Guess what? They cancelled 7 days out!

[eileenfk]

Originally posted by lenshanem
Eileen, wow you're an angel!

Thank you.

I think that a large part of a person's quality of life comes from how one feels about oneself.
Often doing for others adds to this.
So maybe there really is no such thing as an unselfish act.
But some actions (even if not completely unselfish) are really less selfish then others.
And at this point in my life, I feel very much less selfish.
And if I gain nothing else, I improve my own feeling of my self worth (although sometimes I feel stupid when things related to the whole situation end up hurting me).

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone
(although I suspect that very few people read this deep into a thread.).

- Eileen

 

[dallastxcpa]

To the OP; it truly is so gracious of you to think of the children. Someday they will be of an age were they are no longer fooled by things adults tell them and I think they will have a great respect for you.

I hope you have a wonderful vacation.

 

[canwegosoon]

Sorry to hear about all this conflict. HAve a great time, by yourselves.

 

[wilderness01]

Later, when the pressure is off, gently educate your DH on the necessity of working with you as a team before making decisions.



You are a nicer person than I because I would have cancelled on them. Do they already have your tickets? If not I would tell them they could purchase their own. It is enough you are providing a resort for them. How can anyone except anything more?

Hope you have a nice trip.

 

[timC]

Gee... no advice but thanks for the post. We were half thinking about booking a grand villa and invite DW's DB and family to join us. But, I can envision a similar scenario messing things up... We've nix'd that plan.

 

[dianeschlicht]

Let me get this straight....They are staying in a DVC unit you reserved for them, they have tickets you paid for, and you are ruining their vacation???? I think I would cancel the room and let them stay at All stars. Oh, and on their dime!

 

[PHILCT]

I have been frustrated with relatives who would like to be invited on a trip, yet seem to ignore my own desires and the fact that I am in control of my own DVC membership:

I desire to go to Disneyworld, repeatedly, yes I am addicted to the Mouse.
Their attempts to decide where in the DVC network "they" want to go,
they are bored with the Mouse.

My desire to sleep in the master bedroom.
Their desiire to use the master bedroom, and have me on the couch.

My desire to go Sunday through Thursday off season, in order to allow for
more points used on another trip. (And I love October and December at Disney). Their desire to go only in March or April, and at least for 7 or 8 nights. They think going to Florida for 5 nights isn't worth it and not unless the temperature is above 85 degrees. And even then, they will complain about how hot it is in April.

Their desire to invite extra people, but not willing to sleep in the same room with them, even if there is an empty bed next to them.
There most frequent question: Can't I buy more points?

Ironically these same relatives when planning their own vacations, will
pack 5 or more people in one motel room, and go off season, and for a limited time period.

Sometimes giving till it hurts can be painful !

I am thankful for all of the OTHER relatives and friends who are not like that and are much more appreciative of a vacation gift !

 

[barbnbrian]

Man, I can't wait to hear how this trip went!

Freetime, please give us an update when you return. Hope you were able to have an enjoyable time!

 

[mom23boys]

Wow, I am sorry you are going through this. I hope you can enjoy vacation, do not let them ruin your plans.

Keep us posted.

Sharon

 

[CRSNDSNY]

There most frequent question: Can't I buy more points?

 

[GoofyBanker]

Thanks for all of the responses everyone! You will never guess what happened now! They called us and didn't apologize and told us that we still owe them the tickets and the room and they will find their own way. I wouldn't have given them a thing. But they are DH's family and he said "fine, take it and don't ever expect me to do anything for you again." Can you believe that?! They expect to go on their own and worse DH agreed! I have to give him credit though because he said the gift was for their kids too, and the kids can't help it that they have stupid, selfish (no, they have not said thank you) parents. And of course we will always be the table family that ruined their only vacation that they ever got, one way or another. So now I feel that my trip is ruined. DH says it is not because now we can go and do what we want and not have to worry about them asking for more when we get there and we can have a good ole time with just us. I want to try to find something in the DC so I can be as far away from them as possible. DH says "why should we punish ourselves any more then we are already being punished by being cramped when we have a 2br at OKW."
I just had to vent!!!!!!!! DVC was never menat to be a nightmare!

R U kidding me, DVC is not the nightmare, you & your spouse OVERLY generous nature is the culprit here. Unfortunately in life you have sheep and wolves, you folks are the sheep in this encounter and I suspect this is not the first time your good nature and generosity have been taken advantage of. Learn from this incredibly dumb mistake and never repeat it. You have to be more perceptive of those with whom you associate and become a better judge of character, lest you will always be as sheep and continue to be "sheared".

 

[ArRzrbk]

I remember your original post well, and I am so sorry this happened. And there is no way to really make you feel better about what happened. That is just awful.

I'll have to agree with one of the other posters that sometimes you have to let the toxic friends in your life go. I don't mean be ugly about it. I just mean move on with your life. Each of us has a certain amount of time and energy to devote to others, and if it's a lost cause, sometimes, when your hand or offer is refused, you have to be strong enough to walk away.

Anyway, take heart. Whether you go on the trip alone, use the double secret restore option, rent out your points (it's not as hard as you think), put them in holding, find another friend or loved one to go with you...it's all going to be OK.

In every life a little rain must fall

But that rain is needed for the flowers to grow. Hope you see some pop up soon.

Char

 

[barbnbrian]

Remember what FreeTime said, these people are her husbands "relatives", not "toxic friends". It might not be so easy to erase these people from her life. We can pick and choose our friends, but we can't pick our relatives.

 

[crisi]

Sure you can. My family hasn't talked to my Uncle Don in years. We didn't invite my BIL to WDW with us because he might bring his wife - who we can't stand (soon to be ex wife - yea!!!!! Love my BIL, but the man has lousy taste in women). Haven't seen my husband's sister for several years. You can't pick your relatives, but you can choose to spend time with them or not. And if family dynamics make it such that you need to show up at Thanksgiving and they will be there, there really isn't much of a reason to do anything than make occational polite small take (I have two aunts that have pulled off polite small talk at family events for twenty years).

PhilCT, I've noticed that its much easier for other people to spend my money than it is me. They probably see it as a huge favor. "Oh, how nice of you to spend my money for me, I hope you will let me return the favor, as I think you guys should buy a new car, I like that little Audi TT." I've also noticed that my time spends easily if I let others do that as well. Actually, the statement I gave when my brother in law (my side) was planning a family vacation and thought I could "just book connecting cabins" on a cruise ship if there weren't cabins that sleep four was "Boy, my money spends fast when you spend it. Good thing I sign the checks."

 

[kathleena]

Hey FreeTime - Don't know if I missed an update or not - but was wondering how your trip went?????