Help: My spouse will not stop overspending!

[The Mystery Machine]

True, I will be 45 when my youngest is a Freshman, but I wouldn't talk of having to split up kids, you know?

He may or may not have kids but I wish he would just be honest when we ask him.

 

[Saffron]

Sorry The Mystery Machine. The OP has another thread started where he/she is putting down people who shop at Walmart, stating that he's/she's down research on the demographics of the shoppers and Target shoppers are better educated, make more money, and K-Mart shoppers are the worst (because most of the people that answered him chose K-Mart over Target and Walmart) all sorts of rubish like that. My telling the OP to go shop at Walmart was just a little attempt at giving him/her a taste of his/her own medicine. I see it didn't go over so well.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

That is OK. I have avoided that thread out of FEAR!

 

[Sparx]

I am so confused. On the thanksgiving thread you said that no kids were INVOLVED, I didn't take it as you didn't have any, I took it as she wasn't going to take the kids with her. I may have taken that wrong. Now you are saying that they will live in a broken family, well...yeah. but why would you divorce someone you loved over MONEY? seems pety to me. BOTH of you need to go to marriage counseling, you for having issues with her family, her for having a spending problem.
Now I could be totally out of left field on this one, if I am PLEASE tell me.

 

[Lyn5]

#1 I am educated, have some wealth and I shop at Walmart. In fact, Walmart is my favorite store. I think I am smart enough to save money.

#2 In the Thanksgiving post, I was sincerely trying to help and was the one who brought up children to the OP. I also remember the OP going on about how children weren't involved.

#3 JMHO, from the threads started by the OP, I think the OP may have some issues. Who wouldn't with all the chaos and problems in his life?

 

[Sparx]

#1 I am educated, have some wealth and I shop at Walmart. In fact, Walmart is my favorite store. I think I am smart enough to save money.

I was thinking about that too. I missed the walmart thread (and the OP should thank his lucky stars for that one, from what I'm hearing about it! ) Whats wrong with walmart? I love walmart. Walmart is the major store in my town (I know, small town) But everyone who lives here goes to walmart! We don't have a target (yet, I think we might be getting one) and our Kmart moved away, so we are left with our great big walmart shopping center.

 

[Saffron]

You shop at Walmart? Well according to the OP you must be, and I quote "a bit rough looking" but if you shopped at Target "The Target shoppers are far more educated, likely to be working in professional jobs and have higher salaries than WALMART. THough KMART has an even lower demographic."

Now THAT's funny! Far more educated? Hmmm. Bwhahahaha! "Gee honey, you know I'm a lawyer and I saw some pretty rough looking teachers at Walmart the other day, best to stay clear of that store, no Halloween decorations for us this year. I *think* I saw some police officers over at K-Mart, nope don't want to mix things up with them either! This shopping business is just not for dummies anymore, when will they learn that! Now get your keys to the Bently and let's head over to Target!"

 

[Lyn5]

You shop at Walmart? Well according to the OP you must be, and I quote "a bit rough looking" but if you shopped at Target "The Target shoppers are far more educated, likely to be working in professional jobs and have higher salaries than WALMART. THough KMART has an even lower demographic."

That's odd, isn't it? I am a professional and at least DH thinks I am beautiful . I also will shop at K-Mart (I think here it is Big-K or something like that). I think it depends on your area...and the OP's city seems to change

 

[Lynn CC]

I think you could both benefit from watching Suze Orman. Her show is on Saturday evenings. Has your DW ever watched it, maybe it's a start in the right direction for both of you. The debt she is accumulating on CC and anywhere else is your responsibility too, even if you do divorce you will still be responsible for those bills. Sounds like she is not happy if she has to shop all the time for frivolous things. That's what Suze would tell you!
Good Luck, I hope you both can solve this problem, it will take a while though.

 

[Taylor]

Your biography lists you as a “High Level Executive”.

Your occupation lists “Vice President of Operations”.

With those credentials it is surprising you are not able to have some impact on the spending of your spouse. I’m glad you don’t run my company.

 

[debbiedoo]

Tammi is right! Busted questioner!!! Why do you post this nonsense here?

Post 18 from this thread....
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=935609&page=1&pp=15

 

[Saffron]

Your biography lists you as a “High Level Executive”.

Your occupation lists “Vice President of Operations”.

With those credentials it is surprising you are not able to have some impact on the spending of your spouse. I’m glad you don’t run my company.

Well than what the heck is he doing shopping at Walmart?!?!

 

[blowinbubbles]

#1 He makes no mention of children and his posts do not reflect children.

#2 He is also 49 and if he *did* have children the issue of splitting them up is not relevant because the kids would be in college.

Not necessarily. . I am 45 and my h is 47, and our younger kids are 8 and 10. I will be 52 and 55 when they graduate highschool!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

#1 He makes no mention of children and his posts do not reflect children.

#2 He is also 49 and if he *did* have children the issue of splitting them up is not relevant because the kids would be in college.

So then how is it possible for the kids to live in a broken home then....per the OP?

Post #9:

FROM THE OP:

I think the spending is a power thing on her part. She basically says WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT IT? If I divorce her:

I will have to divide up our assets
Will have to pay for an apartment and rental house just for myself
The kids will live in a broken family

She is controlling the situation because she knows there is little I can do. She refuses counseling and likes conflict.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

What do you mean? Send her to WalMart?

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=947244

 

[The Mystery Machine]

So then how is it possible for the kids to live in a broken home then....per the OP?

Post #9:

Huh? I don't get what you are trying to say?
Anyway I posted that he may or may not have kids, I just wish he would say so.
Perhaps you missed that.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Huh? I don't get what you are trying to say?
Anyway I posted that he may or may not have kids, I just wish he would say so.
Perhaps you missed that.

I violated one of the pet peeves of the pet peeve thread and didn't read the whole thing.

Your post I responded to said the OP made no mention of kids--in post #9--the OP made mention of kids (prior to your post).

 

[questioner]

From the OP:

I am not busted the thread about the overspending wife came from my brother who is visiting and using my DISBOARDS ID.

He is enjoying his replies while his wife is at the big Regional Shopping Mall. (Washington Square in Tigard OR)

 

[The Mystery Machine]

From the OP:

I am not busted the thread about the overspending wife came from my brother who is visiting and using my DISBOARDS ID.

He is enjoying his replies while his wife is at the big Regional Shopping Mall. (Washington Square in Tigard OR)

I guess that is good to know. Hope you are having fun!

 

[SGB13]

You are too busted. That or your brother is sitting in your lap at the computer! Look at you post history and the times. 8:40 this post (as your brother), 8:44 the Target/Walmart post (as you). And again later, one post and a few minutes later the other.