He finds the "F" word offensive, but not....

[Papa Deuce]

the "N" word! Oh, and BTW, the "F" word is FART!

Yep, FIL can drop the "N" word at a drop of a hat, but told my daughter that the "f" word is not very nice, and is offensive...... explain that one.

 

[CEDmom]

Can't explain it but I do know he wouldn't be seeing my child with that kind of mouth.

 

[Mermaid02]

I'd have a HUGE problem with him as a person in general- let alone a GRANDFATHER. What does your wife say?

 

[jan/cape]

I think using the 'N' word shows a person's age and when they grew up Not that it is by any means right to use that word!!!

The 'F' Word in our house is call Fluff, as in oh man, the dog just fluffed

 

[Sparx]

I hate the N word with a passion. I can understand that that is what they grew up hearing, but my god. Welcome to the new world. Old habbits die hard, but they die.

 

[N&B'smom]

Ohhhh, I would not be able to tolerate anyone using that word in my presence. I actually can't stand foul language of any kind but I find that one to be one of the most offensive words. I wouldn't have my children around a mouth like that either. I would worry about the message it's sending to the kids.

Shelby

 

[Papa Deuce]

I'd have a HUGE problem with him as a person in general- let alone a GRANDFATHER. What does your wife say?

Well, nothing really, as long as he doesn't say it in front of the kids. I have told him that it won't be tolerated near my kids, and that if he does say it he will have to leave. Wife doesn't like my saying that, but I feel I have to for the kids sake AND his sake. I mean, if I teach my kids that racsim is unacceptable --- I will, and I do --- what will they think of the old guy?

 

[Papa Deuce]

I think using the 'N' word shows a person's age and when they grew up Not that it is by any means right to use that word!!!

The 'F' Word in our house is call Fluff, as in oh man, the dog just fluffed

Yep, he is 83.... and grew up in a TREMENDOUSLY racially divided area.... Gray's Ferry, in Philly.

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

The "N" word is never used in our families. EVER. MIL has issues with the "Fart" word though. Never understood it, but she doesn't use the word cr _ _. She was a high school teacher, too, and I know both word are used publicly in schools. I never got it.

 

[Crankyshank]

I tend to take this with a grain of salt when it comes from senior citizens. My Grandfather uses words like that on occasion but not so much as his Mother did when she was alive. She didn't mean it as a racial slur - it was a socially accepted term for the longest time when she was growing up. Just like the C word was also used to refer to African Americans, as well as other terms we would never use today without being hateful and bigoted.

**NOTE** I am not saying using that word is in any way acceptable - just that I personally don't get bent out of shape when people use them for the reason stated above.

 

[dustysky]

can someone please PM me what the C word is??

 

[dustysky]

Thank you fr the PM's ............ both words are gross!

 

[Beth76]

My MIL uses the N word and she definitely means it in a derrogatory manor. Fortunately, she's quiet about and I haven't even heard her use it. But DH has. She better not think about saying that in front of my kids.

And she once slapped her other grandson for saying "Dammit" when he was like 3 or 4. Again, I think she probably knows better than to do/say anything like that around me.

 

[GeorgeG]

While some words may indicate an older or different culture where such words were commonplace, I would hope age is not considered an excuse. People should evolve with cultural changes and lose some bad habits along the way.

I can swear with the best of them at times, but I like to think I have better control and common sense these days, especially in mixed company. I am perplexed, however, at how many of the younger generation, including women, seem to have included the "F" word into their day-to-day vocabulary, even in professional settings.

Come to think of it, we have really messed up the English language over the years, haven't we?

 

[Shutterbug]

I was at WalMart this week. As I was looking at something on a shelf, I started hearing these two people using the "N" word. I looked up and it was two teenagers saying it.
Oh by the way these teenagers were NOT white and they were tossing that word around like it was nothing. On the other side of me was a mom and young daughter(about 10 I think) The mom looked really bothered by it.

 

[JVL1018]

I don't think the "n" word was ever acceptable.
My grandmothers used to call black people "colored", not in any way as a racial epithet but because when they grew up, that's the word that was used. The older one changed with the times and stopped using it, my other Gram didn't.


My FIL said, after our neighbor's son was born with Down's Syndrome", Oh I heard the baby is a Mongoloid. DAD! Don't say that! He really had no idea that wasn't what he should say.
He also called biracial people "mulatto", again, not knowing it wasn't a word that should be used.

My grandmothers were born in 1902, 1910 and my FIL was born in 1927--and they ALL knew/know that the N word is an insult and always was. So no matter how old you are, if you are alive now, you should know it was/is an insult.

 

[Darian]

I don't think the "n" word was ever acceptable.
My grandmothers used to call black people "colored", not in any way as a racial epithet but because when they grew up, that's the word that was used. The older one changed with the times and stopped using it, my other Gram didn't.


My FIL said, after our neighbor's son was born with Down's Syndrome", Oh I heard the baby is a Mongoloid. DAD! Don't say that! He really had no idea that wasn't what he should say.
He also called biracial people "mulatto", again, not knowing it wasn't a word that should be used.

My grandmothers were born in 1902, 1910 and my FIL was born in 1927--and they ALL knew/know that the N word is an insult and always was. So no matter how old you are, if you are alive now, you should know it was/is an insult.

I completely agree. Its extreemly important to change with the times and not offend. There is one thing about the "N" word that confuses me and hopefully someone on the DIS can explain this to me. Why do so many black americans use the "N" word to describe themselves and other blacks? If its wrong to use that word then why do they use it? I've heard Bill Cosby speak and he denounced that practice... so its clear not all blacks feel its ok to use the N word. Could someone please educate me? Thanks in advance!

 

[Planogirl]

I think that this is a great opportunity to teach kids about what is acceptable and what isn't. The older generation sometimes uses these old words and they don't always mean harm but it is a bit disconcerting.

As for black kids using the 'N' word, I hear that a lot too. I wonder what's up with that?

 

[Buckalew11]

I tend to take this with a grain of salt when it comes from senior citizens. My Grandfather uses words like that on occasion but not so much as his Mother did when she was alive. She didn't mean it as a racial slur - it was a socially accepted term for the longest time when she was growing up. Just like the C word was also used to refer to African Americans, as well as other terms we would never use today without being hateful and bigoted.

**NOTE** I am not saying using that word is in any way acceptable - just that I personally don't get bent out of shape when people use them for the reason stated above.

This is the way it was with my grandmother who was 91. She called Arican Americans the N word--not as a racial slur but I guess that once upon a time it was the word that they used. I didn't hear her say it often but I always confronted her about it when it did happen.

1 1/2 years ago she had hip surgery. Her nurse was African American and sure enough, Nana said something about the "little N girl" tasking care of her (in a good way, she was complimenting her but still...) I had to get on to her and also apologize to the nurse who told me that it was OK, she took Nana's age into consideration and she understood where she was coming from. She did add that the younger generation of whites wouldn't get off so easily. I just felt like the nurse was very understanding and that it takes a mighty big person to be that understanding.

 

[Darian]

I think that this is a great opportunity to teach kids about what is acceptable and what isn't. The older generation sometimes uses these old words and they don't always mean harm but it is a bit disconcerting.

As for black kids using the 'N' word, I hear that a lot too. I wonder what's up with that?

Anyone have any ideas about this?