Heartbroken ... miscarriage

[DianeW]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My dh and I had two completely normal, healthy pregnancies, and then four losses in a row...the last one being twins. It was hard, but going to see a miscarriage specialist really helped. After a whole lot of tests, he determined that my dh most likely had a gene that would cause us to miscarry 50% of our pregnancies, depending on whether or not the child we conceived had that gene. Science isn't good enough to tell you what the gene or the mutation is...only that it is "incompatible with life."

Knowing that made our next pregnancy easier (there was nothing I could do to prevent a miscarriage from happening), and fortunately resulted in the birth of a healthy, baby boy.

Best of luck to you and your wife with your future pregnancies. It's hard to conceive again because miscarriage is such a joy stealer, and early pregnancy now becomes a time of worry instead of celebration, but hang in there, almost every person who has a miscarriage goes on to have another healthy child. Even those of us who miscarried four times.

 

[pwdebbie]

I'm sad to hear of the loss of your baby. I have not walked that path but know others who have. The road is hard and you will never forget this little one. I'm praying for the Lord to comfort you.

 

[DisMs]

Prayers to your family and hugs from Texas.

 

[disney212]

So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

 

[TiggerificTigger]

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[hapandpam]

So sorry to hear this news. Thoughts are with you.

 

[disneyholic family]

i think one of the hardest parts of it is that other people who haven't been through it don't understand the intensity of the loss so you sort of feel alone with your grief.

i don't know if your wife tends to suffer from post partum depression, but if she does, she'll have it again now. So watch for that if she does get it. It will be more intense with a miscarriage, but should last for a shorter time.

we're here for you!

 

[raydurz]

Im really sorry to hear that. Thoughts and prayers are with you both.

 

[Joshua_me]

There are, of course, NO words to adequately express my sorrow.

But, I just hope in some small way knowing that the DIS community is surrounding you both with our love and prayers helps- if only just a little.

Please know that we are here, and the power of positive energy is surrounding you at this time.

Much love to you and yours,

Joshua

 

[pal-mickey]

Sorry for your loss

 

[Starclassic]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your family are in my prayers.

 

[misstheworld]

I'm so sorry for your loss. DH and I lost our first back in March and it was devastating. Praying for your hearts to heal.

And one bit of advice, give yourselves as much time as you both need to heal. Most who haven't gone through this won't understand, but it's been incredibly difficult for us to just jump back on the horse and try again.

 

[mdvlprof]

You need , lots of . Everyone thinks about the grief the mom is going thru, and forget there's another parent going thru the grief, too.

 

[pklein09]

I am so sorry for your loss. And I don't think you're "venting," you are mourning. DH and I lost our 4th child at 12 weeks after announcing it to the family. In my heart, it was a daughter. God blessed us with a wonderful son nearly one year later. While time has eased the pain (it's been 13 years), I have not forgotten my angel. Talk to your wife, cry with your wife, hold your wife and seek more help if you need it. Maybe she can read this thread and feel the "Dis Love" and know you are not alone. I send you my prayers, a long distance hug, and a hope that you find peace.

--Michelle

 

[jcarter29]

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you during this very difficult time.

Kim

 

[Iggipolka]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago and it was devastating. We also wanted a sibling for our first child. I'm now sitting on the floor with my 3 month old baby girl.

Let yourself grieve this loss, but don't give up hope.

 

[hockeymomNS]

I am so sorry for you and your family. There is no right or wrong emtion, how you feel is how you feel. I myself suffered several miscarriages and as a result have almost 6 years between my beatiful sons (oldest will be 25 on Tuesday).
Looking back which is easy to do now, had I not lost all of those babies, I wouldn't have my 19 yr old and that is unthinkable.
All the best and pop in here and vent all you like.

 

[Aburns8]

So sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing last year. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife.

 

[WaDiWo]

Again, thank you all! My wife, my DS, and I are keeping ourselves busy (museum, movies, etc) this weekend to kinda keep our mind off of things and cheer us up a bit. (Actually we did bot tell our DS6), but we will never forget. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, all of you who have experienced this and those who haven't, really your thoughts are greatly appreciated.

 

[Riverhill]

After my miscarriage I avoided going to the doctor for my regular check ups for 2 years. It may sound weird but whenever a woman goes to the doctor she usually has to fill out paperwork. One of the questions is: Number of pregnacies? followed by number of live births. I did not want to face these 2 questions. Last week I went to the doctor and once again had to explain the 3 pregs vs 2 children ( miscarriage or abortion? they ask)

Make sure she still goes to her regular check ups, my DH never caught on as to why I avoided the Doc. Just thought I would share.