Corryn
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 24, 2003
I don't know what to do....
I have been waiting to attend MNSSHP for three years. We went in 2003 and I can't wait to get back.
My FIL and his wife own a condo on the west coast. They have been saying for the past two years we are more than welcome to utilize it. So the day SW came out with their fall schedule, I called him up and asked to use his place. He said, sure!
I booked the airfare and we were very excited, figuring what costumes to wear at the party, etc. My SIL and her family are also coming down, but they're staying with my BIL BF who works at Disney Hong Kong (he's coming back to visit with BIL & SIL. He owns DVC at Saratoga Springs and that's where SIL & BIL are staying).
Anyway, the next night we went over to my FIL's house to barbeque and he proclaims, I just booked our flight today, we're gonna have a great time!
I looked at him and then looked at my husband. of course, we weren't going to discuss it in front of my FIL and his wife, because that would have been rude.
But how rude is it to invite yourself on your children's vacation?
I understand it is his condo, but I feel we were trapped. He Never mentioned coming down while we were there. Never. I wouldn't have asked him to use his condo if I knew he was planning on being there!
But now, not only is he going to be there on the West Coast, he Invited Himself to MNSSHP!!! He even booked his Vistana timeshare for that week so he can be with us the whole time!!!!!
I am a loyal DIS'er and huge Disney fan. I relish my vacations and daily check the DIS boards for any new information or just to chat and like you, I cannot wait for my next Disney Vacation.
But things have gotten too heavy over here, and I have just informed my husband that if he does not straighten things out with my FIL, I am going to cancel my vacation.
That's right, I'm gonna CANCEL IT!!! Call me crazy, tell me I'm cutting off my nose to spite my face, but this man invited himself on our vacation!!
My husband is saying that he feels bad telling his dad that he doesn't appreciate the self-invite. I say his father is making me feel bad and stressed out by inviting himself. I enjoy going to his home for bbq's or just for dinner or holidays, and I don't mind inviting him over for the same, but we see each other often enough that I feel safe in saying I don't need him tagging along on our vacation!
Don't feel bad for this guy. He is always pushing his way on everyone. He is retired and has a large circle of friends. He's always doing something so it's not like he's lonely. He is always inviting himself over to my SIL's house, and he is very pushy, especially if he wants something.
Yet, no one is allowed to express their displeasure. He gets upset if someone confronts him over something he does.
I work during the day and I attend college at night. I just finished a very intense summer course in chemistry. I start my next class at the end of the month. I have been looking forward to my vacation. I feel I definitely deserve it.
This coming May, my family, my SIL and my MIL are going on DCL Magic. I am not sure if my FIL knows this, but I have a feeling he does and he's jealous that we are going with my MIL and that we did not invite him. I'm thinking this is his reason for inviting himself.
Listen, I really can't tolerate being with this guy for my whole vacation. I feel so strongly about this that I want to cancel it.
Okay DIS'ers, I need your advice,
What would you do?????
I have been waiting to attend MNSSHP for three years. We went in 2003 and I can't wait to get back.
My FIL and his wife own a condo on the west coast. They have been saying for the past two years we are more than welcome to utilize it. So the day SW came out with their fall schedule, I called him up and asked to use his place. He said, sure!
I booked the airfare and we were very excited, figuring what costumes to wear at the party, etc. My SIL and her family are also coming down, but they're staying with my BIL BF who works at Disney Hong Kong (he's coming back to visit with BIL & SIL. He owns DVC at Saratoga Springs and that's where SIL & BIL are staying).
Anyway, the next night we went over to my FIL's house to barbeque and he proclaims, I just booked our flight today, we're gonna have a great time!
I looked at him and then looked at my husband. of course, we weren't going to discuss it in front of my FIL and his wife, because that would have been rude.
But how rude is it to invite yourself on your children's vacation?
I understand it is his condo, but I feel we were trapped. He Never mentioned coming down while we were there. Never. I wouldn't have asked him to use his condo if I knew he was planning on being there!
But now, not only is he going to be there on the West Coast, he Invited Himself to MNSSHP!!! He even booked his Vistana timeshare for that week so he can be with us the whole time!!!!!
I am a loyal DIS'er and huge Disney fan. I relish my vacations and daily check the DIS boards for any new information or just to chat and like you, I cannot wait for my next Disney Vacation.
But things have gotten too heavy over here, and I have just informed my husband that if he does not straighten things out with my FIL, I am going to cancel my vacation.
That's right, I'm gonna CANCEL IT!!! Call me crazy, tell me I'm cutting off my nose to spite my face, but this man invited himself on our vacation!!
My husband is saying that he feels bad telling his dad that he doesn't appreciate the self-invite. I say his father is making me feel bad and stressed out by inviting himself. I enjoy going to his home for bbq's or just for dinner or holidays, and I don't mind inviting him over for the same, but we see each other often enough that I feel safe in saying I don't need him tagging along on our vacation!
Don't feel bad for this guy. He is always pushing his way on everyone. He is retired and has a large circle of friends. He's always doing something so it's not like he's lonely. He is always inviting himself over to my SIL's house, and he is very pushy, especially if he wants something.
Yet, no one is allowed to express their displeasure. He gets upset if someone confronts him over something he does.
I work during the day and I attend college at night. I just finished a very intense summer course in chemistry. I start my next class at the end of the month. I have been looking forward to my vacation. I feel I definitely deserve it.
This coming May, my family, my SIL and my MIL are going on DCL Magic. I am not sure if my FIL knows this, but I have a feeling he does and he's jealous that we are going with my MIL and that we did not invite him. I'm thinking this is his reason for inviting himself.
Listen, I really can't tolerate being with this guy for my whole vacation. I feel so strongly about this that I want to cancel it.
Okay DIS'ers, I need your advice,
What would you do?????