HELP! Son just asked if Santa was real

[Poohbeck]

My sons are 5 and 7, so I know my time is coming too! Boo hoo.

I had read somewhere, maybe in a magazine:

"Those who don't believe, don't receive!"

I would love to use this line when my time comes. I will say something like some of you, talking about the spriit and magic of Santa is alive in all of us.

 

[disneychrista]

Originally posted by Poohbeck

"Those who don't believe, don't receive!"

This is a kinda rule in my house. My oldest DD is 13 and always gives me "the look" when talking about Santa. I just tell her if you don't believe then Santa doesn't come to you.

 

[Lora]

Originally posted by Poohbeck


"Those who don't believe, don't receive!"

Huh? My kids get gifts from Mommy and Daddy. Their eyes light up just like anyone elses. I just don't get it. I guess I'm just the weirdo here.

At WDW, I don't tell them the characters are people dressed up. They'll figure that out on their own. We visit with the characters and get the hugs and autographs, etc. But, I also have never told them to believe in magic. Sorry. That's just not my way. At least with the Disney characters, the fantasy is not wrapped up in another very sacred reality.

I get the impression that for those of us who don't "do santa", that you think we're denying our kids some kind of "right of childhood" or something.

 

[eeyore kelly]

I get the impression that for those of us who don't "do santa", that you think we're denying our kids some kind of "right of childhood" or something.

I don't think you are denying your kids a right of childhood. I think that it is just different strokes for different folks. I don't sit in judgement of anyone, because I hope no one sits in judgement of me. We all need to do what is best for our families.

I know the feeling though, I always wonder if those who don't do Santa sit in judgement of me for doing it.

 

[mbb]

their definite "This is what I REALLY want for Christmas" gift comes from mommy and daddy.

Why?
Because it dawned on me one day that their little friends ask for the same things...and fortunate as we are, DH and I can give our kids those things, and some of their friends parents aren't able to...so it avoids the "why did Santa bring that to me and not so-and-so?"

Our boys are six years old, and I'm hoping that we can have a little while longer with the real Santa...

You're right Shan..Magic does happen when you believe!

 

[Linnie The Pooh]

I have two kids who aren't old enough yet to ask me that, but at my house, we don't really get into Santa too much anyway because he isn't really what Christmas is all about. They know who he is, but that's about it. I let Santa take a back seat to this holiday, but when and if they ask me I plan to just tell them that Santa Claus is a symbol of good things.

If you are good, good things happen to you and this is what Santa stands for. We should try to follow rules and be nice and kind to others and in turn, we avoid bad situations. (Like jail or mean people etc.)

However, I do realize that even those who are good end up with bad situations thrust upon them. I haven't really figured out how to explain this yet. I still have a few years before my kids are old enough to start digging away at these things. Maybe I'll figure it out by then.

 

[Poohbeck]

Originally posted by Lora
Huh? My kids get gifts from Mommy and Daddy. Their eyes light up just like anyone elses. I just don't get it. I guess I'm just the weirdo here.

Don't get me wrong, of course my children get gifts from Mommy and Daddy, but they get gifts from Santa too. I'm just sayig that if they don't believe in Santa, they won't get gifts from Santa. My kids are also only allowed to "wish" for 3 things for Christmas and Santa usually does 1 or 2 and we do the others. And then ouf course we always give them things they didn't ask for but knew they wanted.

My childens eyes light up with gifts from us and from Santa! They are appreciative also. I am not judging anyone who "does" or "doesn't" DO Santa. I was just participating in the discussion.

Thanks.

 

[Sinclare]

I've been getting these kinds of questions for about a year and a half now from both my son and my nephew (mostly when they are together). I always answer with a question "what do you think?". That's all thats really important, to let them know that whatever they think is all right. They will figure it out on their own eventually, no need to rush them. Just let them know that it's ok to believe what they want to.

 

[jajuan]

WOW. First of all let me say that my son is very bright...but there must be something missing. He is 11 and still believes. He comes home every year and feels sorry for his friends that don't believe in Santa. He tells me all about it and that it is sad that they don't believe because they won't get anything. Yes...he still believes in the tooth fairy and Easter Bunny too. Maybe he is doing it all for me. We are very religious and celebrate the true meaning of Christmas...Santa is just a little fun on the side. If he really does believe, I shutter to think how he will react when he finds out the truth.

My dd(8) doesn't believe in the tooth fairy, but does believe in everything else.