Originally posted by MEM
You can count me among the people who think it is bad luck to kill a spider - I always re-locate them instead and fortunately married a man who feels the same way. I honestly think that a very early exposure to the book and movie Charlotte's Web instilled in me a respect for spiders. Also, my grandfather liked to let Daddy-longlegs crawl up his bare arm to show us they are harmless. I still don't want a spider in my hair, but that goes for bees, bats, and so on.
Anyone else raised this way? I received the same indoctrination about snakes.
Count me in with you...I was also raised the same way. Both my DM & DF have the indisputable "live and let live" philosophy...and this transcends to EVERY living creature on this earth.

I commend you for following in the path in which you were raised, and maintaining the lessons taught by your parents.
My own mother would gently pick up Daddy long legs, and "show" them to us. The same with Praying Mantis (The greens are the males, browns are the females), dragonflies, etc. My own DD has incorporated all of our lessons, and "saves" moths, spiders and beetles at school! All the classmates have known her nature for years, and know she is the one to call for removal of such creatures (from classrooms, etc). Even my own DH knows to grab a "cup" (AKA: transporter) when I call to him with a little sense of urgency (as I do not want the little invader to hide somewhere!). We have bats whom come out in the eves and fly a circular path overhead, consuming mosquitoes and other pests. They are incredible animals. I continue to be fascinated with the wild array of insects and other living creatures sharing this planet with all of us.
We have had some snakes (Colubrids), in our care (before releasing them back into the wild). I have literally come across the beautiful Black and White banded California KING snake while walking in our So. California outback. I have always reached down and carefully picked them up...just to admire them more closely for a moment, before releasing them. They are truly something to behold. They are the only snake on this coast which can kill a rattle snake,(not immune to venom but has tolerance towards it) ,yet they are SUCH gentle creatures.
I also LOVE Charlotte's web...as do DD & DH. There are MANY wonderful movies which raise awareness and a love for other creatures, such as:
*RIKKI TIKKI TAVI!
Oh, how I LOVE this story...and the mongoose!
*along with Orwell's Animal Farm, All Creatures GREAT & SMALL, BUGS LIFE, Jungle Book!...etc!!
"One can measure the greatness and moral progress of a nation by the manner in which it treats it's animals." (Mahatma Ghandi).
Even though my sister was raised in the same home, with the same parents...she is TERRIFIED of spiders. I think it began when she tried to swat at a giant BARN spider, and it JUMPED onto her head. It never hurt her...but she went BONKERS! She was about 15...and has never been the same (*with respect to spiders). She still screams when I say, "look at THAT spider" and RUNS in the opposite direction.
Most everyone whom dislikes spiders, either has had terrifying experiences in their youth...or simply does not stop to think of all the simple facts revealed in this thread...such as:
*Spiders are not evil.
*Spiders are not out to get us.
*Spiders RUN to get away!
*Spiders have a wonderful "purpose" on this earth.
*Spiders...(so much more).
One of my favorite aphorisms...
For in the end,
We will conserve only what we love,
We will love only what we understand,
We will understand only what we are taught.--Baba Dioum
DF99
