Help me!

[coolshannie]

I know this is probably not the best place to post this but I was hoping some wisdom of parents and adults could help me here. Well next weekend is homecoming, ( not this coming weekend ). I am a senior and had never been compelled to go but this year I really didn't want to miss out on anything. So I got asked and decided to go. The girls in my group, myself included, weren't supposed to be told what we were doing that night as too activities i suppose, well one girl found out that we are going to Fright Dome... I don't know if many of you know what it is but it is basically this amusement park dressed up for halloween, its incredibly scary. Not one girl in my group wants to do this. I personally get sick on roller coasters for one, can't stand scary things and will start crying on the dot I just can't tolerate things that are truly scary and neither can many of the girls in my group. None of us want to go to this, I mean not just for the fact that we don't find that to be something that we think we wouldn't be crying when we came out of but also thinking that we are spending money for dresses, to get our hair done ect. ect. and then we are going to a 'haunted' amusement park. The thing is none of us know how to go about this to where we wont sound rude if we told them we heard we were going to fright dome and really don't want to do that. I mean are we ( girls ) in the wrong here? I for one have nightmares for weeks whenever i see something remotely frightening, to compare this the movie Tower of Terror was scary to me.

 

[sweetandsassyfl]

No, you girls shouldn't have to do anything you truly don't want to do.

 

[mickeyboat]

Talk to your date personally and tell him you don't want to go to Fright Dome. I don't blame you, and he should understand. Are they planning this instead of a dinner? If the guys really want to go, can you just meet them at the dance?

Good luck. Dont' sweat it.

Denae

 

[chell]

Will your group have your own seperate transportation? I would make sure you do so that you do not get stuck into being "forced" to go. Simply tell them you are not interested that you want to do something else. Did you have anything else in mind?

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Try to start a conversation with whomever is planning it about amusement parks. You can mention your love of Disney. Then start talking about how you and your girlfriends would not like Fright Dome. It could work. Who knows?

Are you sure you got the correct information though? I would think that they would know that you are getting dresses and having your hair done.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Make sure that you have transporation available to you in case you need to go home or to a party elsewhere.

Perhaps their plans are not set in stone yet. Hint around that you cannot go to "Fright Dome".

 

[coolshannie]

I assumed they would know that we are spending time and money on dresses and hair as well but I am certain that is what they are planning. I have no idea what we are getting as of transportation or anything else as the boys in the group insisted on not telling us anything. The typical homecoming is dinner somewhere and an activity which could be so many numbers of things, there really are a lot you can do, and going to an Amusement Park really is not one that is typical especially for homecoming. There is just so much you can do here. I'm certain there will be a lot of questioning from here on out though. Because obviously we all assumed we were getting a limo or something in that category, but after this I'm not quite sure. And it isn't as if these are completely ignorant guys, they are very bright and so we assumed they would plan something nice... not something a few people might do on a saturday night.

 

[L107ANGEL]

around here parents will host an after party, is that an option?

 

[Handbag Lady]

Well, if the boys are dumb enough to think that going to a scary park with dates all dressed up with hair done, then the girls are smart enough to band together before you go to decide not to get out of the cars or limo once they get there.

I figure since you are not supposed to know where you are going, you can act any way you like once you arrive.

You can even be very gracious about it, too. Once you arrive at the scary place, tell you date you'd rather not go, thank you very much. Dinner out or a party at someone's house is more appropriate, anyway.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Well, if the boys are dumb enough to think that going to a scary park with dates all dressed up with hair done, then the girls are smart enough to band together before you go to decide not to get out of the cars or limo once they get there.

I figure since you are not supposed to know where you are going, you can act any way you like once you arrive.

You can even be very gracious about it, too. Once you arrive at the scary place, tell you date you'd rather not go, thank you very much. Dinner out or a party at someone's house is more appropriate, anyway.

we have a winner!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[coolshannie]

Well, if the boys are dumb enough to think that going to a scary park with dates all dressed up with hair done, then the girls are smart enough to band together before you go to decide not to get out of the cars or limo once they get there.

I figure since you are not supposed to know where you are going, you can act any way you like once you arrive.

You can even be very gracious about it, too. Once you arrive at the scary place, tell you date you'd rather not go, thank you very much. Dinner out or a party at someone's house is more appropriate, anyway.

This is truly the best answer I've heard. My friends and I are so upset that they would even think we would ENJOY going there. If they aren't going to change it I am certain nobody will be getting out of the car... either that or they may be looking for new dates...

 

[MoniqueU]

Well I know how you feel. I am totally not scared of roller coasters but I can't even watch ER or that movie the bucket list and they aren't even really scary just disturbing to me.

This doesn't even seem like an activity that goes along with homecoming. Someone needs to point that out to the guys. IF they want to go that is all fine and good. I am a mom to a teenage boy and he goes to knotts scary farm, but he does it with the football team and if girls just happen to come he is happy but it is a guy thing. If you can't speak up yourself see if one of your friends will.

 

[missypie]

My very first date. Age 16. I had flirted with this guy for 6 months and he finally asked me out. He took me to a violent Western type movie. I hated every minute of it. He didn't ask where I wanted to go or what movie I wanted to see. That was the end of the romance. Many teenaged guys think only of themselves...the girls just sort of tag along. You don't have to be that kind of girl.

 

[Mom2Nick]

Brace yourself dear - this is only the beginning of your education on how dense boys/men can be.... You will be dealing with stuff like this for the rest of your life. It will never end.....

I suggest you tell your date that you heard a rumor that this is where you might be going and you wanted to tell him that if that was the case you would prefer going somewhere else.

 

[Kirby]

It sounds to me that the guys really don't want to go to homecoming and have planned an evening doing something else instead without getting their dates input. Lot's of kids around here pass on the homecoming dance and do things like go bowling. I'd talk to them and get them to explain why they have planned an evening at a theme park instead of going to the dance. Personally, I wouldn't be interested in a haunted theme park either.

 

[disneyguy777]

I'm not exactly sure why guys would plan to go to a haunted theme park for homecoming, even if they think the dance is dumb (like how it is at my school), I think you should ask someone you know who's maybe not going with this homecoming group to ask whoever is planning everything about where they are going for homecoming, just out of curiosity, and then once they mention the theme park you tell that person to tell the homecoming planner person that that really doesn't sound like that great of an idea, especially for girls that are all dressed up and trying to look their best for a night they will remember, and then tell the person that maybe they should plan to go do something more serious (of course make them say this in a nice way). That way, nobody will know yo found out. If they decide to go to the Frightdome, I think you might want to double-check to see if these guys are really mature enough to know how serious of a night this is supposed to be, that's what I think IMHO. Good luck on finding a way out of this, hope everything goes well