Help my Dh died.(Updated again post #218)

[dougsmom98]

I am so sorry for your loss. My friend's dad died two weeks prior to their annual beach vacation and one month prior to their extended family Disney trip. Both trips helped the family heal. Her mom bought each of the kids a WDW photo album with the year on it and they filled it with pictures from the trip. She said she wanted them to always remember the year that their father died. I am sure you will know what is best for your family.

 

[slo]

I am so very sorry for your loss

I wish I could give you advice on what to do with your vacation, but I just don't know. I pray that God gives you the direction you need, and also gives you and your family the comfort you need Whatever you decide, I"m sure it will be the right decision for you and your family.

Take care, and God Bless!!!!

 

[churchpilot]

God bless you and your children.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I only read some of the replies, as my eyes tear up and my heart goes out to you. I do think you need to wait to make this decision til after the funeral. Neither decision is wrong, you must do what is best for you. If the kids want to go, maybe your parents can take them.
But...I will say this....I don't know your husband, but I bet he'd want ya'll to still go.....

 

[kayc86]

I am so very sorry for your loss.You and your family will be in my prayers

 

[Tiffany_MommyOf3]

My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer 1 month before he died. He died on April 23. We live with my parents so to my kids, it was like losing their own dad. My mom and dad had been married for over 30 years! I totally understand what you are going through.

We ended up taking 3 short trips to Disney in July. I know its a few months after he died, but still really soon. It truly was something my mom needed to just get away. She brought the shirt he died in with us and she took a picture of it in the park at different spots - she looked funny doing it - but it was something necessary for her to begin healing. She also took a short few nights on a hotel on the beach by herself and took pictures of the shirt there. My dad was a beach bum - surfer, fisherman, just completely at home at the beach kinda guy. It helped mom with the healing to just be there - she felt close to him.

Maybe in a week or 2, take some time to get away by yourself and spend some time wherever you feel closest to your hubby. HUGS!!!! Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Involve family as much as possible to help you.

 

[angiedora]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree that you should still go, you may need to postpone a few weeks but don't cancel. Call Disney and see what they can do.
We lost my Mom two weeks before our 15 year anniv. trip. I know its different when it is your own DH, but I do feel like the children would benefit from getting away. Again, I'm so sorry, I'm saying prayers for healing and peace for you and your family.

 

[Camno's Mama]

I am so sorry...you are definitely in my thoughts.

I think you should take the trip if you can will yourself to go. It will be good time for you all to be together. It will be good for your kids to have something to look forward to. As long as most of the plans are made, you can just get on the plane and go. If they're not all made, have someone you trust help you.

Good luck and take care of yourself.

 

[Diznejen1]

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your loved ones. Keep your family close, and trust what your heart says to you.

 

[Fall1]

I am so sorry for you and your family....I'll be thinking of all of you.

 

[madonniac]

so so sorry to hear about your loss. That is a tragic circumstance.

My friend's father died the weekend before their big planned family trip. Her kids were extremely close to him. They saw him every day. She decided to make the trip because the kids needed it. It was planned and they were expecting to go and they needed normalcy. Perhaps you need it to see your kids having a great time. I think your DH would have wanted you to go.

I know if that happened to me, my DH would want us to continue on.

Wishing you the best (((hugs))).

 

[PrincessMama605]

So sorry for your loss.

I don't know what advice to give about your vacation. Maybe just take some time and think it over.

 

[Goofy'slady]

OMGoodness, I'm speachless. I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with the poster that said to get feedback from all the adults going on the trip and most importantly see how your girls are doing. Maybe the right thing to do is to go on the trip but see if there's anyway you can delay it a bit until things have calmed down. I don't know the end's and outs to all of the technical things you may have to do with the resorts, airlines, ect. but I'm sure something can be worked out. When everyone is ready a magical vacation maybe just what you all need. I'm sure your husband may even want his family to remember all the good times you had with him while in the Happiest Place on Earth.

My hearth and prayes go out to you and your young family.

T.

 

[hugabearjo]

Prayers have been sent. I can't imagine what you are going through. Please know that we are here what ever you need. I have to agree with not making the decision yet. please wait until you get through the arrangements etc to make the choice.

I will continue to keep your family in my prayers.

Hugs-
Jo

 

[PEANUT1]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My mom's brother died 5 days before our grand gathering trip that we had planned for 13 of us. My mom decided we should still go. It was a wonderful trip. There were tears of course, but it was nice to get away.

Only you can decide on whether or not to go. You may feel guilt if you want to go but don't....you and your children are going to have a tough road ahead and this trip may be a small light through the darkness.

 

[Crazy4Disney72]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I will pray for God's peace and healing for your family. As for the trip, I don't think there's a right or wrong choice, but I would get through the funeral before you make the decision. Again, I'm so very sorry for your incredible loss

 

[Cinderelly5507]

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family... I am so sorry for loss...

 

[DisneyKT]

I just wanted to say Im so sorry for your loss. God Bless you and your family.

 

[mpetti]

my heart breaks for you and your entire family. You should go on your trip. Maybe delay it, but don't cancel it. Speak with your family and see what they want. Make the trip in your DH's memory. I think it will help the entire family begin to heal. Just take it one day at a time. He will always be with you. God Bless.

 

[zurgswife]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I for one would say if the kids feel like they want to try I think it could be a very healing type of trip. I for one would probably continue with the plans even though it might feel strange and weird at times. For our family WDW was something we shared as a family so it would be something place we all would feel comfortable to try to heal.

I would take my cue from the kids. If the kids want to go then I think the other adults should support the family and go.