HELP! Ideas for Bachelor type party (clean)...raffles etc???

[pat fan]

Well

Did OP mention how old her son and future DIL are? To me video games at a bachelor party is quite childish.

They are geeks so video games, while not their thing, would not be out of place.

 

[NJlauren]

I think the term bachelor party is confusing some people. I think this is a stag and doe or just stag party, I've heard of that before.

What about seeing if you can rent some Xboxs or something and make a video game tournament. I like the corn holle idea. Is there drinking? You could do beer pong or flip cup. What about ring toss, or something go like that?

Sorry you need to plan this but good for you for compromising with the in laws, I think it will make the lasting relationship much easier.

You said hey are geeks, what are they into? What about a trivia type game with questions based on what they are into?

ETA can you do a theme? If hey are in to HP or game of thrones make that the theme, with games from that theme, trivia, drinks, food etc??? I may be totally off base here

 

[pat fan]

I think the term bachelor party is confusing some people. I think this is a stag and doe or just stag party, I've heard of that before.

What about seeing if you can rent some Xboxs or something and make a video game tournament. I like the corn holle idea. Is there drinking? You could do beer pong or flip cup. What about ring toss, or something go like that?

Sorry you need to plan this but good for you for compromising with the in laws, I think it will make the lasting relationship much easier.

You said hey are geeks, what are they into? What about a trivia type game with questions based on what they are into?

ETA can you do a theme? If hey are in to HP or game of thrones make that the theme, with games from that theme, trivia, drinks, food etc??? I may be totally off base here

You're not off base. She's into zombie movies (Old school but some new stuff too. She's a real movie buff. I think she has over 1,000 movies she's slowly been packing up to move to his place this fall. Thank goodness there is a spare room they can line with bookshelves!) and they are both into Marvel etc....the guys boutineers are having the lego Marvel characters attached to them and wearing corresponding socks The wedding favors are also little boxes with pretty ribbon with....Marvel shaped chocolates inside. Hey, it's what they're into and it's their wedding. It's not over the top, it's subtle and it's what they want.

 

[NJlauren]

You're not off base. She's into zombie movies (Old school but some new stuff too. She's a real movie buff. I think she has over 1,000 movies she's slowly been packing up to move to his place this fall. Thank goodness there is a spare room they can line with bookshelves!) and they are both into Marvel etc....the guys boutineers are having the lego Marvel characters attached to them and wearing corresponding socks The wedding favors are also little boxes with pretty ribbon with....Marvel shaped chocolates inside. Hey, it's what they're into and it's their wedding. It's not over the top, it's subtle and it's what they want.

I would have this party complement the wedding then, maybe see if you can get clips of zombie movies to play kinda like at sci fi, in the back ground.

Maybe some type of game based off that I'm positive google can help, or maybe the same ideas with Marvel, maybe your son will enjoy it more if it's themed around what he enjoys.

I love little touches at a wedding a like that, makes them unique and special. My best friend gave Legos as her favor!

 

[kimblebee]

You're not off base. She's into zombie movies (Old school but some new stuff too. She's a real movie buff. I think she has over 1,000 movies she's slowly been packing up to move to his place this fall. Thank goodness there is a spare room they can line with bookshelves!) and they are both into Marvel etc....the guys boutineers are having the lego Marvel characters attached to them and wearing corresponding socks The wedding favors are also little boxes with pretty ribbon with....Marvel shaped chocolates inside. Hey, it's what they're into and it's their wedding. It's not over the top, it's subtle and it's what they want.

My husband is majorly into Lego so our wedding cake topper was Lego figures he picked that looked like us lol

 

[Minnesota!]

OK, after reading further, and seeing some words tossed around, I know in southern Minnesota they do something called a hag and stag. I have never been to one, and have no real clue what they are like, but my BFF goes to quite a few more that she lives there.

Around here, dollar dances are must, and expected, at weddings. The only one I have been to that did not have it is mine...because I am too antisocial to have to dance with people and make up small talk.

Regional customs are super interesting to me and they are what make the world go round. It was just very hard for me to envision this as you first described it

Sorry if I was rude in a previous reply.

 

[scrapquitler]

So, my DS is getting married this fall (WOOT!) and our family has never done the bachelor party thing for ANY of the guys. Apparently it's a big deal on her side of the family. They usually do the thing where you sell tickets to the event and have raffles and the guys have to buy tickets for etc....The "etc" has me stumped. While it is her dad that really wants to do this, he doesn't have the time to plan it so it's falling to the fiance's mom & I to plan it. Can't do card games because it's in the church and you can't gamble (but raffle tickets is ok???) so I have no idea. The whole thing makes me squeamish because it's clearly stated to raise money for them and I think it's beyond tacky, but I guess people do this all the time. For the record, DS said in the beginning he didn't want this and he and the best man are just going laser-tagging, but I guess her family expects it, so he'll be very surprised when it happens!

Anyway, her dad suggested a movie, but we decided that would be too long for the guys to sit through, so what other activities could we come up with? There is going to be a meal and a couple raffle baskets.

This kind of thing is pretty typical around here. Everyone pays $20 or $25 to attend. There's a lot of food (usually it's burgers/dogs/salads or BBQ/sides) and beer/wine/drinks. It may be inside or outside, depending on the venue/time of year. There's usually a raffle, the prizes are usually mostly bottles/cases of beer/golf clubs/fishing equipment/gift cards/lottery tickets that guys would like to have and most of the time they sell an arms length of tickets for $20 or so. Prizes are donated by the family/friends and the money goes to the groom. Horseshoes, corn hole, bocce, and sometimes card games are played, maybe darts or pool depending on where they are having the party.

 

[mondragon]

This kind of thing is pretty typical around here. Everyone pays $20 or $25 to attend. There's a lot of food (usually it's burgers/dogs/salads or BBQ/sides) and beer/wine/drinks. It may be inside or outside, depending on the venue/time of year. There's usually a raffle, the prizes are usually mostly bottles/cases of beer/golf clubs/fishing equipment/gift cards/lottery tickets that guys would like to have and most of the time they sell an arms length of tickets for $20 or so. Prizes are donated by the family/friends and the money goes to the groom. Horseshoes, corn hole, bocce, and sometimes card games are played, maybe darts or pool depending on where they are having the party.

That actually sounds like fun but OP is having it in a church where most of those things mentioned are not allowed like liquor and any form of gambling (even though raffles are gambling since it involves chance and requires money) but I would not call this a bachelor party which is what the OP. Is calling it. It sounds more like a fund raiser.

 

[scrapquitler]

That actually sounds like fun but OP is having it in a church where most of those things mentioned are not allowed like liquor and any form of gambling (even though raffles are gambling since it involves chance and requires money) but I would not call this a bachelor party which is what the OP. Is calling it. It sounds more like a fund raiser.

Around here it's called a 'stag party'. The girl gets the shower, which gets her 'stuff' for the house, and the guy has the stag, which gets cash for the other stuff they need or to help pay for the honeymoon. It's no more of a grab than the shower, if you think of it that way.

 

[mondragon]

So is there a bachelor party or that's it.

 

[ColoradoDisneyFreaks]

So is there a bachelor party or that's it.

OP mentioned about 5 times that the groom and his best man are playing laser tag, which is what the groom wants for a bachelor party.

OP, I like the idea of darts, bring a couple of Wii or XBox consoles and have some games out, if someone has the dance party game, those tournaments can always result in a whole lot of laughs, especially if you can convince the older men to join in, they've got the sweet moves. I like ladder golf, and maybe if someone has a ping pong table they could bring that may not take up too much space either.

You could also do a nerd themed basket with an Avengers DVD, some socks or other wear, gift certificates to go see Age of Ultron, etc. Hope he has fun, it's really nice of both of you to help with this tradition, even though it may not be your thing.

 

[mr.bungle]

The best man plans the bachelor party and friends attend. It involves getting massively drunk and having a great time. What is described above sounds like a bridal shower. I feel bad for the boy. It's supposed to be "one last night of freedom".

 

[mr.bungle]

OP mentioned about 5 times that the groom and his best man are playing laser tag, which is what the groom wants for a bachelor party.

OP, I like the idea of darts, bring a couple of Wii or XBox consoles and have some games out, if someone has the dance party game, those tournaments can always result in a whole lot of laughs, especially if you can convince the older men to join in, they've got the sweet moves. I like ladder golf, and maybe if someone has a ping pong table they could bring that may not take up too much space either.

You could also do a nerd themed basket with an Avengers DVD, some socks or other wear, gift certificates to go see Age of Ultron, etc. Hope he has fun, it's really nice of both of you to help with this tradition, even though it may not be your thing.

The guy is getting married, not turning 10...

 

[pat fan]

The best man plans the bachelor party and friends attend. It involves getting massively drunk and having a great time. What is described above sounds like a bridal shower. I feel bad for the boy. It's supposed to be "one last night of freedom".

Well, he doesn't look at marrying her as losing his "freedom" so maybe that's why he doesn't feel the need to get trashed. And I am quite happy he feels that way. I feel sorry for the guys who do, and for their wives. What a way to start your life together

Around here it's called a 'stag party'. The girl gets the shower, which gets her 'stuff' for the house, and the guy has the stag, which gets cash for the other stuff they need or to help pay for the honeymoon. It's no more of a grab than the shower, if you think of it that way.

Thank you. I guess I made a mistake calling it a bachelor party. None of the guys in our family have any of these parties at all, so how was I to know what a furor the wrong word would create???

OP, I like the idea of darts, bring a couple of Wii or XBox consoles and have some games out, if someone has the dance party game, those tournaments can always result in a whole lot of laughs, especially if you can convince the older men to join in, they've got the sweet moves. I like ladder golf, and maybe if someone has a ping pong table they could bring that may not take up too much space either.

You could also do a nerd themed basket with an Avengers DVD, some socks or other wear, gift certificates to go see Age of Ultron, etc. Hope he has fun, it's really nice of both of you to help with this tradition, even though it may not be your thing.

That's a great basket idea! I think I'm going to do a coffee basket, everyone loves Dunkins! I know her mom is doing a tool bucket thing and I forget the other one. Maybe I'l do a b-b-q one or something as well.

The guy is getting married, not turning 10...

Not to pick on this statement, but this IS a Disney board, aren't we all 10-ish at heart??? What's wrong with that? I'd rather play at being 10 then act like an "adult" and get hammered and have a headache the next day while trying to remember if I had done something I would regret. Doesn't sound like fun to me.

 

[mr.bungle]

Well, he doesn't look at marrying her as losing his "freedom" so maybe that's why he doesn't feel the need to get trashed. And I am quite happy he feels that way. I feel sorry for the guys who do, and for their wives. What a way to start your life together it's a figure of speech.


Thank you. I guess I made a mistake calling it a bachelor party. None of the guys in our family have any of these parties at all, so how was I to know what a furor the wrong word would create???


That's a great basket idea! I think I'm going to do a coffee basket, everyone loves Dunkins! I know her mom is doing a tool bucket thing and I forget the other one. Maybe I'l do a b-b-q one or something as well.


Not to pick on this statement, but this IS a Disney board, aren't we all 10-ish at heart??? What's wrong with that? I'd rather play at being 10 then act like an "adult" and get hammered and have a headache the next day while trying to remember if I had done something I would regret. Doesn't sound like fun to me.

I have noticed more of a G rated attitude from people on here... Getting married is an adult thing. It's a big deal. Granted not everyone likes to drink but hey, it's a bachelor party! Live a little! And you won't have a headache if you know how to drink properly. Hydrate and eat... It's not rocket surgery.

The bottom line is, the kid is getting married. He needs to man up and communicate if it's something he's not into. Mom can't fight all his battles for him anymore. Will you be arguing with his wife for him later in life? If going to play laser tag is what he wants to do instead, then he needs to speak up.

And all the talk about not wanting to drink etc..l aside, it's fine to be sober and have a sober party. But just based off your posts I picture this to be more of a child's birthday party and not someone who is about to do a pretty adult thing like get married. Will they sleep in the same bed on their honeymoon? Or is that too adult?

 

[pat fan]

The bottom line is, the kid is getting married. He needs to man up and communicate if it's something he's not into. Mom can't fight all his battles for him anymore. Will you be arguing with his wife for him later in life? If going to play laser tag is what he wants to do instead, then he needs to speak up.

And all the talk about not wanting to drink etc..l aside, it's fine to be sober and have a sober party. But just based off your posts I picture this to be more of a child's birthday party and not someone who is about to do a pretty adult thing like get married. Will they sleep in the same bed on their honeymoon? Or is that too adult?

You must have missed the post where he said he's good with the party. I just...don't know what to say to the rest of your post. Not everyone is into drinking, not everyone is into bar hopping, or strip clubs. If he was into sports, maybe there would be a sports thing, like going to a ball game or something, but he's not. While this particular party is not what I would choose (not that I DID choose it) no one involved in it thinks it's childish at all! I guess they know how to have fun without all the other "stuff". And some do drink etc...but I guess it's not a requirement to a good time for them. To each their own!

 

[mr.bungle]

You must have missed the post where he said he's good with the party. I just...don't know what to say to the rest of your post. Not everyone is into drinking, not everyone is into bar hopping, or strip clubs. If he was into sports, maybe there would be a sports thing, like going to a ball game or something, but he's not. While this particular party is not what I would choose (not that I DID choose it) no one involved in it thinks it's childish at all! I guess they know how to have fun without all the other "stuff". And some do drink etc...but I guess it's not a requirement to a good time for them. To each their own!

I can't read all the fluff.

I don't see where I mentioned strip clubs or sports though... I don't enjoy those.

 

[pat fan]

I don't see where I mentioned strip clubs or sports though... I don't enjoy those.

Others had suggested a strip club was pretty much a requirement while someone suggested going to a ball game. I was just giving a mix of examples that people had given for "entertainment". Since you don't like strip clubs or sports I would hope those weren't included in an event given for you, and I would hope that things you enjoyed were included. Kind of like what is being planned for him

 

[DisReno]

These responses are so interesting and certainly show regional traditions...

First of all, I have to ask...is this a man or a boy who is getting married? I'm sorry, but by the time I met my husband, he was not playing laser tag or video games, and if he was, I wouldn't have dated him. He was playing golf, fishing and liked pro ball games. If a 'man' is playing video games, he's too immature to get married in my opinion.

Also, for years, a 'money' dance was a traditional part of the wedding. We had one at ours, but that was at the tail end of that tradition. I haven't been to a wedding that had a money dance in a long time. It's just one of those things that went out of style. Maybe some areas of the country still have them.

In CA, the only tradition for the groom is a bachelor party...and it varies. Golfing, a ball game, maybe a trip to Vegas. But nothing at a church, H*** no. LOL.

 

[mr.bungle]

Others had suggested a strip club was pretty much a requirement while someone suggested going to a ball game. I was just giving a mix of examples that people had given for "entertainment". Since you don't like strip clubs or sports I would hope those weren't included in an event given for you, and I would hope that things you enjoyed were included. Kind of like what is being planned for him

I was too drunk to care and I was 26. I had a good time given what it was. My next bachelor party will be even better.

Did OP mention how old her son and future DIL are? To me video games at a bachelor party is quite childish.

Like I said earlier, it seems like a child's birthday party is being planned by their parents. Not an event for an adult who is about to be married...