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[astine75]

Anyone else out there have a spouse who is a major "why do we need to do that?" kind of person when you tell them about the great deal or whatever you have planned? I was telling DH about the stroller and photopass shares I found and his responses were less than enthusiatic. Mind you, this will be the same man who will be happy afterwards that we did both. Argh. Drives me batty.

 

[cg.x.5]

Dear Astine,

There is only one way to cure him. LEAVE HIM AT HOME! My DH is the king of complaining about how much every thing costs, ect. Regardless of whether or not he is having fun, he always has to toss in that caveat. So I learned the best way for me and my gang to have a great time at Disney, is to "allow" him to stay at home. I pack up my kids, and my mom, (major Disney fan) and we have the time of our lives every time!

Plan B might be to not discuss those hard found deals and bargains. ( even though you want to brag a little)

 

[Princess Sleepy]

OMG! So glad it's not just me. He has never been to WDW before and is questioning everything I say about everything. But, he doesn't want to read any of the planning books or websites or anything. And, I know he will have a good time once we get there, he just has to roll his eyes at me for a year before we go. It's not just a Disney thing either. I do all our vacation planning because he just isn't a planner, but then it's all my fault if something goes wrong. And somehow I never get the credit when things go well. I spent hours and hours planning our trip to the Black Hills last summer with his sister and her family. When we got home he said we got really lucky because everything went so smoothly. I'm thinking, luck had nothing to do with it. It was all those nights I sat up until 2 am figuring out driving distances, looking for online coupons, and making reservations. He can be so annoying. Luckily, it's one of his few really annoying habits so we will have lots of fun once we get there. Thanks for the chance to commiserate.

 

[dzneelvr]

I agree with plan B. share your finds with your disboard friends and DH will be none the wiser

 

[la79al]

My DH threw a fit when we got to DW on our last trip and had to figure out where our fridge was that I signed up for through a fridge swap. And you should have heard him reminding me last week to make sure I sign up for one for our next trip (in 2010).

 

[MamaCoog]

You are surely not alone! My husband AND dad are both like this. My dad still complains to this day that I "scheduled all these difficult meals" during our last trip to WDW. I only made 3 ADR's for our whole trip, dinner at Ohana & WCC and breakfast at Kona (which I cancelled after all the griping from the men). I didnt think that was excessive at all & everyone had a great time at both of the dinners. But he still has to make comments about it to this day. I know some of the time, he is just playing around but it still makes me a little upset. Its irritating to have people that are unappreciative of all the planning and hard work that goes into making a trip nice for everyone. My husband picks on me about all the planning but he is grateful after the fact when he doesnt have to think about anything... I already made his choices for him!

 

[asoko]

I completely understand. DH also does that at Christmas time. Doesn't buy one present for anyone and complains when I tell him what I bought people. I just end up not telling him what we are going to do until we are doing it. That way it's too late to complain

 

[VeroBeachGirl]

That would annoy me to no end! DH loves my compulsive planning wherever we go! He is always happy to have the "inside scoop" and often says that our vacations are always so nice because we know what we're doing.

 

[BelleOfTheBall76]

Wow, I so thought I was probably one of a few with a grumpy husband when it comes to planning our WDW vacation. I keep pumping our kids up for our first ever trip to Disney and he keeps knocking all of us down with... "with the economy is...we may not be going". Uh, we're going! We have not been on a family vacation in probably 3 years and I think this will totally make up for that. He is just fighting me so hard! He keeps listening to a bunch of "negative" reviews from the men he works with. UGH! I keep offering the "you don't have to go" option and he won't take it.
I've decided to just not talk too much about our trip so I can stop getting so frustrated and annoyed with him. Wonder how long that will last!

 

[mcottovs]

Add me to the list. Mine is not a Disney fan and grumbled about it the whole way. But I know he had a good time. He's been grumbling about going back but now I just ignore him!

 

[3princesses+aprince]

Oh my god, that's great!!! I am not the only one with a husband like this. Right around Christmas time we started talking (or rather I started talking about Disney) and he did not want to hear it, it was too expensive.... the economy, blah, blah, blah.... In just 1 month I got him all figured out. We are all getting excited about going now, even him... But I do not talk to him about the money part of it. He doesn't even know what the total of the whole trip is. And I won't tell him either, until it's paid off. By that time he won't care, because it will be all set. We just booked the rooms saturday, and I did not even mention he $400 deposit that I just paid. All is well when the money part of the trip is not discussed. Other than that he is very excited to be going. A month back I couldn't even get him to talk about it with me... Now he is bringing it up on his own... He makes me so HAPPY when he does that... Husbands......

 

[mickeyluvr004]

Hello all I just wanted to chime in and say that this is also my hubby like last year I made reservations at Whispering Canyon at the Wilderness Lodge and all he did was complain that he did not want to go there yada yada yada and then we went and all he says is Oh I can't wait to go back there that was great and make sure next year this is on the list of places we need to go and even more than once And this from the man who hates to try new things So I feel your pain Ladies Are they all related somehow

 

[astine75]

Shew. I'm glad to hear I'm not alone. I think I'm taking the don't tell him the cost or details approach. I'll advise him on a need to know basis. The crazy thing is, planning for things like this he couldn't care less for - but if it was tailgating for Notre Dame, he'd have it planned all out. Why, since they will just lose anyway, I don't know - causing him to come home GRUMPY to the 10th degree. Argh. MEN!!!

 

[zigfam4]

Wow - so great to find a thread that I can relate to. This is our first family vacation EVER and my girls will be 6 and 4. DH is NOT looking forward to the crowds and cannot understand why we have to my ADR's 90 days in advance - he thinks it's a whole bunch of patooey and overrated! Besides that, he says I'm planning this family trip for myself, not because my two DD's want to go. According to him, if they're no asking to go then why go! I'm hoping and praying he'll be a convert once I get him there - he'll see the joy in his two DD's eyes and realize he wants to go back again and again and again and again......until we get annual passes and a timeshare - just like my step-sister and her husband! I can hope, right?!

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I decided to join this board because my wife is tired of hearing me talk about Disney year round. My wife let's me plan (though she wants to pick the restaurants), but she doesn't want to hear about it until a week or so before we go. She enjoys Disney, but would be just as happy vacationing somehwere else.

If I keep my mouth shut about my planning, she doesn't complain. Fortunately she doesn't complain when we are there...

 

[wdwmom0f3]

My Dh does not complain to much but I also have him figured out. I do all of the planning. I tell him how much I need each payday and I get everything paid for in advance, with the dining plan. This way he does not freak out on me while we are there about how much this & that is. It's all about the money with him, and Disney is expensive. I have to tip toe around some of it though...