Having a tough day ... any divorce survivors out there?

[EdiePA]

I'm having a very tearful day and trying to hold it in, but it isn't working. I think it might be because it's close to one year since my ex left. Also, it is almost the date of our anniversary.

I thought I would be a lot further emotionally than I am now after one year. I just feel like I've been smacked up beside the head this week with emotions.

Plus, it's Homecoming weekend and my son is on the court. I want to be happy for him, but I'm tired of going to things alone, etc. Plus, it means my ex will be in my face.

Okay, enough of my pity party!
Any suggestions?

TIA

Edie

 

[mickey65]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}


Try to do something for YOU....maybe buy yourself something nice, or do something that helps you stay connected to your spirit.

 

[helenabear]

No advice here, only {{{HUGS}}}

 

[snowball22]

Go buy some chocolate peanut butter chunk ice cream and indulge. After your chocolate fix, prepare a hot bubble bath and play some tunes from your highschool days and just relax. I promise you that things will get better as time passes. The first year is the hardest but it does get easier.

 

[SonjaB]

Ditto the other posts.....also, give yourself some time to cry if you want to, divorce is like a death and takes time to sort through and move past. Mourning is necessary and takes its' own time. Don't beat yourself because you think you should be "over it" by now. Give yourself a break. Things will improve over time, I promise, but for now, let yourself have a little while to grieve, then do something nice (maybe even different and exciting to break the rut) for yourself.

 

[Serena]

Edie,
I haven't gotten as far as you, but my advice is to feel what you feel, regardless of what it is at the moment. It's okay to be sad, angry, happy even. Don't worry about it, you will get through it.

For me writing things down helps to get me through things, sometimes I write it hear for all to see, sometimes I write it on a piece of paper and throw it away when I'm done.

{{{hugs}}}

 

[Goofball]

I wish I could help. {{{{Hugs}}}}

 

[holycow]

((((((((((((((Hug))))))))))))))))for you EdiePA

Have you tried writing your feelings down(in a book) that might help...and have you tried getting out and doing something fun...like joining a club?....I've found if I get outdoors I don't feel so bad....

good luck!

 

[disfanatiks]

{{{hugs}}}

I divorced my husband six years ago after 14 years of marriage. Although, I was the one who left there still was a void of sorts. My X was very very devestated. But now 6 years later...my X is remarried and has a 2 year old DD and I remarried just this year. Long story short...we are both happier than we have ever been.

Hang in there....There may be something so much better for you than you had ever imagined.....

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

{{hugs}}

take some time to do something special for yourself.


hook up with other single women and have a social life.


come here and vent if you need to.

I left my husband 8 years ago today. the first few days...weeks..months...are tough, but it does get better.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Any kind of anniversary date can be rough. And what I've found (and other widows) is that the anticipation of it is usually worse than the actual day. You'll get over the slump. Good luck!

 

[Dan Murphy]

My best for you, Edie. {{Hugs}}