Having a bad day (actually bad month)

[mommytoe]

I will not go over everything that has happened this month, but I feel like I can not take any more.

I am always on edge now. Everything either makes me cry. I feel like a bomb about to go off.

I just lectured a 7 year old for being scared. I know bad mommy. I know she can do it and has done it last year.

I am trying not to blow up at somebody from church. She has been complaining about everything all week. I can't seem to do anything right according to her.

Dh keeps telling me to put on a happy a face and not let the dc know how I am really feeling. I am not allowed to get angry or cry around them. It is so hard to put on a happy face all the time. I just can't do it.

I need a break, but there is no way I can get one.

I told dh I want to cancel our WDW trip, because I just can't face all those happy people when my life is falling apart. At this point I am not even doing any planning.

Good thing dh doesn't read this board. He would not like me admitting to being so sad.

 

[sweetmama]

Everyone needs to vent. It is very unhealthy to keep everything bottled up. My prayers for strength are being sent to you right now.

 

[disbridemimi]

We are here for you!

Here are some hugs for you! I think you need to tell the lady from church that if you can't do anything right, she can do it herself. Nothing wrong with putting your foot down, STOP pretending to be happy with her if your not. It doesnt make any sense. It is NOT your responsibility to deal with other peoples shortcomings, if she doesnt like how you do things, just stop doing them. Tell her to find somoene she thinks is more suitable. If you keep doing the things you are doing, things are not going to ever change. Your husband should not be telling you to pretend you are something you are not. You are an adult, and you make your own decisions and are responsible for your own actions (or lack thereof). Do not pretend to make him happy, if YOU are not happy.

You need to sit back and take a breath! Read a good book that will make you happy. Go for a walk to let off some steam! Have a cup of your fav coffee or tea or lemonade and try to relax. You need to learn how to make yourself in a better mood when the world gets to be too much! Bake some cupcakes with the 7 year old, or do something else fun. Movie night w/popcorn! You need to be able to make yourself find happiness if the stress in your life is coming down on you.

And remember THIS TOO SHALL PASS. Hang in there!

 

[Evil Genius]

Time to look at the other side of the coin and count what is good in your life. Remind yourself of it every day.

And if it really has gotten so bad that you can't stand to see other people happy, then you might want to consult a doctor for some help.

 

[MizTink]

when i get like that nothing helps more than a good long cry. kinda releases everything. especially if you've been putting on a happy face for dh or anybody else. you can only keep it bottled up for so long before you just EXPLODE!!!
actually, i haven't had to have a good cry for a long time.....antidepressants work wonders! i call it my "happy pill"

 

[hellokitty86]

I'm sorry you are feeling so stressed. Things will get better soon.

 

[ChrizJen]

First, to you. I think we all have times when life gets to be too much.
Obviously we don't know about a lot of the background stuff, and that's fine. But my opinion from what I've read is that you probably need to talk to your doctor. It sounds like even the little troubles in your life are feeling huge right now. I've been to the point of feeling helpless, and it's not fun. Don't let this go any longer. If it's lasted more than a couple of weeks, you should look into why you're feeling this way. You don't have to live in misery. It could be something as simple as a funk you're in. But it could also be a chemical or hormonal imbalance that could easily be treated. Either way, your doctor can help you. Good luck, and I hope things start to get better for you.

 

[minkydog]

First, to you. I think we all have times when life gets to be too much.
Obviously we don't know about a lot of the background stuff, and that's fine. But my opinion from what I've read is that you probably need to talk to your doctor. It sounds like even the little troubles in your life are feeling huge right now. I've been to the point of feeling helpless, and it's not fun. Don't let this go any longer. If it's lasted more than a couple of weeks, you should look into why you're feeling this way. You don't have to live in misery. It could be something as simple as a funk you're in. But it could also be a chemical or hormonal imbalance that could easily be treated. Either way, your doctor can help you. Good luck, and I hope things start to get better for you.

You beat me to it.

OP, has this gone on for a couple weeks or just a few days? What your describe sounds like symptoms of depression. If you've been feeling this way for more than a few days, I would strongly suggest you talk to your doctor about it.

There are things your should and should not share with the children. Of course, children are very sensitive to our moods. They know when something is wrong and it scares them. That's why you want to deal with this sooner rather than later. Keeping a stiff upper lip will never cure depression. I will, however, make you feel and act crazy.