ChocoKat
Is there a 12 step program for Disney Addicts?
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OK... DH and I have been married for nearly 10 years.
As our 10th anniversary loomed we started to think of re-doing our wedding ceremony. The very main reason: Our first "wedding" (if you could call it that), was a terrible experience that ended up with me saying no vows, not really exchanging rings, and with every single detail of the whole thing being taken away from my hands and planned by third parties that I didn't even know!
DH and I got married when I had just turned 20, we were very poor, didn't have a car of our own, and barely made it to the end of the month. But we loved each other, so we decided to have a civil ceremony, a couple of witnesses at the courthouse, extremely low key. We promised our families we would make it up for them not being there and have a wonderful wedding re-do at a later date when we had finished school and had better jobs and money to pay our own way for a beautiful ceremony.
After so many years we finally can afford the wedding of our dreams, it will still be a very small affair, 40 to 50 people tops, and we will have it at Walt Disney World in Feb 2011 so all our friends and family can make it and have a wonderful time in one of our favorite places.
We had played with the idea of doing an on board ceremony with DCL, but then some of our friends and family wouldn't be able to make it or afford the cruise.
Now, here is the tricky part I need help and clarification with.
I have been doing some research on etiquette, etc to make sure I am not doing anything wrong, and found some sites proclaiming that a vow renewal should have NOTHING to do with an actual ceremony, no wedding dress (unless you are wearing your old one, which BTW I didn't even get to pick... long story), no cake no bouquet, no pump and circumstance that would normally be present during a wedding. In short "Your wedding ship has sailed, you don't get a second chance".
We are not planning some of the traditional wedding things, but we would like to have:
Is any of this a serious no-no, will I get scolded by my wedding coordinator?
We decided to go for a Fairytale Wedding to be able to customize as much as possible but without the stress of trying to coordinate what some of our guests would qualify as a destination wedding.
Any input?
OK... DH and I have been married for nearly 10 years.
As our 10th anniversary loomed we started to think of re-doing our wedding ceremony. The very main reason: Our first "wedding" (if you could call it that), was a terrible experience that ended up with me saying no vows, not really exchanging rings, and with every single detail of the whole thing being taken away from my hands and planned by third parties that I didn't even know!
DH and I got married when I had just turned 20, we were very poor, didn't have a car of our own, and barely made it to the end of the month. But we loved each other, so we decided to have a civil ceremony, a couple of witnesses at the courthouse, extremely low key. We promised our families we would make it up for them not being there and have a wonderful wedding re-do at a later date when we had finished school and had better jobs and money to pay our own way for a beautiful ceremony.
After so many years we finally can afford the wedding of our dreams, it will still be a very small affair, 40 to 50 people tops, and we will have it at Walt Disney World in Feb 2011 so all our friends and family can make it and have a wonderful time in one of our favorite places.
We had played with the idea of doing an on board ceremony with DCL, but then some of our friends and family wouldn't be able to make it or afford the cruise.
Now, here is the tricky part I need help and clarification with.
I have been doing some research on etiquette, etc to make sure I am not doing anything wrong, and found some sites proclaiming that a vow renewal should have NOTHING to do with an actual ceremony, no wedding dress (unless you are wearing your old one, which BTW I didn't even get to pick... long story), no cake no bouquet, no pump and circumstance that would normally be present during a wedding. In short "Your wedding ship has sailed, you don't get a second chance".
We are not planning some of the traditional wedding things, but we would like to have:
- Rehearsal type party to thank everybody for coming from out of town and even out of country and to introduce families to one another since most of my family has never met his and vice-versa (my folks lived either in Europe or across country, so they never got a chance to meet, only my FIL and my dad have met).
- Ceremony with most of the trimmings, I will not have a procession, no wedding party, I probably will walk up the aisle on my own or come from the side walking towards my DH. I do want to get a wedding dress, but I am in for the simple elegant not too princessy styles... still I won't say I won't change my mind later. We will exchange vows and new rings, note I never got to do that on my first go-around, the justice of the peace doing our ceremony was very elderly and jumped me over, so now it is a running joke that my DH is married to me, but since I made no promises I am not married to him.
- We will have a reception for everybody to have a wonderful meal and dance dance dance!
- We will not be asking nor expecting any gifts, we have all we need, and really the best gift our guests could get us is them being there with us since we didn't get to share this very important moment with them to begin with.
Is any of this a serious no-no, will I get scolded by my wedding coordinator?

We decided to go for a Fairytale Wedding to be able to customize as much as possible but without the stress of trying to coordinate what some of our guests would qualify as a destination wedding.
Any input?