He won't propose!

[taylor1293]

I've been married 23 years this Sunday. DH still hasn't proposed. Should I be worried??????

My DH and I have also been married 23 years this Sunday . He didn't purpose either!

 

[phorsenuf]

My DH and I have also been married 23 years this Sunday . He didn't purpose either!

Mine went like this;

Should we get married? I don't know, should we? I guess, if you want. Yeah, guess so. So when? I don't care, you? Doesn't matter to me. Ok, we'll play backgammon, whoever wins picks the date. Deal.

I won. Picked July 9th. Just celebrated 30 years.

 

["Cinder" Ella's Mom]

We did talk. I said I was concerned that our plans weren't going to happen because of time constraints and he said it would still happen. I asked if he had any hesitations or doubts and he said no, just to wait a little while longer because it would "all be worth it"... So we'll see I guess? [/QUOT
Trust him. He probably has it all worked out and wants to surprise you. You are ruining his one shot for a great proposal. If he has assured you it will be worth it, why don't you trust him??

 

[mom2rtk]

I'm thinking that if his father was recently diagnosed with inoperable cancer, that he might appreciate having a partner who stepped up and said "I'm there for you. I'm sorry I've been pushing on this wedding thing. I love you and am here to support you. The wedding can wait. If you want to discuss it because it makes you happy, that's great. But if you prefer to focus on your dad right now, I totally understand."

 

[racefanof88]

OK, for what it is worth here is my 2 cents. Today my husband and I are celebrating our 26th Anniversary so I guess we are doing OK!?!?

My husband and I were living together and I knew that was not want I wanted to do forever. We had never really talked about marriage, but I knew it was what I wanted. One evening, nothing special, I turned to him and asked him to marry me. I knew that our relationship had reached a point that we would either move forward with marriage or I would have to move forward alone. I loved, and still do, him more than words could say, but I wasn't prepared to just live together any longer. I wanted children, but I did not want to have children out of wedlock(old fashioned I know).

Obviously he said yes, and we have never looked back. I know every girl dreams of a surprise proposal, a big wedding with all the fluff, and a Cinderella glass slipper ending, but all that does not make a marriage. I planned my wedding in 2 1/2 months and my sister and I did all the food except for the cake.




I wish you the best and hope it all works out for you, but don't dismiss the possibility that he may think it is a done deal based on your conversation. Remember, men are just little boys in bigger clothing, they sometimes need you to spell things out exactly.

 

[bdcp]

DH and I married 32 years. The "proposal" went something like this: him: love me, me:yes, him: here ( the ring .5 ct). At 25 years, he really proposed, on one knee with a wonderful speech, bible verse included in front of the entire church on Christmas eve with a 2 ct diamond. I think I'll keep him.

That said, date set, etc. you are engaged. You should have set the parameters before you set the date. Otherwise, tell him you want a proper proposal.

 

[MidwayState]

Whoa! Did you marry Ron Swanson?

I totally just busted out laughing!!!

 

[WowLookAtThat]

I'm thinking that if his father was recently diagnosed with inoperable cancer, that he might appreciate having a partner who stepped up and said "I'm there for you. I'm sorry I've been pushing on this wedding thing. I love you and am here to support you. The wedding can wait. If you want to discuss it because it makes you happy, that's great. But if you prefer to focus on your dad right now, I totally understand."

Op, please listen to this advice.

I mean, I understand being a bride is an exciting time but at the moment you need to stand by your boyfriend because a wedding could be the last thing he is thinking of right now. A wife stands by her husband in hard times and at this time...you have to be a wife.

 

[KathyTX]

I think we've had enough drama here...