Help... DH doesnt want to go

[mapny90]

The fact that you have paid for the trip already doesn't sway him to go????

Anyway, DH doesn't like Disney either, although we are DVC members. DS and I go off to the parks without DH. DH hangs around the pool, goes to DTD or goes off-site (we always rent a car). The first visit was the hardest, but our compromise is that he doesn't have to go the parks all the time. He'll usually go to EPCOT World Showcase and AKL.

If the money doesn't sway him, I agree with the other posters - go yourself and have a fantastic time!!!

 

[Fourfun]

The fact that you have paid for the trip already doesn't sway him to go????

Anyway, DH doesn't like Disney either, although we are DVC members. DS and I go off to the parks without DH. DH hangs around the pool, goes to DTD or goes off-site (we always rent a car). The first visit was the hardest, but our compromise is that he doesn't have to go the parks all the time. He'll usually go to EPCOT World Showcase and AKL.

If the money doesn't sway him, I agree with the other posters - go yourself and have a fantastic time!!!

Nope.. He doesnt care. he just doesnt want to go. I know wants he gets there he is going to have fun. Who wouldnt. He loves the water.. that is one of the reasons I picked the POR. If he isnt having fun at the parks he can just sit back and enjoy the hotel "ALONE" I feel so mean saying that

 

[Harvest02]

Sounds like your DH is like mine! He doesn't enjoy Disney either! He is very anti-Disney(says it costs too much money). Our family of 4 is going in June, and hopefully that will include my husband. He is trying to think of all kinds of excuses for not going! Every time I talk about it, he tells me and the kids to have fun!!!! I hate his attitude, but like others on this board say, Disney is not for everyone. He has been working hard at work(13 hour days), so hopefully when the time comes up 77 days from now, he will be excited to go with us. If not, I plan to take my two kids, ages 9 and 5, anyway. My mom and dad used to take us on all kinds of vacations when I was younger, and that is the fun of childhood in my opinion! Those are the things I remember and cherish! I want my kids to experience the same feelings also, so I am sticking to my plan of leaving on June 9th. I have a feeling my mom would go instead of my husband won't go, but I am still holding out hope that my husband will be gung-ho about going!!!! We sure could use some family time together! Sorry this was long, but I feel your pain! Good luck!!!!!

 

[Brad&Kryssi]

First off...hi everyone! Just found this forum and will probably be adding it to my list of internet addictions, lol!

I have to admit...I went to Disney in January for my first time and I'm almost 40! Never wanted to go although my daughters went twice with the grandparents.

What happened? I LOVED IT! What started out to be a 3 day became an 8 day. We came home to NJ for a week and a half and...WE WENT BACK for another 2 weeks! (I love that my fiance's work is seasonal)

I wish you could just get him down there and then give him the space and time he needs to get acquainted with it all. This is what I needed and now I'm a freak. Planning our wedding down there and soon to be DVC members.

Just get him down there!!!! Good luck!

 

[Tiffer]

I now go w/ my Dm 65, DD 9 & DS 12 b/c my DH was such a pain in the a**. He always ruined it for me. BUT if you MUST take him, don't let him do more than 3 1/2 hrs ina park at any one time. take a break, together or apart inthe middle of the day to hang at the pool. Book a water craft or fishing, if he's into that. He can slo go play 18 holes while you guys enjoy the park.

 

[3mickeys&me]

My Dh likes Disney, Just NOT as much as me and our kids. He doesn't mind going once in awhile but not every year like I would like to. LOL I did however get him to do the 7 Day land and Sea Disney Cruise last May. He liked the land portion and had fun on the cruise portion but does NOT wish to cruise again LOL. I don't know why we had a BLAST and there was 18 of us in all. Way cool vacation.

If he doesn't want to go, I say go with out him. Its a shame because he most likely would have fun and make many lasting memories with you and the kids. I wouldn't let it stop me though. Can you get a friend to go with ya??

 

[Disneydreaming6]

Luckily I don't have this problem. My df loves to go to disney. Butttt, my sister's dh hates it. well not hate it but it's not his type of vacation. She told him one year she was going to book the dis vacation and he said see ya have fun. So she did. she filled the fridge, made sure he had clean underwear, packed up her son and off she went. My bro and family met her down there and she had a great time. The next year she told her dh I'm booking a dis vacation his reply was when do I have to take the week off?
I hope he changes his mind for your sake. Sometimes you just have to do things that aren't your cup of tea to make the other person happy. And if I had to suffer thru a vacation, there is no better place to have to suffer then at disney.

 

[Ghost]

Fourfun,

I'll go with you you just have to ask

I am a guy and a Disney addict! could go again and again...

 

[DVCDebb]

Your right go with out them or leave them sit in room. Did this the first year and once he decided we weren't coming back he met us in Magic Kingdom and the rest is history. Now he is big fan and telling everyone it was not what he expected. Even loves Typhoon Lagoon which we make a day out of every year now. Did Cirque De Solel and he liked it too. So Far I have managed to corrupt 5 families and 4 have joined DVC rather quickly. Have found that most people have no real idea what they are getting into until they go. But if they don't go without them and Enjoy.

 

[CinRell]

Well, I went in sept with my ex... and he complained about way too many things... I still had fun but he did make parts of my trip absolutely miserable. It did somewhat ruin the experience.

 

[HappyLawyer]

well, leave him at home and have fun

 

[Danestress]

Well, since he said you could and you have already paid for it, it's probably too late to just say "okay, let's stay home then." Personally, I wouldn't enjoy dragging my husband on a trip he didn't want to go on, nor would I feel right about spending that kind of money to go alone with the kids (unless DH really wanted me to and it wouldn't become a sore spot later).

How about keeping the flight but changing your Disney reservations to just 3 nights, and working in some time hanging out on a beach nearby, if that's more his speed?

 

[Lovemy3babes]

My husband is the same way! So....he's staying home while my mom, sister and nephew go with the kids and I.

 

[katied]

There's always hope. My DH went for the first time with me this past April. Before that, I went every year with my mother or with girlfriends. He loved it. I was back in December (work convention at BC) and he couldn't wait to fly down and join me. We stayed an extra weekend. We've already planned our trip for September. He's not happy about the heat, but it's the best time for us to go this year. So, the point is that there's hope. My DH waited until he was 38 to decide DW was for him (he even spent a day at Universal on our last trip, and agrees DW is best). Ask your DH to just give it a chance.

 

[Joann]

you know what? My hubby never takes time of work ( family bussiness) but he will take a week in the winter to go to the carribean. A few years ago went to cancun without the kids and he felt bad they never went away, so when we got home he said go book a trip to take the kids on, I was like wooowhooo ok 2 trips within a few mnths omg I am on it! I booked disney hubby had never been, not even as a kid! This guy is a person who is like , if I go away I want a beach kinda guy.... well after our trip to disney ( his first time there) This is now the only place he wants to go! He never wanted to go there but had no choice as he left the kids trip up to me.... I even lost out on the vote last year I wanted mexico and he out voted me on the family vote for disney! He loved it and even will take 11 days off to go there now every year! I think if you can get him there your DH will like it, mine did and I never would have thought he would. My DH loves rides tho so that helped aswell

 

[Kewz1]

My Dh was not a Disney person when we met. He had his preconceived ideas of what Disney was all about -- rides for little kids and lots of little kids. He was pleasantly surprised and has grown to really love the place. Last time we were there he looked at me in the MK and thanked me for introducing him to Disney.

I didn't read all the posts so I don't if this was suggested but have you considered ordering the planning video? Maybe this would help. Also, does he like to golf? WDW has some great courses.

I hope you get this all worked out!

Kristen

 

[themudd4]

My DH did the same thing before I "MADE" him go the first time. Now he is the one that decided we would go back this year instead of the cruise I was already planning. I created a Mouseoholic. Just make sure he knows you reallllllly want him to go, and trick and black mail him if possible. Tell him if he really wants to go sit in the sand...they have beaches at WDW too, or only about an hours drive to a "real" beach!
I love Kings Island too, but nothing beats WDW!

 

[Fourfun]

Thanks SO much for all your great stories and ideas.. Glad to hear my DH isnt the only insane person on the planet.... By the way.. I havent really been talking about it.. But last night I did get him to watch the disney Imagineers special that I recorded a week or so ago... He kept asking ..
Is that there??? Are we going to do that ?? That looks really cool !!!
Yeh !!! Maybe he will have a good time........ Thanks again...

 

[Brad&Kryssi]

^^^So glad to hear that!!!

Trust me...as a recently converted Mouseaholic, he'll learn (like I did) that there is PLENTY of adult style magic to be had.

Enjoy!
Kryssi

 

[Disney Girlie-Wirlie]

I only just got married almost a year ago and my DH and I don't have kids yet. We went to WDW for the 1st part of our honeymoon after my persistent begging. I think he agreed to it b/c it was our honeymoon and ya just can't upset the bride like that-not if you wanna stay married to her! Plus, I said we HAVE to go, we got engaged there!
I hope when we do have a family that we will be a Disney Family! I'm a Disney Girl and I'm working on him, even though he just doesn't get it. He likes it there and we have fun when we go, but he wouldn't exactly be in tears if he never went back ever again. He would go, but he wouldn't be the one to say "So honey, you wanna go to WDW"?

I've come to realize that I am always going to be the one to ask that question.
Last October, my twin sister and I went by ourselves and left the guys at home-we had such a good time! I can't wait to do that again! And my husband would have no objection to that at all. I think I have several Disney trips with my sister in the future.