I don't get why people respond to someone's innocent question with so much attitude...boggles the mind!
There has been no 'attitude' here..no nastiness, no rudeness. There have been answers given that weren't what the OP was hoping for.
WOW-I am the OP and never would have thought a simple question would have gotten such "nasty" or "rude" remarks...maybe I should have went into detail about WHY I had to change my flight but really didn't think it would be necessary-for all of you who "assumed" I was the one being rude or nasty you are very mistaken..We have to change our reservation due to a medically necessary surgery...
as I see now yes we should have probably bought refundable tickets but never thought our lives would be turned upside down in a matter of days...I will never make the mistake again nor will I make the mistake of asking a simple question for any suggestions on a information board again.
Generally speaking, when someone says they have talked to 4 different people, about the exact same issue, it leads others to believe that there may very well have been some rudeness going on. It's an assumption..not always correct, but that's just human nature.
Here's the thing....Last year I really wanted to visit my dad in Florida for Christmas. There would be three of us flying from Mass to Ft. Lauderdale. BUT...my dad isn't in the best health. He's close to 84, has lung issues, heart issues. I am nothing if not realistic. So, knowing full well that life can, and does, change on a dime, I booked SW's business select flights....about $320, pp, each way. Yep, almost $2000 in fares for three people!!! I really couldn't afford it easily, but I also didn't want to be stuck with the lower, non-refundable fares (about $350 r/t pp) if something happened down south and we didn't make the trip. I figured better to spend the money up front and not have to worry about changes. Well...dad stayed reasonable healthy. And I was able to change our flight home to one of the cheap fares...and get a full refund to my credit card for the remaining balance.
I realize that not everyone is able to do that. And I realize that 'life happens'. But, we all need to be knowledgable in what we are buying. I know that right now, I have given thought to shortening my Dec trip to WDW...trying to save a bit. But....when I look at the difference in airfare, and what it will cost me to rebook my flight, plus the change fee...well, it makes no sense to shorten the trip. It's actually cheaper for me to just stay there.
In short....know what you are buying. Be ready to absorb any costs if you are going to have to make changes down the road.
Keep posting good info here....there is a reason there is no pixie dust here. What would happen if someone told the OP to go ahead and talk to the airline, they were sure that the airline would be happy to help them out...why? Because an airline had done a similar nice thing for them. Well.....that nice thing may very well have been an entirely different situation entirely. And the OP may try that but not come back here and let everyone know that it wasn't resolved the way they would have liked. But....someone else, lurking and not posting, may see some of the posts and go ahead and do something based on a post that while trying to be nice, caring and hopeful, was actually totally off base..which leads someone to do something that may make their situation even worse.
So, no. There is no pixie dust here. And quite frankly, I'm tired of defending that. Most people come here and get pretty good, dependable information. Yes, sometimes regulars here get a bit abrupt and straightforward in their answers. And yes..sometimes that rubs people the wrong way. And for that I'm sorry. But I will defend the vast majority as having only other people's best interests at heart....that they want to be helpful and give info that will answer other's issues. Holier than thou?? Not hardly. Most of those posting regularly here have a wealth of travel info. They travel frequently..some every other week, some less often. But, none the less....they are a huge resourse for others. We need to understand where they are coming from. You may not like their answers but those answers are usually right on the money.
To the OP...bellaphia...I really hope all is working out for you now. I hope life is okay, and that any issues you have had to face are being dealt with easily. Here's hoping you get that great vacation you are so looking forward to.