Help!-Who to send invitations to for Intimate

[jmarie9]

Hi,

I am struggling to figure out whether I should send invitations for our intimate wedding in December. It will just be 8 of us but there are a few people who aren't going because it is in Florida (basically my grandparents and SIL along with some of his family). We will be having a bbq in the summer for those people. Should I send out invitations to the people that can't go just so that they will be formally invited and so they won't feel excluded? How would I word the invitation? I am afraid that if I send them invitations they might change there mind at the last minute and decide to go. This would be fine except that the ceremony is at the WL and can only hold 10 people. Please help! I could use any input.

 

[Chickkypoo]

We had a good idea most of my fiance's family would back out and not go even though we gave them 2 years to save (We were right). We sent them invitations anyway so that they wouldn't feel left out or hurt.

 

[JandJ]

We were married at the WL too - it was SO romantic - you will love it

I knew we couldn't fit my grandfather or DH's grandparents so we just didn't invite them. I sent invites to the folks I knew would come and we could fit and we personally told the others "we're sorry but Disney's rules state blah, blah, blah" and then we made wedding announcements and a friend mailed them to everyone the day of the wedding. My grandfather said he wished he had gotten an invitation but I was afraid if he got a formal invite he may show up (even though he's in NY and not able to travel very easily) and not only could we not fit him but then DH's grandparents would have felt left out. It was just easier to not send them invites but to personally explain to them why they were not getting invites.

HTH!! Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding

 

[princessblueeyzes]

We were married at the WL too - it was SO romantic - you will love it

I knew we couldn't fit my grandfather or DH's grandparents so we just didn't invite them. I sent invites to the folks I knew would come and we could fit and we personally told the others "we're sorry but Disney's rules state blah, blah, blah" and then we made wedding announcements and a friend mailed them to everyone the day of the wedding. My grandfather said he wished he had gotten an invitation but I was afraid if he got a formal invite he may show up (even though he's in NY and not able to travel very easily) and not only could we not fit him but then DH's grandparents would have felt left out. It was just easier to not send them invites but to personally explain to them why they were not getting invites.

HTH!! Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding

We kind of did the same thing. I sent out invitations to our immediate family. to others that didn't get invited I blamed it on Disney rules and told them that after the vows and when we get back we are going to have a huge party for those not invited so that way they can kind of feel like they were a part of the wedding. I'll wear my dress again and we will rent a tux for DH then and make it kind of an informal thing so people can show up casually and comfortable.

I hope this helps you.

 

[JonetteA]

I would send invitations to immediate family and those that you know are coming. I would do your BBQ when you get home as an announcemnt of your marriage. Hope that that makes sense.