guy help.

[pinktink00]

Hey I am a long time poster on these boards but didnt want to post this under my username. Ok, I guess I am having some trouble with this guy. We have been going out for a few days and he really likes me, I mean really. I like him too, but I dont think I like him anything close to how much he likes me. I told him today that I want to slow things down mentally, as I dont want him to end up getting hurt, even his friends have told him to be careful, and I agree with them frankly. I havent gotten his response as I emailed it to him [because he is in school now]. I guess I am just kind of scared that this will distract me for life and things like that. Any Advice?

 

[Lil_Tink]

Hmm well thats good you told him how you felt. I guess just good luck with any decision you decide to make.

 

[pacificnorthwester]

I used to have a guy who had a MAJOR crush on me. . .and at the beginning it was fun and I flirted back. Over the next couple of months I began noticing that his strong infatuation turned into downright stalking! At dances he would stay within a five foot radius the entire time and ask me to dance like 4 times out of 7 slow songs scaring away any other guy who would want to dance with me(please note that in my religion I can't date until I'm 16 so until then I wanted to get comfortable around more then 1 guy. . .) I found out from his sister that he was basically planning the wedding and planning for me to home school his children! since then I've stopped encouraging his flirting. . .But since I ever encouraged it in the first place I feel guily like I led him on. . .So just be prepared to accept the consequences of dating a guy with stronger feelings then your own maybe it will work out for you. . .maybe you'll end up with a story like mine.

 

[MissPotatoHead]

yea...i totally agree. you have to tell guys how you feel or they will just try to go...farther - if you know what i mean. (at least some guys do.)

if he likes you that much...he will slow things down...until they are the way you want them, lol.

well...good luck with everything...hope it all works out well.

hope i helped a little bit, at least.

- steph -