has anyone got a passport while owing back childsupport

[sandy6879]

She may really find out what kind of man she married if they ever have kids together, get divorced and then she is the one owed child support. For her to even go along with vacation plans knowing there is child support owed, makes her just as low.

Been there and found out that my daughter's biological father (who also never paid child support and terminated his rights when she was 3) divorced the woman he got pregnant while with me. She has 2 kids with him total and guess what - he's now not paying her child support either. From what I have been told she is furious that he isn't paying his support, has dragged him back and forth to court with him pulling the same job switching thing previously referenced, and he is now living with someone else and her kids. These type of "men" continue to do the same cycle over and over - sorry OP get prepared to have the same thing happen to you.(sorry for the vent, this is a touchy subject for me - I have ZERO sympathy for any "man" in this situation)

 

[weregoingtodw]

Well, the OP took her post and ran. The gist of the post was, her DH owed $2500 in back support, and she wanted to see if they could get him a passport anyway, so they could go on DCL. Oddly enough, nobody has passport advice--just advice on what a jerk her DH is.

Actually, I hope this might be a wake-up call to the OP as to what kind of man she married.

Ditto that. I hope someone traces him to that post and it's shown in court.

(This from a mom who is owed over $40k - yes, you read that right, $40k - in back child support.) I am fortunate enough that my child wants for nothing and has a real father (blood doesn't count) who provides for her every need. Not everyone is lucky enough to be in that situation.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

Makes a valid case for forced sterilization...

I'd vote for that

DD is almost 17 yrs old and her biological donor (he's definately not a dad) hasn't paid one red cent for anything for her. He's an alcoholic and not a good person and I decided when she was 5, that the money wasn't worth him possibly being in her life. Thankfully I've got a great family and have worked my butt off all these years to make a good life for her.

To the OP, as a woman with children, you should be ashamed of yourself.

 

[grlpwrd]

I have searched for information on the poster and I found ways to trace this person just by what she posted in the past. I want to report them, but I won't. I am prelaw and I am seething right now.

Just do the right thing!

 

[TinkerbellMama]

Well, the OP took her post and ran. The gist of the post was, her DH owed $2500 in back support, and she wanted to see if they could get him a passport anyway, so they could go on DCL. Oddly enough, nobody has passport advice--just advice on what a jerk her DH is.

Actually, I hope this might be a wake-up call to the OP as to what kind of man she married.

I am absolutely disgusted. If I were single, I would never look twice at a man who owed a penny in child support, much less marry him. THAT SPEAKS VOLUMES ABOUT A PERSON'S CHARACTER...none of it good. My father didn't pay a dime of his when I was a kid, and we certainly suffered for it (there were 3 of us). OP, I know you are still reading this...and your dh should be deeply ashamed. Come to think of it, you should be, too. It is unconscionable that you would not make paying your stepchild's child support a priority over a freaking cruise. I am sickened by your post (as related by someone who saw it before you ran like a coward).

 

[Janet Hill]

I have good news for the OP. You can get a passport if you owe less than $5,000 (at least this is what my exhusband who owes me >30,000 and wants a passport told me).

So go out get a passport, and go on a cruise. Remember to send a postcard to the one left behind. I'm sure that child will understand.

 

[JunieJay]

Having not read the original post, I can only gather what it said based on the replies.

That said, I am betting the OP is one of these women like my former co-worker. She married a deadbeat Dad too. Somehow he convinced her that his ex-wife was the reason his kids didn't get child support - she was evil and she misused the money so therefore they got nothing. No amount of reasoning with this co-worker would allow her to see the truth - she repeatedly blamed his failure to support his kids on his ex-wife. It was great when they finally caught up with him and threw him in jail for a weekend - yup, you guessed it, she was defending him to the hilt. She was completely brainwashed. I no longer work with this woman but I often wonder whether or not they had kids together and if so how long it was before he dumped her and started telling his new woman how evil she was.........

 

[Mickey'sMainMami]

I just wanted to say that I am on the other side here, meaning I am married to someone who pays childsupport for 2 sons. He is paid up to date, and if he wasn't I would make sure he is. I too agree if you make a life, then you should support it, plus there are all types of penalties that you have to deal with if you don't. They can take away your driver's license, take your income tax return and also dip into your bank accounts and take money from any property sales you might have in the future. I for one hate the fact that dead beat dad's give other dad's like my husband who does pay every week a bad name! There were a few instances where the system screwed up and we paid more than we should have, and other times they tried charging us and saying we owed arrears when we didn't. Trying to talk to anyone there is like talking to a brick wall, but we didn't really care about paying some extra here and there, because we knew it was going to his kids.

With that being said, my husbands ex is the ex from you know where! She is so jealous that me and her ex are together that she uses the kids as a pawn against us. We now haven't seen them in 3 years, as she uped and moved them to Florida and we just found her. We are going to fight to see them, but it won't be easy, but hopefully worth it in the long run.

When my DH first started paying childsupport to her, she didn't spend the moeny on the kids, or the bills. When my Dh and her split up, he left all the utility bills in his name, because she had ruined her credit with most of them. I am still getting $2,000 bills from the Gas and electric company. Her mortgage, was $300.00 a month, for the house that was my husbands that he literally handed over to her for his kids sake. We were broke living in a one bedroom apartment, I had been laid off at my job and was desperatley looking for a new one. I had to beg my dad to give me a few dollars a month to buy food. We still didn't care because we thought at least the kids are being taken care of. Yeah right, she would drop them off for our visitation filthy, with dirty old clothes and shoes and no haircuts. My stepson who was 8 at the time cried to us that he was tired of looking like a bum, and that his mom was going out buying $150.00 Rocawear outfits, and he didn't even have nice clothes. (My husband is very much into his appearance and he raised his sons the same way). My husband didn't always buy his sons name brand stuff, but they always got new stuff when they outgrew the old stuff, and at least thier clothes were clean and ironed. We went thru alot with her, and we still are. I recently found pics online of the kids, and still they don't ever have haircuts. She had another baby by a guy who is now doing 4 years in jail for armed robbery. I can tell you right now that my husbands childsupport is going to support this guys kid too, but there is nothing we can do about it. My husband has to pay whether we like it or not. We don't have an option, nor would we wouldn't want to pay.

All in all, men like this make my husband look bad, so you know what, pay up, we didn't go on vacation for almost 4 years and my DH never was behind ever!! He should get 2 jobs to pay off what he owes, no matter if the ex is a jerk or not like my DH's is, hopefully some of it is going to the kids, and either way, the system doesn't care, it is his responsibility.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

I just wanted to say that I am on the other side here, meaning I am married to someone who pays childsupport for 2 sons. He is paid up to date, and if he wasn't I would make sure he is.

I want to applaud you and your husband for doing the right thing, even if his ex isn't. The day will come when his sons understand that he kept up with his obligation and their mother mismanaged the money. My mother never badmouthed my father. She didn't have to. We figured it out on our own, and your stepsons will, too. In fact, it seems like they already have. It's a shame they have a neglectful mother, but lucky for them they have a responsible, loving father and stepmother!