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[Serena]

My dd's bf is driving me crazy. She got mad and turned off her phone and now he won't stop calling me.

 

[Cruisin]

Tell him to stop being a pain in the butt and to stop calling you.

Or if that doesn't work just unplug the phone or shut off the ringers.

 

[Race the Reaper]

Make her deal with him. She shouldn't lump those type of problems on you.

 

[momrek06]

OMG, Serena and I know you both feel bad for him trying desperately to deal with his trust issues.

What is the status of DD and her BF? Are they still together? I know you mentioned her possibly leaving for the Military.

I would just "unplug" the phone and to HIM it will just ring and to you, you will hear nothing. I really do not how long you can do that, as I am sure you do not want the phone unplug 24/7. Wait until DAY TIME and if he continues to call, you need to tell him he needs to seriously "chill"!! And that he needs to stop calling you and that he and DD need to work this out alone in person.

Keep us posted.

 

[Serena]

He finally hung up again.

I have a hard time being mean to anyone, especially someone already hurting. I just don't know what to tell him to make him feel better.

 

[figment52]

I don't recommend unplugging the phone - that cuts YOU off from anyone else that wants to call YOU. Tell the kid to cool it and when your dd is ready she will get in touch with him.

 

[Serena]

Finally! My kid is coming home so she can deal with him. You're right, I shouldn't have to.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Hmmmmm....I'm beginning to understand why this guy is divorced.

 

[Serena]

Well, after a looong sleepless night, he showed up this morning at 7 and he hasn't left yet. I guess they made up. peachy!
My momma taught me to never be rude to a guest in my home. But, he is seriously testing my patience.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I've read your other threads about the couple drama and honestly it sounds like right now neither needs to be in a relationship or semi relationship. Your daughter shouldn't put her relationship problems on you and I sure as heck wouldnt have him on my phone all the time. I would talk to your daughter about being a rebound and needy people. She cannot be the center of this young man's universe. He sounds like he needs counseling. You have much more patience for the nonsense than I do.

 

[Serena]

Well, they promised never to do that again.

But I know my daughter. I love her to death, but she seems to do things that will create the most worry and drama. I'm just grateful it doesn't include weapons and drugs.

 

[Deb in IA]

I am still very worried about both you and your DD, Serena.


Be careful, OK?

 

[MAKmom]

I feel your pain. Call Block is my advise. Tell him she went to the Mall.

 

[RadioNate]

You daughter seriously needs to get this guy out of her life. This is NOT a healthy relationship.

I think you need to talk to a domestic violence center. I know there is no physical violence but this guy is emotionally manipulative to your daughter and you! She needs to break it off without things turning ugly. I do not trust this guy.

Your DD is better than this, she needs to realize this. I think the military might be a good idea. It gets her away from him for awhile. You, however, need to be strong and not tolerate him constantly calling and showing up at all hours. That is not normal behavior.

I'm worried about you both.

 

[Serena]

I agree, not healthy at all. And that she keeps reassuring me that everything is alright bothers me too.
I've got some talking with my daughter to do.