Have you felt attacked while posting here?

[Beca]

Wow!!! I guess I am just really lucky!!! I have NEVER received an infamous "nasty PM". I don't know what I would do if I did....probably just tell the person not to waste my time (or, even more...valuable space on my 120 message limit pm box). I have received MANY wonderful pm's though, and made a LOT of good friends!!!

I don't doubt that I am on some people's "ignore" lists. Oh well....that's what they're for!!! If I offend someone, I think that is probably the best solution...just "turn me off".

I don't know....maybe I am just "too silly" for people to bother pm'ing about!!!

But, there are SOOO many wonderful people here who make me laugh ALL the time....Happy Birthday Cat (but, he'll always be HBC to me)...his last post on the "closed" "Some DVC'ers should'nt wear bikini's" brought me to tears!!! But, really he does that a LOT!! Rinkwide (who seems to be missing right now) is another one, as well as my "local" buddy Dr. Tommorrow!! Magicalmcwho and JimMIA are two more "newbies" who I think have wicked senses of humor. These people (and many others) are enough to keep me coming back again and again!!!

Sure, there are some grumpy people on here....but, the fact that I am reduced to hysterics at least once a week by people whom I have never met, is a testament to the fact that there are a LOT more wonderful people on these boards!!!



Beca

 

[Laurabearz]

I believe if you have to resort to attacking the person, you are out of points.....

I read up to there and thought Yup... people do get nasty when they are out of points.... they need to add on....

I cant remember getting any nasty PM's and I dont think I am on anyone's ignore list...

As far as feeling attacked... nope. I have been corrected a couple of times, and my poor logic has been revealed at times, but that is what life is all about.

 

[disworldnum1]

I have never personally been attacked ,and I think I have read alot of threads where some very strong dissagreements have gone on especially smoking or HA room issues.I think for the most part everyone plays pretty fair and a few just dont understand someone elses point of view and as in life never will.When i see a thread where i start feeling very passionate about i try not to waste my typing finger on it..because how important is this really..its supposed to be fun and i've decided to stay away from the negative.....tonight anyway...... lol

 

[Maistre Gracey]

I have never felt personally attacked, however I have felt as though I was "scolded" for my opinion.

Quite frankly, it's just not worth getting my shorts in a ball.

MG

 

[DisMN]

I get that from about 4 different people I can think of right now just by logging on.

Maybe if they keep it up they'll get zapped Goofydad! You can hope right?

As far as being personally attacked, no, not much these days. "They" mostly ignore me but they did chase me off the boards for a very long time. Most of them are gone now but a few remain.
There is an element of mean here and I'm amazed that some of the old-timers never noticed it. Go figure.

 

[Pa@okw95]

There was a thread once that personally attacked me and that was the subject matter of the thread. The moderators let it go on which was shock to me. It seems that people sometimes get upset at my attitude, but this attack should never been allowed but was.

 

[jennz]

I haven't felt personally attacked but I have certainly seen some directed towards others, including you Melkimmom!! I remember a thread where I was thrilled by what you wrote and because of it we're able to "go home" earlier than I thought (thanks again! ) and a few posts were jumping all over you... I don't know how I would have handled it if I were you, trying to be helpful and getting blasted. Just remember at least one person is glad you hung in there, and where there's one there are always more!

Somtimes yes - it's just because it's in writing and it's hard to figure out when some people, especially those with a sarcastic wit (I have one person in mind who I think falls into this category and he's been blasted quite a few times - fortunately he just rolls with it!), are joking. But...some are just mean and have no tolerance for anyone with a different opinion. JMHO!

 

[Muushka]

There was a thread once that personally attacked me and that was the subject matter of the thread. The moderators let it go on which was shock to me. snip...

Yes. The moderators. I think some do have their favorites, and then there are the others (like me ). I remember being involved in a thread that my posts were deleted and other posts much worse than mine stayed.
But I stray from topic (and this will probably be deleted!). Hi

 

[debbiedoo]

When you think that you are trying to be helpful--the next thing you know you have to bring out that flame retardent suit!! I feel that some people on DIS are always looking for an upheated moment. I have learned to lurk and stay away and think Oh boy--here we go again. What about the lady that was just asking about Christian issues with rides!! Posters they knew who they were--

After being attacked once that was enough--There are some people in this world that can not function without turmoil and unforunately we have some of them on these boards. I have learned to lurk in those waters. . . .The more power to me!!

I enjoyed this thread and I am glad to hear that I am not the only one who feels the same way. . .

Have a great day. . . .to the DVC members of the boards!!

 

[DrBond007]

I have not felt attacked here for a long time. There used to be someone on the board here who did that on a regular basis, but they kept getting banned, so now I never feel that way.

Unfortunately, some are still here who have been repeatedly inappropriate and directed personally disparaging comments toward others, simply because they had a differing opinion on a topic. I hate to see when topics revert to personal attacks.

Seems like observations showed that was a much more common approach among democrat supporters than from the other party. Oh well, that liberal tactic is not confined to just these boards. Fortunately, American voters responded appropriately. It's great that the policital season is over. It was certainly one of the nastiest elections I've seen.

 

[OneMoreTry]

I suffered only one unprovoked attack. When quite new to this forum one of my opinions was blasted as unworthy due to my low number of posts. (I had been posting on another WDW forum for a year.) I don't remember who it was and don't really care.

I had one undeserved moderator censure, which I'm sure resulted from a "report this to a moderator" message. I wrote one sentence as a big long run-on word. It included the words "...who really..." (or something like that). Well, when you run those words together in a big, giant word you get a completely unintentional hidden naughty word (...Someone*****allylikesdisneyworld...) , which the DIS software asterisked out. I posted a second time about how funny I thought that was and asterisked the run on word back in. [Asterisking a word back in is a no-no. Even an innocent word like that.] I honestly believe no one would have noticed the word in my original run-on if it had been left alone. But was threatened with banishment for my behavior. YIKES!!!

Anyway, if you don't hear from me again it means I was banished for this post.

If anyone sincerely finds this offensive please let me know.

This is the type of situation that led to my screen name to begin with.

 

[melkimmom]

Jenn,

I remember too... Thank you for standing by me

I PM the person involved and apologized. (I was accused of sounding nasty.... when I tryied to defend what I wrote)( I knew the information was correct you and me both took advantage of it) What was so wrong about it I still don't understand. That's water under the brige now. The person was very nice about it and pm me back saying "no harm done"....I felt better. Since then I was afraid to write anything. As somebody mentioned before, sometimes just saying "Good Morning" can get you punched in the eye.


Debbiedoo,

I am glad you enjoyed this thread. Only if they realize what their doing...life in these boards would be so much better.

Yes........They know who you are I only have a little more that 30 as someone mentioned and noticed before. Maybe we can only ask dumb questions (make sure you start with, newbie but, dumb question I know but, I should be paying more attention but) God forbid you try giving helpful information.........."You don't know enough" "I have 2000+ posts who does she think she is?" "What she only has 30 posts, the information is right but she should be telling anybody what they should do....not until she has 1000 posts at least". What a shame. Sometimes the problem is not what you say but how many posts you have. Being honest it has taken me about 3 years to write 30 posts....how many more years do you think it will take for me to write 1000?"

Well I guess I just have to live and learn.

 

[Happy Birthday Cat]

While I don't agree with DrBond007's observations (I think plenty came from both sides of the aisle), he does bring up a good point. IMHO things were nastier here during the presidential campaign when a lot people on the boards let it be known what their political leanings were and who they were supporting for president.

It's interesting to me because I don't think I ever let my political leanings influence my comments (or be known for that matter). There are many Dis-Board posters who I have a great deal of respect for that had opposite political beliefs.

HBC

 

[LIFERBABE]

I haven't felt attacked, but some posters will have a condescending tone to their posts, which causes many to engage in "group think" and when that happens, they can really shred a person. I know its hard to discern, but when you start your post with rolling eyes or Ummmm......, that's condescending.

Who knew you had to have a thick skin on a Disney board?

Many will "take you to task" for sharing your Disney experience, that may infringe on someone else's Disney experience. My advice to all is, dont take these boards to Disney with you! I have learned alot on these boards, but there is also the "group think" that by wanting the most from your vacation you are taking away from others vacation.

I use courtesy and common sense and personally do not worry about what others have to say when I am on vacation.

As far as the boards go, as someone who has benefitted greatly from others, especially the DVC boards, I feel a tremendous sense of duty to not let certain issues go, because I know someone is learning something by the discussion that is taking place. Some posters will get nasty, hoping that will shut you up, but I cant stand to let misinformation have the last word because it is letting others down.
I personally like the nit pickers, because they are the ones who will open the POS or look up an answer or create an Excel spreadsheet or conduct a survey instead of just relying on their opinion which is perfectly helpful too.

 

[athenna]

I haven't felt attacked, but some posters will have a condescending tone to their posts, which causes many to engage in "group think" and when that happens, they can really shred a person. I know its hard to discern, but when you start your post with rolling eyes or Ummmm......, that's condescending.

Who knew you had to have a thick skin on a Disney board?

Many will "take you to task" for sharing your Disney experience, that may infringe on someone else's Disney experience. My advice to all is, dont take these boards to Disney with you! I have learned alot on these boards, but there is also the "group think" that by wanting the most from your vacation you are taking away from others vacation.

I use courtesy and common sense and personally do not worry about what others have to say when I am on vacation.

As far as the boards go, as someone who has benefitted greatly from others, especially the DVC boards, I feel a tremendous sense of duty to not let certain issues go, because I know someone is learning something by the discussion that is taking place. Some posters will get nasty, hoping that will shut you up, but I cant stand to let misinformation have the last word because it is letting others down.
I personally like the nit pickers, because they are the ones who will open the POS or look up an answer or create an Excel spreadsheet or conduct a survey instead of just relying on their opinion which is perfectly helpful too.

Liferbabe, as usual you have hit the nail right on the head!
Even though I am new, I have a lot of posts. I ask a lot of questions, and I like to be involved in the DVC community. That being said, your advise- don't take the boards to Disney with you, is something I have had to tell myself a lot in the beginning. I 1st discovered these boards after buying into SSR, and I read a few posts where people harshly disliked it, and I wanted to cry! Maybe I'm too sensitive, but being so new to this, I wanted to read everything I could.
I've never sent a nasty PM, but I received 1 once. Not from the DVC forum, but from another one. Someone was complaining that he was tired of waiting in food lines behind fat families. I have no predujices agianst anyone, and this really got me upset. Especially since I used to be heavy (just lost 60 pounds on weight watchers ) I replied to him that he was being very insensitive. He sent me a nasty PM, he ripped into me!
Sorry, so long, felt chatty I guess.

 

[debbiedoo]

Debbiedoo,

I am glad you enjoyed this thread. Only if they realize what their doing...life in these boards would be so much better.


thanks melkimmom!! I always try to be helpful. . . .I like this thread because it makes me realize that several of us have been flamed and a place to come together and share our experiences and what we have learned by them. . . .To the DVC community--I have found a lot of help here before and after my purchase at SSR--Thank you for being so helpful!!

 

[DrTomorrow]

Wow!!! I guess I am just really lucky!!! I have NEVER received an infamous "nasty PM". [...]

Beca getting a "nasty PM" from someone in 3.... 2.... 1....

 

[DVC-Don]

A few years ago a lady on the Travel Forum here attacked me quite regularly, but she seemed a little off her rocker. She got banned shortly after that, but not before I created a new ID here in late 2001. Other than that, no.

 

[ColoradoBelle1]

Re: OneMoreTRy: i can't believe that 'who really' got asterisked out!!!! But of course it's you're fault for not knowing that the vernacular calls for a HO HO HO! if you are talking about women who make themselves available to married men! I don't think I could have seen that runonword even if I were being tested to look for same!

I am a relatively new poster, prior to the elections... so perhaps that is why I was amazed that some people here can be so judgmental ...'arguing' can just be discussing pro/cons of an issue..nothing wrong with that. But when some people run out of the pros for their position..they seem to think it ok to attack the other PERSON instead of that person's opinion. And when 'name calling' begins, I wonder if I've momentarily been transported to a playground! It is hard to expect the moderators to stop all these attacks because they are only volunteering here and certainly can't read every single post. And it amazes me how often the 'attacker' insists that he is the one being victimized and persecuted.

I agee with LiferBabe's post 100%...especially in feeling that sometimes people try to use 'attackmode' as an attempt to intimidate others from having an opinion. It's sad, especially because it so often works and the 'meeker' people just don't post their feelings or questions any more.

I've learned a lot from reading this forum, and plan to continue learning. I also like to post ideas so that others might benefit...sort of pay it forward.
If I pass ROFR on my BWV points, I'm really going to have a LOT of newbie questions and know that you will all be patient in answering them!

 

[DrBond007]

...'arguing' can just be discussing pro/cons of an issue..nothing wrong with that. But when some people run out of the pros for their position..they seem to think it ok to attack the other PERSON instead of that person's opinion. And when 'name calling' begins...

Very well said. I think that is the major problem as well.

I think some do have their favorites, and then there are the others (like me ). I remember being involved in a thread that my posts were deleted and other posts much worse than mine stayed.

I've never been on the favorites list either, although I'm sure they try to do a good job, just human nature, we all have faults.