Have you ever attended a marriage enrichment seminar?

[ckay87]

We were invited to one at my SIL's church this weekend and I know this sounds awful, but I can't think of anything I would least like to do. It's going to suck up the bulk of my weekend which, when you work full time, is a big deal. I can't think of a way to get out of it without sounding like a real heartless witch. But to be honest, maybe I am. I think I am just the anti-chick because nothing about sitting around, contemplating the complexities of my perfectly-fine relationship appeals to me. If my marriage needs anything right now, it is FUN. We could take this time and spend it in, say, Atlantic City and do more for our marriage than any "enrichment" seminar could touch.

Yes, I know, how cold of me. I'm just not big on this touchy-feely stuff. I don't even enjoy romantic movies. Marriage-wise I know what we need and I know what makes us happy. Ugh...so what are these things like? I don't see myself getting out of it.

 

[adkkev]

So why attend/participate? Why not politely decline, and do whatever you feel is important for yourself and your spouse?

 

[ckay87]

So why attend/participate? Why not politely decline, and do whatever you feel is important for yourself and your spouse?

Oh you are absolutely right. I "politely declined" another invitation from them last weekend, plus I don't want them to think I don't care about my marriage, etc etc. I'm always too worried about what other people think....now THERE is an area where I could use some help!

 

[EthansMom]

There's nothing wrong with saying, "Thanks for thinking of us but we just aren't interested."

 

[Pigeon]

If you don't want to go, don't go! There's no reason to waste a weekend on an activity which doesn't interest you. It wouldn't be anything I'd do, either.

There's nothing heartless about it.

 

[disykat]

If you don't want to go, the only reason to go is if your SPOUSE wants you to go. An invitation isn't enough reason IMO.