I say this with great admiration for your determination over the past 20 years
to attempt to accomodate DMIL. Add that to your desire to please the unpleaseable DN's, you must be a SAINT
Now, STOP IT!!! I mean REALLY!! STOP IT!!! Please do not reward such gosh awful behavior be even worrying about DMIL's reaction to a gift. Who cares
She obviously has figured out this is a great way to get your goat. Wrap up a lovely scarf and be done with it!! If DH wants to jump in and buy her something else--well, it's a free country.
The DN's too--I mean it--STOP, STOP, STOP worrying about these children. I'd give them the gift of a gift card to the movies, or to the zoo, or to a play or concert aimed at a young audience. If their DM decides not to use it--too bad for them.
Focus on enjoying your holiday and thinking about building good memories with DH and your kids or your more appreciative family and friends.
Of course, there's always a drum set


Now, STOP IT!!! I mean REALLY!! STOP IT!!! Please do not reward such gosh awful behavior be even worrying about DMIL's reaction to a gift. Who cares

The DN's too--I mean it--STOP, STOP, STOP worrying about these children. I'd give them the gift of a gift card to the movies, or to the zoo, or to a play or concert aimed at a young audience. If their DM decides not to use it--too bad for them.
Focus on enjoying your holiday and thinking about building good memories with DH and your kids or your more appreciative family and friends.
Of course, there's always a drum set
