Having a bad mommy week...

[ChrizJen]

Do you ever wonder if you're doing an OK job parenting your kids? Do you ever have days when you just feel like you're doing everything wrong, and that you're ruining your kids? I'm having one of those weeks. I've been short on patience, and DD4 has been really irritable because she's coming down with a cold. I feel like I'm losing my temper and yelling all the time. And then after I do, I feel really awful.

Sigh...OK. Just wanted to get that off my chest.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Do you ever wonder if you're doing an OK job parenting your kids? Do you ever have days when you just feel like you're doing everything wrong, and that you're ruining your kids? I'm having one of those weeks. I've been short on patience, and DD4 has been really irritable because she's coming down with a cold. I feel like I'm losing my temper and yelling all the time. And then after I do, I feel really awful.

Sigh...OK. Just wanted to get that off my chest.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

We've all been there. Don't worry. You do the best you can at each moment. Just like your daughter will have good days and bad days, so will you. As far as messing up our kids . I wonder all the time and honestly, I don't think I'll know whether I did it right or not until she's an adult. Until then I keep my fingers crossed and keep doing what I feel is best for myself and my daughter. Whenever I lost it and yelled at my child (undeservedly) I always made sure to apologize and try to explain that mommy was having a bad day and didn't mean to take it out on her. Teaches them something about admitting when you're wrong and that apologies never go out of style. Good luck and I hope better days are ahead for you soon!

 

[punkin]

I'm having a bad mommy year.....so I sympathize. I am hoping it will get better soon.

 

[NaLisa]

Yep, I have those days/weeks. My go-to in such situations--a fun break for the two (or three) of us (if the misbehavior hasn't been too bad but is mostly a case of irritability). Playing a game, watching a movie, baking cookies together, going for an ice-cream cone, etc. Just a bit of time to remember that we love and care for each other and that we'll get through the rough spots.

 

[nellyru]

I agree that we've all had those moments.

And I too do the same thing, once things have cooled down I make sure to talk to my children about what has taken place and to let them know that I'm sorry and that I love them very much.

Give yourself a bit of a break when you can and try to relax and meditate. Take time to unwind and be there for what is going on in your mind/body/life.

 

[MusiqChic99]

I felt like that last night. I wanted him to be in a hurry because I was just so tired.

So after I felt bad, I let him lay with me in my bed and we sang songs until he was sleepy enough to go to bed. It's hard to think of songs when you are really tired by the way. LOL

 

[minkydog]

Welcome to parenthood. We've all been there, done that. I used to tell my kids I turned into a wicked witch after 8pm. Which was pretty much true--I don't want to see grubby little faces and grubby little hands after 7:30pm. And there were some days that I didn't want to deal with them at all. But of course, you do it anyway because you're the MOM. Hope the next few days are a bit better.

 

[rie'smom]

Any honest Mom or Dad will admit to feeling or to having felt as you do.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Oh yea...I have 2 dd's 20 & 14. Hang in there.

 

[SaraJayne]

I have a teenager. I totally understand.

 

[cats7494]

I completely understand! Don't be too hard on yourself. We all have rough patches!

 

[Jeniferdwn]

Just go back to the child after you calm down and pick him up, love on him and rock him or snuggle and watch TV. It'll make it all better!

 

[NaLisa]

I felt like that last night. I wanted him to be in a hurry because I was just so tired.

So after I felt bad, I let him lay with me in my bed and we sang songs until he was sleepy enough to go to bed. It's hard to think of songs when you are really tired by the way. LOL

Oh, this reminds me of something I would occasionally do during nightly story time when mine were younger and I was just too pooped to do all the funny voices/inflections. I would tell my DDs that Mommy was tired and needed to HEAR a story instead of TELL a story. We would pile up in bed and they would pull out a book that we'd read 100 times and they knew by heart. They'd "read" the story and try to mimic they way I usually told it. Gave me a chance to rest and unwind and was a great pre-reading exercise for them. Plus we'd usually all end up chuckling and relieve a bit of the tension.

 

[minniebeth]

yep, we've all been there. Hang in there. I yelled at my DD9 for spilling milk at breakfast today and my DD13 reminded me of the saying "don't cry over spilt milk". I quickly apologized and gave DD a hug and the smile on her face was priceless.

 

[marcyinPA]

I have a teenager. I totally understand.

Same here.

I saw that episode of What Would You Do? last week about the Tiger Mom....and I cried. My DS16 is a classic underachiever and hasn't been pulling his weight in school. His grades are not what he is capable of, and I feel like all I do is nag and yell. I don't expect him to get straight A's, but I expect him to work as hard as he can, and get extra help when he needs it. So, I saw that show and thought "Omgosh, have I totally messed my kid up forever? Do I really come across like that to him??"

Some days, we all just survive. At the end of the day, I make sure I tell both of my kids I love them...because I do.

 

[amberg@eastlink.ca]

all the time!!! the first week of may we were at the world and dd developed a double ear infection. we ended up in the er and i was a wreck...even more so when i couldnt get her meds into her, shes at the stage where she throws up medicine by gagging on it. after many many battles the first few doses we got it worked into a system for her to take them...but i felt really bad for getting angry with her. my friend who went with us said youre a great mom, dont worry, i was way worse taking mine and you had to get it into her for her own benefit. sometimes its just nice to hear those words tho!

 

[PollyannaMom]

Do you ever wonder if you're doing an OK job parenting your kids? Pretty much daily Do you ever have days when you just feel like you're doing everything wrong, and that you're ruining your kids? Yep, plenty...

Just try to remember the days that went really well, too, and that tomorrow is a fresh start!

 

[ChrizJen]

Thanks for the reassurance! You've brought tears to my eyes.
I was on the verge of tears anyway thinking I was a horrible mom and didn't deserve the wonderful little creature who looks up to me for everything, and you've all made me cry by reassuring me that we all have these days!
Thank you!

 

[karenos]

Here's my terrible Mom moment from a few months back:
So my picky 8 year old was moaning and complaining about the homemade meatballs I made, apparently not liking the onion in them.
DS: (in a whiny, nails on a blackboard voice) I don't like onion. I don't like these meatballs.
Me: Well, the meatballs don't like you!

Yes - not my proudest moment as a parent, but one we can laugh about now.
Hang in there OP - we've all been there.

karenos