Have you ever PMed someone and.....

[onecoolmama]

Ok..I have a story about this. This person was extremely generous PM'd with a link to a question I had asked.

It was 4 months later when I realized it. So I pm'd her to thank her and she had totally forgotten.

Then, I guess she Pm'd me bakc agian and it was a month later..becuase i had no idea.

Now I have it flash on my screen. Very few people PM me anyway, and usually, I was the one who PM'd first.

I just figured out that you have to clear out the sent PM's too!

 

[monkeyboy]

Originally posted by onecoolmama
I just figured out that you have to clear out the sent PM's too!

 

[onecoolmama]

Hey, at least I figured it out on my own! That makes it a little better!

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Guilty, sometimes I don't respond back to PM's either. Sorry guys.

 

[snoopy]

Its happened to me a couple of times. I agree with Gina, there is a difference in not acknowledging someone's show of support and letting the PM session come to a close. I'm floored that someone would not write a note back, even a simple "thanks" when someone takes the trouble to send their support. Obviously, not everyone feels its necessary -- but I was raised to acknowledge kind deeds with a thank you.

 

[kild]

I miss them from time to time as well. My pc at home gives me the pop up, but the one at work does not. But I answer back when I remember to check them.

 

[4greatboys]

It does seem like its a little rude not to respond. The person who rec'd the pm could atleast respond with a thanks or something short like that.
I usually get a response from the pm's I have sent except one time when someone sent me a nasty pm and then never read the response I sent back

 

[Melora]

Well I feel much better this morning....

Perhaps I should have labeld this PMS-ing

You know how it goes.... youre not feeling great for whatever reason and suddenly the whole world hates you or at least thinks youre unimporant.

Well at least I dont feel that way most of the time!

 

[lsyorke]

OK be honest, how many people ran to check their PM's after reading this thread???

 

[onecoolmama]

If nothing else..chalk it up to them having a pole up their....


and move on!

 

[FroggyinArk]

it took me a while to lern the pm system here, i'm used to yahoo so this is quite different hopefully i avent not respoded to anyobne as i feel its just a polite thing to do to at least acknowledge the comment

 

[wishuponastarforever]

I had someone PM me a really nice note. I'll bet the person thought I was a looney tune. I mistakenly thought the person who PM'd me was someone else. My response was so stupid, I'll bet the person was sorry I responded.

Since then I've learned to pay better attention.

 

[Gupsmom]

I didn't even realize that there's such a thing as PM's until I got a rather testy message from someone saying they had sent me one and I never responded. It turns out I had accidentally ignored a few PM's.

Jess

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Well, I received quite a few PM's when I miscarried and I was really grateful. However, I did not respond to a lot of them because I was trying to deal with everything. Reading them just brought it all back.

I did post my appreciation and thanks to everyone on the main thread I started. I would hope that people would be understanding of situations like that. I understand if someone does not get back to me if they are going through a rough time. I know that they read my support and appreciated it and that is enough for me.

 

[katerkat]

I agree with Jenn Lynn - if I posted about a tragedy or something to that effect, and tons of people sent me PMs about it, I'm not sure I would be able to get back to everyone. I mean, when you send s sympathy card to someone, do you expect a response? I've never expected one or gotten one.

That being said, I rarely get PMs, so it's easy to respond to the few I do get!

 

[disykat]

While I think I've responded to all the pm's I've recieved, it never occured to me it would be considered rude not to. I've sent a few pm's that were not responded to and I just assumed that they are not interested in having dialog that is off the main board. I consider that perfectly within their rights and wasn't the least bit offended. I'm much more offended when my posts are ignored on the main board!

Oops! Edited to add that I just checked my pms and found several I've been "ignoring". I usually don't get them so if I'm not notified, I don't look for them. Are we no longer getting pop-up notification?

 

[Saffron]

I'm like Jenn Lynn. I posted something very personal on the boards last year and received tons of support via the thread and PM's. I expressed my thanks on the thread I started, twice, and I read every PM sent to me, but I didn't respond to all of them, not even most, because it kept bringing up something I didn't want to deal with at the time. Unfortunately they are all gone now so I couldn't respond to them now that I want to, because things have changed and time has healed my emotions and my body. I guess the PM's get cleared out whether you clear them out or not. Unlike threads, there must be an expiration date on the PM's and once they've reached that point ... *poof*

Since I was *gone*, I don't know how many PM's have come and gone in my PM box. There is only one in there now that I haven't read yet, and I will when I get a chance. I just did major PM box cleaning out since my hiatus from here, and that's the only one left. I will read it and respond to it this weekend though.

I try to read PM's and respond right away, but sometimes my time is limited on the net and I am selfish about it.

 

[yourtravelpro]

Originally posted by EltonJohn
Melora,

Why do you feel that people are obliged to write back to you?

Common Courtesy!

 

[Saffron]

Oh, one last thing ... unless I ask someone a question in a PM, I never expect a response. I just send them and hope they go on their merry way to the receiver, with the good thoughts and intentions that follow along with them.

 

[Dodie]

The ones I don't understand are the ones that never even get read/opened up. They just sit there forever.

I thought that everyone was notified when they had a new PM. Is that not the case?