simply do what TM2 suggested, say "My wife has had some female health issues that suggested she was pregnant. Unfortunately she is not." Period. He does not need to elaborate further. As a matter of fact, elaborating is what got him in trouble in the first place...so he needs to keep it short and simply make it clear that she is not pregnant. And if anyone asks him for more details, he can say he doesn't even really understand the complicated medical aspects of it himself and then change the subject.

An equally good idea. Either way, he needs to backpedal, and fast!

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL, the only reason I suggested toning down what you suggested (Chicago526) is that the OPs Dh sounds like he has foot-in-mouth syndrome...if he goes into it too far, it is more than likely she will have people sending flowers to help her through the terminal illness he concocted.

 

[phillybeth]

LOL, the only reason I suggested toning down what you suggested (Chicago526) is that the OPs Dh sounds like he has foot-in-mouth syndrome...if he goes into it too far, it is more than likely she will have people sending flowers to help her through the terminal illness he concocted.

Sounds more like her DH has Kate and Edith syndrome- he wants to have his Kate, and Edith too.

 

[mark&sue]

Perhaps he was wanting a baby so much he thought that if he said they were pregnant then it would happen and then he would not be lying. Maybe when he said she was he thought that she may have been. Perhaps she was late at that time and he told everyone she was pregnant.

He could always say it was one of those "phantom" pregnancies when someone who wants a baby so much imagines they go through all the symptons.

I feel sorry for the OP and hope she can sort this out.

Good luck


Susan

 

[OceanAnnie]

I feel sorry for the OP and hope she can sort this out. Susan

I do too.

 

[FSUGrad97]

Quote:

It wasn't two adults, by the way, only one. Thanks for reading.

OK, I've had enough. Thanks for your comments. Time for bed. I think I will just let DH handle his mistake, and if there are any further developments I will worry about it then.

I mean no disrespect by this, but what kind of response did you think your post would get?

 

[FSUGrad97]

OK, from someone who had a friend who is desperately trying to get pregnant, and has not been able to, I think any man who has been "trying" for years, and knows the disappointment and heartache that goes along the hope and desire that this will be the month and it's not, then you hope it will be the next month, and it's not, that that man would "be funny" about his wife being pregnant. Not to mention EXTREMELY insensitive to your feelings, here you are trying to get pregnant, with no luck, and he is asking you to "fake" something you have not been able to do.

As someone who suffered from infertility, it is NOT something you joke about. For the life of me, I can't figure out why the OP's DH would think of cooking up a story like this, ESPECIALLY if they were unsuccessful in their attempts to get pregnant.

 

[disneymom3]

My DH's coworkers would be worried about me giving birth in prison, because I would KILL my DH if he pulled some crap like that.

This whole thing is just wrong on so many levels. And OP, you may not have started this insanity, but you chose to go along with it, so you also share some of the blame.


Oh what a tangled web we weave when we lie about babies we didn't conceive.

Oh dear, Pepsi up my nose is not a good thing. Excellent post!! You stated this much more eloquently than I could have

 

[AdventurerKat]

Is this for real? This is some seriously messed up, um, stuff.

I have two children. If my DH ever pulled a stunt like that, he wouldn't be in a position to father any more.

 

[ellyn2000]

I hope this is a joke. If it's not, the OP is whacked. I don't lie for anyone, not even DH. Certainly wouldn't lie about being pregnant. I pity people who can't even be trusted to tell the truth about the little things......

 

[Blondy876]

As someone who has lost a baby I am disgusted that you would consider faking it. You and your dh have kept this going even if inadvertently, step up to the plate and admit a mistake was made and come clean.

 

[phamton]

I think you should take your own advice that you gave in another post. Just change "child" to "husband":

This is what you said here: http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=10043790#post10043790

"I believe SOME parents need to let the children learn consequences of their actions...sometimes the over-protectiveness goes too far. Of course, there are incidents where parents need to defend their children. But as an above poster said, prepare your child for the path, not the path for your child. Raise a responsible adult."



If you tell your husband to say you thought you were pregnant but had female problems and found out you weren't, then essentially you've enabled him to get out of his lie. You are being over-protective and not helping him to learn the consequences of his actions. Don't cover for him or you have just enabled him to pull another stunt like this. Hopefully, this will help him to become a responsible adult.

 

[Planogirl]

I agree that he should learn the consequences of stupid actions like this but not to the extent that he endangers his job. Losing a job is serious business and hopefully there's another way to make it clear to this guy that this is unacceptable and had better not ever happen again.