GRR, sometimes I really HATE people.

[icebrat001]

I live and work in an very upper middle class/affulent area.

I have 2 jobs, one as a pre-school teacher and another as a guest services person at a very small hotel.

Since working at this hotel, (5 months), I have been called a N_gger, a Witch (b), black trash, ghetto, a piece of crap, every name in the book. These are the same people that love me and praise me on the phone (because according to them, I sound very "white" on the phone)

Why do these people have to be so mean to me?

This 80 year old lady just called me the B word and the N word and I didn't even do anything! She called and asked me how to retrieve a message and when I tried to explain she wouldn't listen, she said she doesn't take directions from N_iggers like me, black people don't deserve jobs like this and proceded to yell at me call me the B word and hung up the phone. I called her back and told her that yelling at me was not acceptable and I would report her to the manager. I called the manager and the manager said oh she was such a sweet lady are you sure you didn't misunderstand her.

My manager know's I'm not making it up, she just doesn't want to make the guest angry and she doesn't want to lose money. If people can afford to stay at our hotel and pay $200+ a night, they should have manners.

I'm so sad

Thank goodness I am off tomorrow and she checks out.

The same thing happens at the preschool. People think I'm not good enough to teach their children because I'm not white. Guess what, those same kids are the ones that love me to death, only listen to me and try to cuddle and cling under me all day.

I just don't get it.



Now I get to hate myself for being black and being gay. and I'm stuck here for another 45 minutes, I just want to go home.

 

[Michie]

 

[quiteblonde]

Don't let the jerks get you down. They will have to answer for their actions at one point or another.

 

[canwegosoon]

I'm sorry that people are just plain rude...if it makes you feel any better (or makes you laugh) I have been called the N word...and I am as white as they come. Some people really get kicks on putting others down. I am hoping a better job or at least an improved enviroment comes your way!!!

 

[luvthatduke]

No one deserves to be treated like that.
If your manager won't do the right thing,
especially with the horrible racial epithets,
perhaps it's time to find another job?
I wouldn't want to stay there.

 

[DisneyMomOK]

That is so sad. I am so sorry that people would say mean, hateful things. Could this woman possibly be suffering from dementia? I know my MIL said lots of horrendous things prior to her death, but I knew it was not she speaking, rather the illness that consumed her. sometimes she seemed fine and then other times not the same person, at all. Parents who say hateful things are probably jealous of their children's affection for you.

Hopefully, tomorrow will be a much, much better day!

Sharon

 

[DisneyMomOK]

OOPS! Double post. My bad.

 

[JerryMoCricketsGal]

I am truly appalled that people in this world are so (&()&)^*^ (sorry, i'm trying to refrain from cussing here) ignorant.

There is absolutely NO reason for that to be considered acceptable, regardless of how much someone is paying per night for a room, or who the heck wants to kiss who's butt...

Apparently the person has no education or they would know the meaning of the word they seemed to want to berate you with, so, technically, they are projecting their own ignorance.

This woman is so far beneath you that she feels she must use racism as a way to 'up' herself; but, the reality is, she is a lowlife POS that will die old and lonely. No amount of money in the world can buy class, and she knows that.

I am truly sorry that you were treated like that. It is unexcuseable.

 

[icebrat001]

No one deserves to be treated like that.
If your manager won't do the right thing,
especially with the horrible racial epithets,
perhaps it's time to find another job?
I wouldn't want to stay there.

We are moving to Florida at the end of June, I have to keep this job and the other one until we close on our house.

Also, the pay is good, and I work 4 8 hour shifts a week, but I really only do 2 hours of work and 6 hours of DIS'ing, but even then dealing with the guest I deal with and dealing with a manager that doesn't care, the money and the DIS benefit doesn't even seem worth it anymore.

 

[Texan Mouseketeer]

I don't know which is worse, the old hag or the manager for questioning you like you got it wrong? I'm so sorry, that is ridiculous. If there is anyway you could find another job, that sure would help your stress level...

 

[UrsulasMyHero]

I'm sorry that the ignorance that some people harbor is being taken out on you. I'm also sorry that your manager isn't willing to buck up and do what needs to be done. Unfortunately there's little that you can do in your position, other than walk out and let them know that you are not going to be treated so poorly. You could file a complaint that you told your manager that you were being harassed, but that the manager failed to take action, I just don't think that's what you want to do.

I hope that you know that you are a creative, bright and beautiful person. And that the racial epithets thrown at you are out of ignorance and self loathing.

 

[miss missy]

Hey girl, hugs to you. I so want you to know they are not well people! Don't let them get a hold of your heart and mind.

When people act the way you described, it is them that is flawed. Do not give any of yourself to them by being upset. Forgive them and you can be free. You keep your control of your life when you do not give them the power to hurt you. Their weakness is not your problem, by getting upset, they take your power. I know this sounds easier said than done, but YOU can do it. Forgive and let go. Step back and be sad that they are the way they are.

Does that even make sense?

 

[ilovepcot]

Really, really sorry this has happened! I can't help but think the manager is "hedging" because if she "pretends" to not believe you got the message straight, then she won't have to act on it. She's taking the lazy way out and not doing her job. Shame on her for not having the skills to move in and handle the situation in a professional manner! I recommend this: Close your eyes and repeat to yourself, " I'm moving to FL and meeting "Pcot", moving to FL and meeting "Pcot"

 

[icebrat001]

Really, really sorry this has happened! I can't help but think the manager is "hedging" because if she "pretends" to not believe you got the message straight, then she won't have to act on it. She's taking the lazy way out and not doing her job. Shame on her for not having the skills to move in and handle the situaiton in a professional manner! I recommend this: Close your eyes and repeat to yourself, " I'm moving to FL and meeting "Pcot", moving to FL and meeting "Pcot"

Lol you know SO is getting burnt out from her job, you know the whole PE thing with the middle schoolers and 9th graders. She was looking online for a job that pays very well in Florida and she spent the day building her resume and applied for the job. She said if she gets hired, she's leaving.

Maybe we should stop California dreamin' and start Florida dreamin'

 

[ilovepcot]

FL or CA....just have dreams. Any dream that will enrich your life and give it purpose.

 

[Sparx]

I wouldn't be able to work there very long if people were calling me names like that. Skin color isn't something you can help, adn some people *cough* mean little old ladies*cough* need to realize that.

I'm sorry she said that to you.

 

[Alice's Mom]

AWFUL! I can't believe someone would feel its okay to speak that way!!!

She said this over the phone because she knew it was unacceptable behavior and didn't want witnesses to her ignorance and hatefulness!!

You're a great person, don't let people completely beneath you get you down, I know its tough, but thankfully you'll never see her again.

 

[Pugdog007]

Wow that happened in CA? The land of liberals? That's really shocking. We get a bad rap down in the South... and I don't know anyone who would ever say something like that or that even feels that way in private. Every area is essentially racially diverse here. Maybe that's why?

 

[Stephanie218]

that's horrible! i can't believe people still say those things --- hope things get better for you soon

 

[Planogirl]

I think that are creeps everywhere who just feel like being abusive and will every insult they can think of. I'm so sorry that you're running into such people.