Guilty or NOT Guilty ????

[Gaiusrex]

I would feel guilty. But my kids are much younger.

What if you brought everybody and the kids could drag the grandparents around while you go off and do more adult things. This is what I'm doing this Nov. I know my situation is different, but if you have to ask the question, then you probably feel guilty.

 

[DBLG]

By the sounds of it this isn't your first, nor your last trip...

not guilty

 

[excitedmom]

guilty. i could never vacation without the kids. not that i couldn't have a romantic getaway, just not to someplace that i know my kids would love. my kids are 4 and 8yrs so i still have some seperation anxiety when we are away from them lol. not that i'm saying you should feel guilty, just that i would.

 

[threeboysmom]

Definately NOT GUILTY!!!

The relationship between husband and wife is just as precious as the relationships with our children. We NEED time alone to be together & keep the relationship going strong & intact. My DH and I have taken several trips now to WDW without our three boys. It's an entirely different vacation with the kids and without the kids. You will experience WDW in a whole new way - see things with new eyes. Some of our favorite times were without the kids and I don't feel guilty saying that. So often as moms we get so caught up in the care of our children 24/7 that we neglect our husbands in the process.

Go and enjoy every moment of your trip! If your children are anything like mine, a trip to Grandma's *IS* just as good as a trip to WDW. My kids would be the first to admit that!! Of course, they are getting older - ages 7, 12 and 14..... not sure how old your kids are....

 

[horner5]

NOT GUILTY!

Been there, done that, and doing it again sometime next Spring without the kidlets to take advantage of AP's. I absolutely love going with my kids, but there's something special about going as a couple alone--you really can take the time to appreciate more.

Enjoy yourselves and Happy Anniversary!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Not Guilty!!! And neither am I...

We're going soon (yay!!!) without our kids and I don't feel guilty. My 4yo was at WDW in February and will be there again in December. I'll be bringing my 10yo in January. For that I feel a little guilty for not bringing my older kids (13 and 16yo), but they really can't miss school and have made it clear that vacationing with the family is not high on thier list of fun things to do.

My in-laws will be watching the kids while we are gone and we'll only be gone for 4 nights.

T&B

 

[leighe]

NOT GUILTY - My parents took an anniversary trip every year - sometimes even to WDW and we never thought anything about it or were sad we weren't going. We always stayed with our grandparents and had a great time. DH and I take an anniversary trip every year and will continue to do so when we have kids. It's your 10th! A biggie! Go and do all the grown up stuff you can't experience with kids with you!

 

[ChairborneRangr]

Definately NOT GUILTY!!!!

we did that for our 15th (2000). left DS 14, DD 12, DD 8, and DD 3 with my mom and had a great time!

BTW I had gone in 1977 (13 yr old) but no one else in the family had been yet. We took the the family, extended family, friends etc in 2003. Also had a great time, but we will always remember that special time when we were there alone.

It is always best to live your life daily like it could be your last. Time with your kids should be special, but time with your spouse should be too.

Before you feel too bad for them my kids have been to DLR multiple times, and through 30+ states and multiple countries.

 

[Mickey's Sister]

I don't intend to tell you how you should feel, because everyone's life experiences are different. What is the most important thing to you now? Being alone with your wife? Sharing one more great Disney experience with your kids? Only you & your wife can know that. Not to sound morbid, but if you only had so much time, what would you want to do most?

To offer a different perspective... My husband & I stopped doing alone things after our son was born. We had several years of doing exciting & romantic things together before our son's arrival & so wanted to concentrate on him. Granted he was a little guy. When our son was 3, my husband died very suddenly & unexpectedly of a heart attack. I'm so very glad we shared everything as a family because my son needed that time much more than we needed more alone adult time.

My point - none of us knows what is coming tomorrow. So weigh your priorities accordingly. No one can tell you the right answer for you. There have been many excellent points here on both sides of the issue, but each was the right answer for that particular poster.

Whatever decision you make, don't feel guilty! Live your life!!!

Jessica

 

[sue1013]

NOT GUILTY. You will have a great time, its such a different trip without the kids. I feel its very important to get away and just take care of each other every once in a while. For the family to remain strong your marriage needs to.

 

[poohkinandpiglet]

I just wanted to add:

I know it's hard to leave the kids behind. You said that your kids have been to WDW 15 times and they're only 9 and 6. It's not like they are being NEGLETED in any way!

I haven't been to WDW 15 times and I'm 37. Enjoy your
"grown-ups only" vacation and continue to take time to nurture your marriage. That's the best thing you can do for your kids.

 

[DiznEeyore]

Originally posted by poohkinandpiglet
I just wanted to add:

I know it's hard to leave the kids behind. You said that your kids have been to WDW 15 times and they're only 9 and 6. It's not like they are being NEGLETED in any way!

I haven't been to WDW 15 times and I'm 37. Enjoy your
"grown-ups only" vacation and continue to take time to nurture your marriage. That's the best thing you can do for your kids.

ITA and couldn't have said it better myself!!

And FWIW, dh and I have made several trips to WDW w/out ds ... truthfully I always feel a bit guilty at first, but that disappears after about 5 minutes of enjoying the World with my dh!!!

 

[Pooh67_68]

Not Guilty, go, have a great time.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Look at my first countdown clock.....

But.....I would feel a little guilty if I wasn't going back with the whole family the next month. A mother's guilt-it never lets up...

 

[verchad]

We have a 4 year old and celebrated our tenth Anniversary ( wow it's gone by quickly ) in March. We didn't do anything too big but we did have our daughter stay with some relatives for a few days. Outside of that time we have pretty much been with her all of her life. She enjoyed playing/staying with her cousins. You miss your kids but it's nice to get some time together too.

Verdict - NOT GUILTY!

 

[desiab]

NOT GUILTY

When my husband and I got married 5 1/2 years ago I already had a three year old. The first years we did almost everything with her. Then her brother came along in 2001 and same with him.

I went back to school and with daily life we seem to lose touch with each other and our marriage. This pass November my husband decided we needed some alone time. We made plans to go to Disney for a week. I felt so guilty the first few days there that I almost cried. :frown Then the quiet room, nice restaurants, clean shirts (no food), and adult beverages started appealing to me.

While I missed my kids I feel like my husband and I connected in a way that we hadn't for a while.

This next anniversary may be different because we just found out we are expecting the third. My mother for some reason is adamantly opposed to me leaving my children, but not my brother leaving his even though his are younger. Go figure!

I believe that hubby and I need some time to regroup as a couple to be of the most benefit to our kids as parents.

I say go and enjoy being a married couple!

 

[bigbabyblues]

NOT GUILTY!!!

DH and I plan to do the same thing in the spring....

 

[kbkids]

Definitely NOT GUILTY!

DH and I did the same thing this past February. My kids are 6 and 3, and I've lost count on how many times they've been to Disney. DH and I had a blast shopping in Epcot without someone whining "when are we going?" We loved going through the Walt Disney exhibit in MGM - something my kids would have never lasted through. Not to mention how much we enjoyed the hot tub and massage!! - definitely couldn't have done that without the kids.

And yes, they stayed with Grandma and weren't concerned in the least they we were going without them.

Have fun and enjoy it!

 

[Tinkerbell04]

Hands down---NOT GUILTY....they wouldn't feel guilty if your daughters were going with another family memberor a friend, would they?

 

[sorchamac]

Time alone together is important, but do you really need a week? At Disney? That is a little brutal to the kids. Granted, they've been there tons (and maybe it's time to expand their horizons a little - it is a big world out there...). We just had an overnight getaway for our 10th anniversary. We were gone from the kids for 30 hours, and it felt like two weeks of refreshment. DH and I really connected again, doing things that would be much harder with the kids (4 and 6). But any longer than that and we both would have missed them too much. But that's just us. We are lucky to have lots of vacation time (4 weeks a year each) at our jobs, and we like to spend it as a family.

Guilty or Not Guilty? Well, that's for you to decide yourself, but, it's not something that I could do. Go away together yes, but not for a week at Disney.