Have you ever lost a friend?

[Cassidy]

No, not like your friend past away.
I meant, like, their not your friend anymore.

Have you ever lost a friend?
And would do ANYTHING to have them back?

Im getting teary just thinking about it. I lost a very good friend. And I can't stop thinking about him. He was my best friend.

I want the old him back. I would do absolutely anything to have him back. I don't blame him for changing. Middle school did this to him. I just wish the real him would come back. It actually feels like he..died... But he didn't. That is what makes me feel terrible.

He won't even talk to me anymore.
I say Hi, he tells me to shut up or calls me a bad word in spanish.

I want to be his friend.
I love him, like a brother.

Sometimes when im walking down the hallway, I see him. I just look at him and stop. And stare. He doesn't see me. Im invisible to him.

I just wish he would come back, you know? It makes me sad to think we might never be friends again.

I hope high school is the magic touch. Middle School messed him up. 3 more years of him hating me, and maybe..just maybe, we could be friends again.

All I want to do is walk up to him and slam him against a locker. I want him to TALK to me. LISTEN to me. I want to tell him I miss the OLD HIM. But he won't listen to me..

He used to call me every single night and we'd talk for hours.
He made me a scarf...its hanging up in my room as.we.speak.
He also gave me a necklace for Christmas a year ago. When we were till in elementary school. I still wear it.
I love it.

I want to talk to him. The old him.

He won't even look at me.

I just want to know what to do. How to communicate. I even thought of going to the school counselor.

But that won't help. He can't make him talk to me.
He can't do anything.

I just wish there was something I could do.

 

[Sparx]

this happened to me with an ex.

I wish i had some advice.

 

[Cassidy]

this happened to me with an ex.

I wish i had some advice.

same
i feel terrible.

 

[VMK_MagicalLadee]

nope.


(It's passed away) XD

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

Yeah, this has happened to me before, too.

What's worse though is when you can actually feel and recognize that you and a friend are growing apart, and you can't do anything to stop it.
That's actually happening to me with a couple of people right now.
It's hard.

 

[Cassidy]

Yeah, this has happened to me before, too.

What's worse though is when you can actually feel and recognize that you and a friend are growing apart, and you can't do anything to stop it.
That's actually happening to me with a couple of people right now.
It's hard.

Exactly why I want to bang my head on a pole.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I had a friend like that. We were amazingly close in 5th grade and then in 6th grade something happened, I was wrongly blamed for something. She hated me. I left that school. We never talked again.

Then 9th grade comes along and she's going to my highschool. We had 4 classes together. Our lockers were RIGHT next to each other. We'd occaisonally say hi. She commented when I got my hair cut. I'd sometimes tell her I liked her shoes, bag, shirt, etc.

But honestly, I would have LOVED to be friends again. She was different though. Heck, so was I. But still, it would have been such a happy day if we had reconnected.

I mean, I have her on facebook now. But we never ever talk. It's sort of sad how a friendship can be ended so suddenly. She basically LIVED at my house during the summer, and within a few weeks I never saw her again for YEARS.

Oh well.

On another note, someone commented about how sad it is when you know you and your friend are growing apart. That is also terribly terribly sad. I won't say much because she actually was a DISer, but ya know. I miss her. We used to talk all the time, and now we only small talk on facebook. She's got school. I have stuff. But...yeah it's sad.

 

[Cassidy]

Im crying. I can't stop thinking about it. It's driving me insane. Half of me is telling me to give up, forget about him. The other half if telling me to keep trying.

I have been thinking just to send him a text message. Just saying hi. But im afraid he'll fire back a rude comment.

I'm scared.
That's all.

 

[chisnpeke]

I know how it is. This girl who lived across the street from me, her and I were good friends from the time she moved in. After being friends for about seven years she just turned on me. She had treated me poorly before but this was the WORST. I felt like I would do ANYTHING at all to get her back. She played mind games with me and acted like we would be friends again. The next year we became closer again and talked on the bus and hung out more often but it was never to the extent of when we were younger. I haven't talked to her in almost three years and that was just a comment on myspace. It's sad but I have good friends that I rely on. You'll get through it.

 

[Babyjustrun]

It happens to me a lot.

I have a friend, who we just sort of lost connection. We were BEST FRIENDS for like three years, and then all of a sudden after Christmas last year, she was always hanging out with another friend that she used to tell me she thought was annoying and spoiled rotten. Well, after a while, I gave up on calling her, because she never returned my calls, and when she did it was either hours after the fact, or she was busy. We only hung out like twice after that Christmas. When we do talk now, it's like we're still friends, and it really sucks because she was that kind of friend who I would go over to her house on Christmas eve, and sometimes later in the day on Xmas.
And now we barely talk.

And there's various people, who I was good friends with last year (like best guy friends ever, they were amazing), but I didn't get to talk to them in the summer, and when we came back from summer break, they were a bit different and we just didn't talk anymore.
And it bugged me. Still kinda does.

 

[jemberly_ann]

ok, i know wat ur feeling.

when i moved, it was kind of hard, but then i met some really awsome people that actually cared for me.

i decided to seperate myself from my past, which wasnt so great. i was that nerd in the back with too-short pants, and frizzy hair(which i still have)

i got into fights with a bunch of my friends, and they brought other people into it, so everyone was ganging up on me, and so i lied a bit.

now were older, wiser, and want to be friends again, so everyone will talk about their bf/gf, while i sit in the back.

all you need to do is invite the person over, and chill. talk to them about random stuff, and at the end, tell them that you miss the old them, and you want the other them back. ive repaired so many close relationships over the internet. now, i cant wait until i can actually see them.

good luck!

 

[disneydance]

Yep she was a very good friend of mine last year in 6th and 7th grade then in the middle of 7th grade I made a comment about I was worried about the friends that she was making as alot of them were very mean and all and she someone told her I had said that and after that she just all of a sudden hated me. She made of me and all and I was too shy to do anything about it so I just ignored her comments and actually 2 days ago she came up to me and said she was really sorry and she had finnally heard the full true story and she said that she would like to try being friends again i wasnt too sure what to say so I forgave her and all but i'm not too ready to go back into a full friendship and all but she been treating me so much better these last 2 days and I think she may be telling the truth and all so I'm ready to give her another chance and slowly rebuild our friendship and all but it will be hard for me to completely get over it as I tried to appoligize about that comment so many time but she nerver took the appology or would listen to the full story that all i was saying was I really cared about her and all and i just knew that some of the people she was making friends with were not the best of people

 

[Cassidy]

I feel so guilty.
I got him in trouble because he pretty much said every word in the book in ONE sentance.
And I told on him, which is childish, and not the teachers problems. But it was worth it.
He got set out of the group for 30 minutes.
Then he started hanging around me and my friends.
And then my friend Meagan blurted out "IF THESE STUPID EAST LINCOLN KIDS DIDNT SCREW YOU OVER THEN YOU'D PROBABLY BE THE SAME PERSON YOU WERE"
And then I put my head in my knees and started crying a little bit. Then Cody looked and me and I had to do something so I started laughing.
Even when nothing was funny.
But i couldn't let him see me cry.
Then he walked away.

I just want the old him back!!

 

[PowerMonkey]

yea, its happened a lot... it sucks to think about it after it happened, or if you know its going to happen, because you just dont want to lose a friend... but its funny because it never really affects you as much AS it currently is happening... actually, most of the time, you dont even notice your losing touch... people just drift.. its normal and is just a part of life

 

[OneTreeHill]

Yea, that happened to me too.

Not exactly the same thing, but same type of thing.

When I was really sick, my Best Friend, didn't believe me, that I was really sick. We fought alittle, but I could see that she had changed and she thought she was "more mature" now that she was in High School. So I kind of gave up. She was someone I didn't really want as a friend. But it still hurt. I would love to have the old her back, but this new her is so not worth being friends with.

 

[OmeDeBeard]

Let me think here... no, I can honestly say I haven't, though some of my friends have changed to different schools, or moved, if we were to ever to see each other again, we'd still be friends.

 

[lpe_bratz]

yah. unfortunately im losing some right now.