having problem with grown man calling 10yr dd

[mommytoe]

My 10yr dd was given a cell phone back in July since she is going places with the church youth group a lot.

Well, this past weekend a grown man started calling her. At first he only spoke Spanish and she could not understand what he was saying. He calls multiple time a day.

Last night my dh took her phone with him to answer it. The man would just hang up on dh.

Today the man spoke English. He wanted me to tell him my dd's name. I told him there was no way I would give him any names or info. He said, "I speaking English."
I said, "yes, you are speaking English. Thank you."
man said, "I Mexican."
I said, "that is nice. I like Mexicans, but still don't want you calling my dd."
The conversation kept going like that till he finally thanked me and hung up.

His number isn't coming up on the phone so we can't stop his number from calling. What should we do? I don't want this man or any man calling my 10yr dd. For now I have taken her phone from her so she can't answer it.

He has been told not to call. I was very nice, but would not answer his questions about my dd or let him talk to her.

 

[SteveInBrooklyn]

That sounds really creepy. I'd call your local police precinct to see what they think.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I would have the number changed immediately and instruct daughter to NEVER speak to someone she doesn't know.

She needs to be taught that it is okay to simply hang up the phone. Why are you worried about being rude, you don't know this person, either. It is very rude of him to keep calling in the first place.

 

[Master Mason]

My guess is your daughter got a phone number that had been given to someone else which is why this guy has it.

Call your cell company explain the situation and get your daughter a new number, they won't charge you for the switch.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I would get a new cell phone number for her ASAP!

 

[Boo'sMom]

I would have the number changed immediately and instruct daughter to NEVER speak to someone she doesn't know.

She needs to be taught that it is okay to simply hang up the phone. Why are you worried about being rude, you don't know this person, either. It is very rude of him to keep calling in the first place.

 

[Rora]

I would get her a new cell phone number pronto and tell her not to answer any call from a number she doesn't know--if they really need to talk to her OR they know her, they'll leave a message.

That's really creepy!!

 

[gottaluvPluto]

I would call the police. This is just sick and he could be a sexual predator. If he calls again, try to get his name and age. Then ask where he meet your daughter, just grill him. That is your daughter and you have a right to ask all the questions you want and to be rude. Does your daughter know who he is?
Anyway, call the police ASAP.

 

[daisax]

Simply change the number. My sister got a new phone and evidently the last guy to have it was a drug dealer because she got some mighty interesting calls the first few days. She called the police and they didn't care and just told her to change it. The phone company didn't care and did so without a fee.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I have a feeling the police would just say to have the number changed. With no number coming up on the caller ID there is nothing that they can do. And unless she gave her number out the person probably has no idea it is a young child's phone. It sounds like it is either a wrong number or an issue with whoever had the number before--most likely just a wrong number. The language barrier is making it more difficult to sort out. The guy calling is probably just as confused about what is happening as you are!

Just get a new number and keep monitoring her calls for her protection.

 

[Imzadi]

She needs to be taught that it is okay to simply hang up the phone. Why are you worried about being rude, you don't know this person, either. It is very rude of him to keep calling in the first place.

I agree. Your daughter is going to learn from you. If you are polite & don't hang up on him, why should she? Where is she going to learn that from?

Also, call the police. Just because you can't track the phone call & what his number is doesn't mean the police can't do it. They have equipment & can locate the cell towers which are placing the calls to DD. This man sounds like a sexual predator.

 

[sha_lyn]

I know for our "land line" there is something we can dial that will notify the phone company of a harassing call. Contact your cell phone company and find out if there is something you can do to report/flag the last incoming call as harassing.

 

[a1tinkfans]

My 10yr dd was given a cell phone back in July since she is going places with the church youth group a lot.

Well, this past weekend a grown man started calling her. At first he only spoke Spanish and she could not understand what he was saying. He calls multiple time a day.

Last night my dh took her phone with him to answer it. The man would just hang up on dh.

Today the man spoke English. He wanted me to tell him my dd's name. I told him there was no way I would give him any names or info. He said, "I speaking English."
I said, "yes, you are speaking English. Thank you."
man said, "I Mexican."
I said, "that is nice. I like Mexicans, but still don't want you calling my dd."
The conversation kept going like that till he finally thanked me and hung up.

His number isn't coming up on the phone so we can't stop his number from calling. What should we do? I don't want this man or any man calling my 10yr dd. For now I have taken her phone from her so she can't answer it.

He has been told not to call. I was very nice, but would not answer his questions about my dd or let him talk to her.

Not sure WHAT service you have but you should IMMEDIATELY call them and explain situation, they most certainly CAN get the number he is calling from. In addition, there are also TRACKING services, similar to *69 (which gives you last incoming (unblocked) numbers. The call can be traced, then if HE calls more than twice, POLICE literally track him down and can arrest him, it is SERIOUS business.
PLEASE don't ignore this or worse yet, have your daughter feel she is somehow punished by taking the phone away, I'm sure you explained how wrong it is to get the crazy calls, right.
Not to whine on and on, but things can turn fast in situations like this, unfortunately I have first hand knowledge with a niece, years back.
Keep us updated. Good Luck!

 

[Hercules10]

Have your daughter set up a meeting with him and when he shows you and your hubby be there instead with baseball bats.

That idiot caller knows the score and now he's just being antagonistic.

I know ya'll won't do the baseball bat thing so I would go with changing the number.

 

[Wishing on a star]

This is serious business, an adult stalking a child...

YES, these calls should be able to be traced.

Contact the police immediately.
It will probably require a court order thru law enforcement.

It may be necessary to keep the phone number intact, so that further incoming calls from this creep can be verified and traced... Either way, if you want your DD to have a phone, you might want to get her another one. I simply would NOT let her have this phone in her hands, and risk her answering one more single call from this creep.

Surely there is some way that this can be worked out with the cell provider, with the police' assistance.

I would take action right away.

 

[Imzadi]

Have your daughter set up a meeting with him and when he shows you and your hubby be there instead with baseball bats.

NO! Do not involve your daughter in such a thing. That's what undercover cops in the Sexual predators unit are supposed to do. That is their job. And then they will show up & arrest this pervert. If he's Mexican, he may also be here illegally.

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

I would FIRST, cancel that phone number and get a new one. THEN i would call the police and ask if there is anything they can do. That you think someone might be following your daughter???!!!

IF it were me, I WOULD BE taking dd to school and picking her up and everywhere else until I got this sorted out.
And...I would involve my daughter. I would tell her what is going on, and let her know your feelings about it.
This is a SERIOUS thing. She should walk into this situation INFORMED.

 

[sha_lyn]

Not sure WHAT service you have but you should IMMEDIATELY call them and explain situation, they most certainly CAN get the number he is calling from. In addition, there are also TRACKING services, similar to *69 (which gives you last incoming (unblocked) numbers. The call can be traced, then if HE calls more than twice, POLICE literally track him down and can arrest him, it is SERIOUS business.
PLEASE don't ignore this or worse yet, have your daughter feel she is somehow punished by taking the phone away, I'm sure you explained how wrong it is to get the crazy calls, right.
Not to whine on and on, but things can turn fast in situations like this, unfortunately I have first hand knowledge with a niece, years back.
Keep us updated. Good Luck!

ITA.... IMHO while just changing the number is the quickest and easiest way to stop him from calling, it won't deter him from going after another child.
It should be reported ASAP

 

[Missy1961]

This sounds like a wrong number/language barrier problem to me. Simply explain the situation to the cell company, get the number changed, end of problem. And in the future, if she doesn't recognize the number, she shouldn't answer it.

 

[Imzadi]

I would FIRST, cancel that phone number and get a new one. THEN i would call the police and ask if there is anything they can do. That you think someone might be following your daughter???!!!

The police can't do anything once the number is disconnected. Right now, it's the OP's word against his. They do not currently have proof he's done anything, or has intentions of doing something. The police actually have to listen and monitor a call from him and document how often he calls. That's why you need a police undercover cop (who sounds like a young girl,) to answer the call & ask this man why he keeps calling.

Read, The Gift of Fear by Gavin-Becker. He is the LEADING security expert in the country. 260 positive reviews and Oprah's own security advisor. You can bet she gets a lot of nutcases. Gavin says very specifically NOT to disconnect the existing phone number. The police need it working.

For all you know, OP, this may may have seen your DD and is watching her. He may have gotten the number from someone at church, off a contact sheet. he may be closer to DD than you realise. Disconnecting the number will drive him underground. The faster the police figure out who he is, (harmless or bad,) the better for all involved.