he was only 17....

[jenr812]

Oh how terribly sad!!! My thoughts and prayers are with your entire community!

 

[VioltePrincess]

just back from picking up mhy older dd at the school. it was really eerie. there they were, under the full moon., the parking spot roped off with traffic cones and "crime scene" tape. many of the kids borught candles, which they placed on the parking spot. the young man was Jewish, and some of his friends brought a Hebrew prayer book and read prayers.

my kids tell me there wasn't a single person in the school who hated him, that he was a real mensch.

the funeral is Tuesday.

 

[VioltePrincess]

from Newsday Teen killed in one-car accident
Newsday.com
October 7, 2006, 7:18 PM EDT


A Melville teenager was killed instantly Saturday morning after he lost control of his 2007 Mazda and hit a tree at a high rate of speed.

Jeffrey Spiegel, 17, of Melville was driving on the North Service Road of the Long Island Expressway and Homewood Lane in Dix Hills when the accident happened, according to a Suffolk County Police Department news release.

Police discovered the crash at about 7 a.m. and continue to investigate. If you have information about the accident, call police at 631-854-8252.

 

[Hannathy]

I think it is fine that they didn't tell the football team. What were they going to do about it and what difference would 2 hrs make. It is a couple of hours not days and they will have plenty of time to grieve. When my Dad died it was an hour before my DD's pictures for dance so we didn't tell her till after their pictures. Some of those atheletes may have scholarships riding on this season so in the long run that is more important than grieving for an extra hour. It may only be a game but if it is what they have dedicated their life to and are counting on it to get them into college it is as important to them as writing an a+ research paper is to the acedemically gifted student.


It has been a sad year, I have been to 2 children's funerals already and I hope I don't have to go to another one ever.

 

[momrek06]

Can someone explain to me why everyone is NOT to know about an accident PRIOR to a game starting... ...?????

What is the point of ALLOWING a football game or any game for that matter to take place at any school despite the fact a beloved student OR teacher has been killed in an accident... ...?????

OUt of respect for the family (of the lost one) all events should be cancelled immediately. (JMHO).

 

[momrek06]

just back from picking up mhy older dd at the school. it was really eerie. there they were, under the full moon., the parking spot roped off with traffic cones and "crime scene" tape. many of the kids borught candles, which they placed on the parking spot. the young man was Jewish, and some of his friends brought a Hebrew prayer book and read prayers.

my kids tell me there wasn't a single person in the school who hated him, that he was a real mensch.

the funeral is Tuesday.

So sad...so very sad. My prayers go out to Jeffrey's family as they suffer at this time in his loss.

 

[aprilgail2]

Can someone explain to me why everyone is NOT to know about an accident PRIOR to a game starting... ...?????

What is the point of ALLOWING a football game or any game for that matter to take place at any school despite the fact a beloved student OR teacher has been killed in an accident... ...?????

OUt of respect for the family (of the lost one) all events should be cancelled immediately. (JMHO).

I agree....its only a game, who cares if it is cancelled, postponed or forfitted...a child died, that should take preference over a dumb game!!

 

[VioltePrincess]

Can someone explain to me why everyone is NOT to know about an accident PRIOR to a game starting... ...?????

What is the point of ALLOWING a football game or any game for that matter to take place at any school despite the fact a beloved student OR teacher has been killed in an accident... ...?????

OUt of respect for the family (of the lost one) all events should be cancelled immediately. (JMHO).

I think you misread what I wrote.

the game had already started when we found out. the mother came up to the high school and spoke to the administrators just before the coin toss. (I don' t know where she found the strength to do that.) I am fairly certain they were extremely sensitive to her wishes. even at halftime, when the principal made the announcement over the loud speaker, a lot of people in th ecrowd hadn't already heard the news. the game couldn't be postponed, if the game didn't continue, our team would have forfeited. that would have affected our standings for the entire season.

the administraotrs were between a rock and a hard place, weren't they?

 

[Hannathy]

As sad as it is life can't stop for everyone because someone dies. Sorry life goes on.

 

[WDWfan36]

 

[VioltePrincess]

and if your child lost his chance at a scholarship because a "dumb game' was cancelled, how would you feel?

I'm sure that the game would have been postponed if that were possible.

all the homecoming activiites were postponed -- no halftime show, no band, no dance team, no announcement of the king and queen or the winning class skit/float, no cheerleaders chanting and doing their stunts. it was very somber in the stands.

no matter what the administration did, they'd have somebody angry at the decision.

 

[momrek06]

I think you misread what I wrote.

the game had already started when we found out. the mother came up to the high school and spoke to the administrators just before the coin toss. (I don' t know where she found the strength to do that.) I am fairly certain they were extremely sensitive to her wishes. even at halftime, when the principal made the announcement over the loud speaker, a lot of people in th ecrowd hadn't already heard the news. the game couldn't be postponed, if the game didn't continue, our team would have forfeited. that would have affected our standings for the entire season.

the administraotrs were between a rock and a hard place, weren't they?

I completely UNDERSTAND that...but there are times when there has been a loss of life and schools STILL decide to go ahead with their games. That I do not understand at all. And you hear about it later, that they decided to tell the team AFTER the game so as not to ruin their concentration on the game. What about the family with the loss...I would think their concentration would not be all that clear either as they deal with a family loss...?

(JMO).

Still as we stay on topic...prayers and hugs for this family as they plan a funeral and burial for their 17yo son.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I'm sorry for everyone's loss. Prayers and pixie dust. ​

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

How tragic. My thoughts and prayers are with the students and parents of that young man.

 

[poohandwendy]

My son is only 17 too. This is obviously every parents worst fear, how horrible.

It's very hard for teens to deal with the death of a classmate and friend, I have been there. At a time when the future is full of hope and promise, they suddenly are faced with the cold reality that sometimes that life can be extinguished in a split second, far too soon. It's really difficult to understand, it just doesn't make sense.

My deepest sympathies and prayers go out to his family and friends.

 

[JimFitz]

Life is fragile. Live for the day.

The poor parents......

 

[stinkerbell_&_Co]

How sad! I'll be thinking of the family and friends...

 

[Nancy]

I think you misread what I wrote.

the game had already started when we found out. the mother came up to the high school and spoke to the administrators just before the coin toss. (I don' t know where she found the strength to do that.) I am fairly certain they were extremely sensitive to her wishes. even at halftime, when the principal made the announcement over the loud speaker, a lot of people in th ecrowd hadn't already heard the news. the game couldn't be postponed, if the game didn't continue, our team would have forfeited. that would have affected our standings for the entire season.

the administraotrs were between a rock and a hard place, weren't they?

Plus, we don't know what the Mother said, maybe she asked for the game to continue because her son would have wanted it that way.

As the mom of an 18 year odkl that just got her license and and soon to be 17 year old who takes her road test next week this is my biggest fear.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

I'm so very sorry!

 

[Pooh93]

I am so sorry for the devastating loss of that young man. I have watched and stood beside a dear friend of mine who has been walking a living hell the last year and a half since her beautiful, vivacious daughter was killed on graduation night. I know my own life and the way I view many things has not been the same since the accident happened. My thoughts and prayers are with that family and your entire community.