Have you ever seen this at a wedding?

[southernbella]

Hi,

I work as a bartender for weddings & events. I worked a wedding tonight & saw something I have never seen before.

The time came for the bride to throw her bouquet. Everyone lines up, then the bride starts moving everyone around. It is pretty obvious that the bride wants a specific girl (a bridesmaid) to catch the bouquet. So, she throws the flowers. They bounce off the "chosen" girl, and another bridesmaid (the youngest bridesmaid, maybe a younger sister?) catches the bouquet. The bride marches over to her, takes the bouquet away from her & does a rethrow!

When it came time to take the pics with the people that caught the bouquet & the garter, the bride's Mom tried to help by insisting the bride take pics with both bridesmaids, but the bride didn't want to take a picture with the bridesmaid that caught the bouquet first. She did, after Daddy had a talk with her.

As my Grandma would say, tacky, tacky, tacky.

Sbella

 

[poohandwendy]

Sounds like the bride is very immature and not-so-nice. Say a prayer for her new husband.

 

[Piglet4Ever]

That definately isn't normal in my book either, sound a little Bridezilla-ish to me!! Nice way to put a damper on your own wedding.

 

[VSL]

How incredibly childish.

If she wanted a special picture with her preferred bridesmaid I'm sure she could have arranged it, but if you choose to do a bouquet toss and have a picture with the 'winners', then you've got to accept that your favourites might not be the winners.

 

[laurabelle]

Good gravy! It's a bouquet, not a magic wand!

 

[Diva of Dragons]

Way tacky!!....At one wedding, the bride threw the flowers and they veered off course, landing at my Mother's feet. She picked them up and handed them to the bride and said, "You're not doing this to me. Try again".!!! My Mom has never been married and has no desire to be, so everyone found this quite amusing!!

 

[Gonz Of Lancashire]

Weddings at one time used to spontaneous, apart from the ceremony and speeches. But now weddings seem to so choreographed by organisers and photographers and viscious brides, that the whole thing seems more like a production than a celebration.





I'll give 'em 2 years!

 

[MsDisney23]

I have never heard of that either!

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Weddings at one time used to spontaneous, apart from the ceremony and speeches. But now weddings seem to so choreographed by organisers and photographers and viscious brides, that the whole thing seems more like a production than a celebration.

I know what you mean. My SIL's wedding four or five years ago cost more than all 4 years of college did! And it was extremely formal, with the pianist being flown in from somewhere out of state especially for the wedding. I felt so sorry for my SIL because she barely had time to even enjoy her reception. As soon as they did like 2 bites of the sitdown dinner, she was whisked off with the wedding party to take pictures on a golf green outside the reception hall. They did like one or two dances and were whisked off again. You barely saw her at all.

TOV

 

[Gonz Of Lancashire]

I know what you mean. My SIL's wedding four or five years ago cost more than all 4 years of college did! And it was extremely formal, with the pianist being flown in from somewhere out of state especially for the wedding. I felt so sorry for my SIL because she barely had time to even enjoy her reception. As soon as they did like 2 bites of the sitdown dinner, she was whisked off with the wedding party to take pictures on a golf green outside the reception hall. They did like one or two dances and were whisked off again. You barely saw her at all.

TOV

I've had friends whose weddings cost over $10,000. At the end of the day when leaving, we've asked if they enjoyed the day, the usual response is that they hardly saw anyone or had time to talk. Weddings now have lost their way. Around twenty years, I was in Yugoslavia in a village where a wedding happened to be taking place. It involved long tables, lots of food and lots more drink, and I was asked if I wanted to join in, and what a day it was. I got married myself ten years ago, and we deceided to go along a similar route to the Yugoslavian way. We had a brief civil service, followed by renting out the local pub who put on lots of food and drink, the entire wedding cost us $180. Thing was everyone stayed all day, and most of the night and said what good fun it was. We are still married now, so that works out at $18 a year, pretty good value I think! The big wedding thing now seems to be more of a measure of status than anything else.

 

[Quinn222]

We had a name for girls like that when I used to work in a job that dealt with Brides: DBFH - Demon Bride From Hell.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

I know our wedding was probably pretty tacky by my SIL and MIL's standards.

My mom did a small buffet of finger foods and we had 'party punch' (sherbet mixed with ginger ale/sprite).

The gown probably cost me no more than 500$ tops--I got it at a resale shop. DH's tuxedo was free (won it in a contest) and the groomsmen had coupons for discounts (also part of the contest prize), so that didn't cost much either..I think around 50$ to rent two.

The bridesmaids gowns were picked up at bridal wholesaler who was going out of business for 99$ each. I also picked up my little rhinestone tiara at the same place for around 40 bucks.

My aunt did the silk flower bouquets for myself and the bridesmaids, so that was free.

I think the two cakes (which came from a local grocery store's bakery) was around 200 dollars.

The rental of the church and pastor was 75 bucks (because my mom went to that church).

The wedding topper was another 10 bucks..again..on sale.

We did our invitations through a local greeting card store, so that was probably 100-150 bucks I think.

I also had software that kept me from losing my mind because there were SO many things to do. I think that cost me 10 bucks.

For a grand total of..... around 1400$.

I am so cheap.

TOV

 

[Ranatra]

How rude to snatch the bouquet off the younger bridesmaid. She by all rights caught it and should have been allowed to keep it.
Sounds like this girl is used to getting her own way. Good Luck to her new husband.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

At least the first bridesmaid's parents didn't try to make her give it back.

I remember attending a wedding as a kid (I was probably 11 or 12 at the time) and I caught the bouquet. It was all these pretty peach, white and pink silk flowers. I jumped up and down and went crazy because I caught it. My stepdad tried to make me give it back. He said it wasn't fair that I caught it and that the brides' mom (or whoever) had probably spent a lot of money on the silk flowers, so I should give it back. I was like WTH? Why would you spend bookoo bucks on silk flowers you're just going to throw away anyway? Anyway...I tried to give it back and the bride wouldn't let me. I was so embarrassed.

TOV

 

[becjlek]

My DN didn't want to throw her bouquet. She gave a very short speech about role models and gave it to the couple that had been married the longest.

 

[lbgraves]

We only had 3 single women & 4 single men at our wedding so we didn't do the bouquet or garter toss. Our reception was so much fun! We went around to talk to everyone and then danced our butts off. We had people who had never listened to country music out on the floor trying to line dance.

 

[barbeml]

I remember a couple of weddings where all the single women were hounded to get up for the bouquet toss, but were instructed not to try to catch it, because so-and-so was going to catch it. Whatever.

I married in my mid-thirties, and was not about to subject my women friends to that circus. My florist made up a beautiful little tossing bouquet that I quietly presented to my youngest (15) bridesmaid.

 

[disykat]

No tossing at my wedding either. My bouquet went on the cake table as decoration.

 

[Daxx]

Daxx's Wife here! When we got married, we decided not to do the garter thing b/c we found that tacky (our opinion). We decided that we'd do the bouquet toss to our nieces (age rage 5 to 13 yrs. old) b/c there were only 3 single adult women at our wedding. I didn't want to embarrass them, so we called up our nieces instead. It was really cute to see these 7 girls gathered to catch the bouquet.

I tossed my bouquet and turned around to find that my nephew had dived into the group of girls and caught the bouquet himself!

I think that the bride the OP is talking about is so immature. If she wanted someone specific to catch the bouquet, she should've done what one of my friends did at her wedding -- she didn't do the toss and, instead, walked up to her friend, handed the bouquet to her and said "I hope you're next!" I thought that was lovely!!!!

 

[CJRN]

No, that's not right.