Has anyone ever felt like this?

[Queenie]

We've started making initial plans for WDW next year as we need to book the Summer Bay timeshare by Christmas. After some discussion, my mum's now decided that she's gonna come along too. That will mean it's either gonna be me, Scott and mum or me, Scott, Mum and Scott's mate Roger who came on the trip last year.

The stupid thing is, now she's definately coming, I feel a bit wierd about it. Summer Bay feels like MY place, somewhere that I've only been with Scott and his family/friends. I feel strange about sharing it with mum as it will never be our place again.

Me and my mum fell out when I was 16 and I actually left home without warning it got so bad. Now we're close again but there's still tension so I'm worried about that. We've not spent even a few days together since I left home (she stayed over for one night last Christmas with my sister - that's it.) Is two weeks too much?

Well I have over 10 months left to prepare myself. Hopefully when we get out there it will all be fantastic. I'm just worried that if there is a fall out or anything, the Happiest Place on Earth might never again be quite as happy for me.

 

[carolfoy]

Queenie, I feel for you, I've read your posts about the problems with your family etc and do feel like 2 weeks is a long time to spend that closely with someone, as long as you both make the effort it'll probably be okay but there will almost certainly be 'grit your teeth' times, if these are just down to being a bit tired and niggley then we all get like it but if it goes over the line and becomes personal it will probably ruin it, For what its worth my advice would be to take things even slower and easier than you usually do just to give everyone a chance to exhale and get used to the jet lag etc, also try and book a couple of days that are entirely your mums choice of stuff to do, she'll probably appreciate it so much she goes a little easier on you when she's feeling teasey.

 

[Queenie]

We're trying to make sure that everyone gets to do what they want. All my mum seems to care about is that she gets to visit MK lots of times which is one of my highest priorities too! She's probably be happy to just sit in front of the castle all day every day!! We're also making sure to go to Seaworld as she didn't get to do that one when she went with my sister last year.

Luckily my mum's up for more stuff than me, she loves TOT and RNRC, stuff I won't go near so we've got no worries about her sitting out by herself all the time. I think she wants an afternoon where me and her can go to a craft store and spend a fortune on craft stuff! The boys will probably go off to a waterpark or something.

 

[jen_uk]

Is there any way your mum could take a friend of her own? That way the pressure wouldnt all be on you to spend all your time with her and sometimes you and Scott could do your thing and your mum and someone could do theirs. I have to admit 2 weeks does sound like a long time to spend with someone you have had problems with, I think I would be tearing my hair out if I went with my mum for that long!

 

[Queenie]

Unfortunately my mum doesn't really have any friends of her own. The only person I can think of is someone she goes to swimming lessons with but this lady is much much older than her and wouldn't want to come. We've got it arranged so she'll be able to go off and do parks without us and we can meet up in the evening for dinner.

 

[diberry]

Great idea - I'd say you definitely need lots of time where you do separate things - it could cause explosions if you're together all the time. I think you're very brave - I really hope it all works out for you and you have a great time!! Looking on the bright side - the Disney magic could have a wonderful effect on your relationship!

 

[Minniespal]

I think going away and doing things separately is a very sensible idea. I have a very strong relationship with my mum and love her to bits. Having been to WDW with her 3 times now. Usually for us the first couple of days are fine and we will spend tons of time together. There gets a point in the holiday were we will split up. My mum sounds a little like yours where she would be quite happy to stay in the MK for the entire holiday. By separating we each get to do what we want and when we meet up for dinner we usually have lots to tell each other.

Hope this helps? Sending lots of 's and remember a holiday should be something you look forward to, not something that you can't wait to be over with

 

[KayleeUK]

All I can suggest is setting some ground rules before you go..... to you.

 

[wils]

No helpful advice - Mothers eh! Just wanted to send you a and tell you to try not to let it spoil your planning and your trip

 

[jns]

what about having a few days away down the coast or somewhere on your own
Just rember it is your hoilday TOO

Life is to short

sending you some and