Help...What should I do?

[tnkr_bell]

I went to have lunch with my ds8 at school yesterday and he was sitting with another boy in his class who was asking him to come to his birthday party on Sunday. It's supposed to be a bowling party, but there was no actual invitation. I told him I would call his mom and ask her about it.

So what do I do at this point? Do I call the mom and tell her what happend and offer to pay for my son to join, or do I try to explain to my ds that since he didn't get an actual invitation he can't go. I don't know the mom at all, so I really hate to call and invite my kid to her sons birthday part. WWYD?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

That is a tough situation. I would probably tell son that you need an actual invitation.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I went to have lunch with my ds8 at school yesterday and he was sitting with another boy in his class who was asking him to come to his birthday party on Sunday. It's supposed to be a bowling party, but there was no actual invitation. I told him I would call his mom and ask her about it.

So what do I do at this point? Do I call the mom and tell her what happend and offer to pay for my son to join, or do I try to explain to my ds that since he didn't get an actual invitation he can't go. I don't know the mom at all, so I really hate to call and invite my kid to her sons birthday part. WWYD?

That's what I would do. I'd just explain it to your DS. No invitation, no party. The plans have been made already and if he didn't get an invitation, it isn't meant to be.

It's hard enough for children to hear about parties when they aren't included. But this is even worse, because it gives them hope that they can go. The child throwing the party doesn't know the details of hosting the party. He was excited and innocent in his asking. But there is no way I'd call the mother. No way.

I'd try to do something special with your DS.

ETA- The boy may ask his mother and she may call you. You never know.

 

[golfgal]

I always told the kids at that age that if we did not get an actual invite they were not going. They were also told not to discuss birthday parties at school. I wouldn't call the mom and say anything unless you are really good friends.

 

[momofboyz]

I also tell my kids, no invitation, no party.

 

[Diva of Dragons]

I agree with everyone else about no invite, no party. But, to keep DS from feeling bad toward his friend, I'd probably tell him it was really nice of the boy to want him there and that his parents probably only had a certain number of people they could afford to take.

 

[a1tinkfans]

I went to have lunch with my ds8 at school yesterday and he was sitting with another boy in his class who was asking him to come to his birthday party on Sunday. It's supposed to be a bowling party, but there was no actual invitation. I told him I would call his mom and ask her about it.

So what do I do at this point? Do I call the mom and tell her what happend and offer to pay for my son to join, or do I try to explain to my ds that since he didn't get an actual invitation he can't go. I don't know the mom at all, so I really hate to call and invite my kid to her sons birthday part. WWYD?

Tough one, but since the child "told" your son and invited him, I would reach out to the mom, you can always offer to pay for your son....but it can be a real learning experience for BOTH of the kids....as a learning experience, one has to understand that you should not be talking about your party obviously and in the reverse, you need to actually receive an invitation.....atleast the Party mom will know to speak with her child about the "social" norms She'll prob be mortified, I know I would...kids.........