CrAzY4DL
Mommy, you magic-ed my heart!
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So, both of my daughters go to a Charter School. DD9 has been going since she was 5, we love the school, the teachers, the mandatory Saturday Schools, personalized learning plans, the small class sizes, everything. For grades, they grade by number.
1-Below the grade level standard
2-Approaching the grade level standard
3-Proficient at grade level standard
4-Advanced at grade level standard
DD9 has never received anything below a 3 (haha she got a 2 this year on her penmanship, which is HILARIOUS because I am constantly nagging that you need to be able to fit more than 3 words per line and her teachers totally called her on it!)
Here is my problem-DD5 started school in August and has been doing great. Always understands her homework, is starting to read, picking up math really quickly, teacher is always excited and happy with her work, constantly get notes home every week-excellent reading today or great listening or just general kudos. My 5 year old niece is in same school just a different teacher and their conferences this past week were SOOOO different that I am a little perplexed.
Niece got all 3s and 4s, what I would expect from all 3 of these little eager beaver learners, is on reading level C (yay!) and doing great. Teacher lists to SIL all of the wonderful things that niece is doing well and what needs to be worked on, etc., everything you want and need to hear at an end of trimester conference.
My dd5's conference was just so....weird to me, I guess. First off, teacher says I hope you have questions because I don't have anything negative to say. Huh?! DD5 got all 2's and it totally floored me. I asked why she got all 2's and the teacher says-she knows and understands everything I have taught so far, but because I have XYZ things left to teach her, I can only give her 2's. Also, DD5 is on reading level A. Ok...I understand, everyone learns reading at a different time and pace, not a problem. Then she says EVERYONE in her class on reading level A, except for 6 students who are on AA, which is before A. Wha?!?!? In all of DD9's classes she has been at least 3 levels ahead of the "norm" for her classses and NEVER has an entire class been on the same level at the same time. That is so crazy to me! In the teacher comments section, teacher writes-Jyl has wonderful focus skills. The next trimester will be more difficult to reach all 4s. Umm how can it be MORE difficult for my kid to get 4s???
Am I way off base here? Please help!! I talked with hubby and he was flummoxed as well and wants me to speak with teacher when school resumes December 1st. I REALLY enjoy this teacher and we only have 2 kinder teachers at our school so it's not like I can just switch DD5 to the other class, as niece is in that class and they frown upon relatives being in classes together (for good reason!! these 2 get along 1 day and then argue the next! hahaha)
Thanks in advance for any and all help!! I guess what I am looking for on here is
1. Am I off base here? Unreasonable? I am not a grade hungry parent, don't feel the need to be constantly bragging on my kids. We teach our kids that school is their job and grades are their pay and I would hate for DD5s very first report card, she sees she has done all of this hard work and then gets very little "pay" for it, especially when we sing DD9's praises and accomplishments all these years.
2. If I am not unreasonable, what should I do? If it were your kid, what would you say to teacher?
1-Below the grade level standard
2-Approaching the grade level standard
3-Proficient at grade level standard
4-Advanced at grade level standard
DD9 has never received anything below a 3 (haha she got a 2 this year on her penmanship, which is HILARIOUS because I am constantly nagging that you need to be able to fit more than 3 words per line and her teachers totally called her on it!)
Here is my problem-DD5 started school in August and has been doing great. Always understands her homework, is starting to read, picking up math really quickly, teacher is always excited and happy with her work, constantly get notes home every week-excellent reading today or great listening or just general kudos. My 5 year old niece is in same school just a different teacher and their conferences this past week were SOOOO different that I am a little perplexed.
Niece got all 3s and 4s, what I would expect from all 3 of these little eager beaver learners, is on reading level C (yay!) and doing great. Teacher lists to SIL all of the wonderful things that niece is doing well and what needs to be worked on, etc., everything you want and need to hear at an end of trimester conference.
My dd5's conference was just so....weird to me, I guess. First off, teacher says I hope you have questions because I don't have anything negative to say. Huh?! DD5 got all 2's and it totally floored me. I asked why she got all 2's and the teacher says-she knows and understands everything I have taught so far, but because I have XYZ things left to teach her, I can only give her 2's. Also, DD5 is on reading level A. Ok...I understand, everyone learns reading at a different time and pace, not a problem. Then she says EVERYONE in her class on reading level A, except for 6 students who are on AA, which is before A. Wha?!?!? In all of DD9's classes she has been at least 3 levels ahead of the "norm" for her classses and NEVER has an entire class been on the same level at the same time. That is so crazy to me! In the teacher comments section, teacher writes-Jyl has wonderful focus skills. The next trimester will be more difficult to reach all 4s. Umm how can it be MORE difficult for my kid to get 4s???
Am I way off base here? Please help!! I talked with hubby and he was flummoxed as well and wants me to speak with teacher when school resumes December 1st. I REALLY enjoy this teacher and we only have 2 kinder teachers at our school so it's not like I can just switch DD5 to the other class, as niece is in that class and they frown upon relatives being in classes together (for good reason!! these 2 get along 1 day and then argue the next! hahaha)
Thanks in advance for any and all help!! I guess what I am looking for on here is
1. Am I off base here? Unreasonable? I am not a grade hungry parent, don't feel the need to be constantly bragging on my kids. We teach our kids that school is their job and grades are their pay and I would hate for DD5s very first report card, she sees she has done all of this hard work and then gets very little "pay" for it, especially when we sing DD9's praises and accomplishments all these years.
2. If I am not unreasonable, what should I do? If it were your kid, what would you say to teacher?



; the first teacher didn't allow talking so DS followed the rules and *still* couldnt please her. Turned out all his academic grades went way up too with the switch of K teachers. The second K teacher couldnt understand how his grades were so low. And it wasnt that the second K teacher had low standards or was lax, I think she was just more experienced with kids and realistic.