Help...or don't Help!

[k8Davies]

Not that I'm paranoid or anything is this thread aim at me lol..

As I always tend to go off on a tangent - Like this one time, me, my brother and his wife pet dog..........

Don't forget "appys," "ressies," the "dinning" plan, grown men & women describing food as "yummy," and the worst - "littles" - which is even worse than "kiddos."

Also I am a grown women who says food is "Yummy" I even say "Scrummy" and refer to my "ressie" and my kid as the "little one"...

I think it adds to my British charm...Or I'm coming off as annoying, so very annoying lol

 

[HopperFan]

Yes, I don't get when someone gives a completely unnecessary answer like if ...
... Is there room for a pack n play in the bathroom? .... and someone says "I would never stay there with that many people, you have to move to a suite."
... Can I see Fantasmic then get to SWAGS in time? ... and someone says "I would go to Animal Kingdom for ROL, that is our favorite."
... I am really excited about CBR, tell me little known fun! ... and someone says "I would change your reservation to a deluxe if you want a nice trip."

BUT ...
You asked a direct question, you then got two very direct very firm answers from two respected posters ... at which point the thread could be closed. Honestly there was no reason for anyone else to answer .... but the additional answers that came up were trying to be helpful to make sure you got your value from your plan. Yes, "Free" Dining may change your perspective but again, it wasn't free and for some not the best choice financially. We prefer appetizers over desserts at most places ... and since we can not do what you asked, we stopped getting DDP. Especially since QS came with unnecessary boring desserts (new snack way is better).

Personally, as long as additional posts are not like the samples I posted .... bring them on. Maybe it's something OP had not thought of (we don't know) or maybe another reader (MANY read and don't post) will have their question answered or maybe a whole bunch of us who thought we were in the know will find out something new or maybe it just clarifies the OP's question because honestly, often it might take a few people to get to the actual question.

Discussion forum.... I enjoy the discussions and interactions. If a thread becomes uninteresting to me, I stop reading it. But often times I hear some great experiences, learn new things .... or just get a chuckle out of what some folks will say and believe.

Best way to get direct answer is a poll. Then you can skip the comments.

PS What is a "siggie"?

 

[bumbershoot]

YA missing the point......add a comment to the question...positive or negative.....dont redirect to another topic...that has no relevence.....thats all I'm saying!

The point Sharon was making isnthat just because it didn't end up feeling relevant to you it *might have*, and it might be relevant to someone else.

There are countless people who have gotten extra thoughts about dining plans and realized the plans weren't for them. Those people would be grateful for the extra thoughts. No one giving their time to help someone knows if that thought will be helpful to that person. But they put themselves out there just in case.

Just the other day.....someone asked about the best Italian on property....to which someone responded "if you really want great Italian food....go off property in Orlando to such and such" TOTALLY not what the poster asked. Just be helpful to what they ask....thats all I'm saying!

But maybe it WAD helpful. Maybe that person truly hadn't thought about it. Didn't know there was Italian offsite. Etc. maybe someone later came by and got an idea.

Did it hurt the op to get an extra answer? Likely not. But maybe it helped someone else.

I do see your point, if you wanted a very specific piece of information. On the other hand, a lot of the italian options on site are reported to be less than great, so, if the main point was good italian food, the comment about off site is useful, given that from the statement, we don't know whether good italian is the main point or on site is the main point, so, additional information is just designed to be helpful.

Exactly.

It's everywhere. Once I asked on a mom's group where I can buy the best gluten free nut free cupcakes. I got moms all over me suggesting I should be a responsible mom and made my own from scratch, with "helpful" recipe links. I wasn't even asking for myself! I think they really just wanted to pat on their own backs.

Or maybe they wanted to help you make sure there were no contaminants. Giving you recipes isn't a bad thing. How could it be a bad thing? Options are good.

 

[MickeyWaffles]

Well, I think one outcome from this post will be that you may get a lot less answers to your questions. Hopefully that means the ones you do get are as specific as you would like them to be.

People here are trying to be helpful. It's on you to weed out the "noise." Complaining about how people answer your questions is a sure fire way to not get any answered.

Again, I would be very specific in your original post when you only want input about specific things and no side conversations. It is natural for people to throw in their two cents and opinion based on experience.

I noticed in this very thread alone, some comments veered off your topic which is kind of funny because it goes against the whole point of your post. It could have turned into a whole thread on how people have nicknames for words. If that happened, would it really have been a big deal? Don't think so.

 

[kiford]

Just be helpful to what they ask....thats all I'm saying!

It's not clear if what was asked for was an "opinion" (referenced in the original post here) or actual experiences only. An opinion certainly implies to me more than Yes or No. However, unless someone says that they absolutely positively do not want any answers that do not specifically and only deal with the question that is posed in the exact way that it is posed, answers that are slightly off topic can be helpful to what is being asked. I have many times asked a specific question of someone (not just on the Disboards but anywhere about anything) and had an answer that made me rethink my question and situation and have been extremely helpful; I might have posed my question due to a narrow knowledge base and not been aware of other options or information. And, as others have pointed out, anyone reading the thread later will obtain a broader perspective on the issue. Given that this is a public forum where people tend to engage in conversations rather than just providing answers as though it was a helpdesk, I think that it's quite relevant for others to answer with more than Yes or No. I, for one, have been grateful for it many times and can make my own decisions about whether to accept, reject or ignore the response(s).

 

[2hapykdz]

Yep.

Some people can't help themselves.

If they are totally, 100% sure that the dining plan will not save you money, they don't care what the question is. They simply have to tell you that you won't save money on the dining plan.

If they live in a city where there are 100 great restaurants, they just know you won't be happy if you eat on property.

If they always stay off site, or on, they will tell you that staying off site, or on, is the only way.

If they make homemade bread, stay at home/ work outside of the home, bottle feed/breastfeed, their way is the only way.

Their way is the best and only way, for everyone.

The problem is, everyone is different. I live in a small town, where gluten free is pretty foreign. So Disney Dining is pretty special. I have a scooter, so Disney transportation is easier than driving. And sometimes the dining plan does save us money. But all of that isn't true for everyone.

Like you, @2hapykdz , sometimes I feel like I wish people would just answer the question then move on. And sometimes, I get into the side conversation. I need to stop it with the side conversations.

Thank you!

 

[Mousemom234]

I don't mind a couple of non-topic responses, but when it escalates into hijack mode, Holy Mousetails....

I've been known to post the entire question again.
It's worth it just to get away from the DramaLlamas who are POSITIVE you NEED the advice you never
asked for and isn't even relevant to the original question on a thread which is now 8 pages deep.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I feel your pain OP, trust me. It drives me crazy too.

 

[Nancyg56]

YA missing the point......add a comment to the question...positive or negative.....dont redirect to another topic...that has no relevence.....thats all I'm saying!

I don't think your point was missed. I do think that you simply do not want additional information of appreciate that others may, so you find the posts that expand the conversation to be unnecessary. I do not agree. The issue I have with posters who feel that they only need a narrow framework for their topic is that they posted a question on a message board that helps a lot of people, many who only read the posts, but do not interact. May long time posted here will offer additional feedback so that they also benefit.

I agree that if you want specific information and no additional thoughts, you should post a poll. You can ignore any comments from that point on. I bet you get plenty of comments though. This is the DIS! LOL!

Well, I think one outcome from this post will be that you may get a lot less answers to your questions. Hopefully that means the ones you do get are as specific as you would like them to be.

People here are trying to be helpful. It's on you to weed out the "noise." Complaining about how people answer your questions is a sure fire way to not get any answered.

Again, I would be very specific in your original post when you only want input about specific things and no side conversations. It is natural for people to throw in their two cents and opinion based on experience.

I noticed in this very thread alone, some comments veered off your topic which is kind of funny because it goes against the whole point of your post. It could have turned into a whole thread on how people have nicknames for words. If that happened, would it really have been a big deal? Don't think so.

Spot on! I know that there are a few posters here who I have "met" and I don't try to interact with them. I may answer the question, but even if I see a pitfall in the plan, I keep it to myself after having learned the hard way that additional discussion is not welcomed.

I honestly like the way conversations here evolve.