Groom at a Bridal Shower?

[ChloroFiend]

OK Ladies-

We're having 3 wedding/bridal showers....1 here in Chicago, 1 in Des Moines thrown by Katy's mom's co-workers, and another in Madison thrown by her Aunt's. I maintain that the Groom does not attend the showers, that its a girl thing...she says that I should be there since many of the attendees have never met me. What's y'all's take on it?

 

[bridetobe789]

In my family they are typically for JUST the bride to be.. I wouldn't mind if df joined though but I know for a fact he wouldn't be interested ! Something about a buncha women all in the same room.. oh my..

 

[MegKate]

I would pay money to see Rob (DF) in a room with a bunch of women. Typically they are just for women, but if you're brave enough take down that archaic notion!

 

[Ember]

My groom attended, he played photographer. He relayed that it was boring, but I was happy to have all the pictures to scrapbook!

 

[lurkyloo]

Let's see... I had one all-female bridal shower, and then my work surprised me with one and secretly got DH to be there. So it was him and then all my male and female co-workers. When we looked up after opening all the presents, we noticed most of the guys had sneaked back to their desks...

 

[lpizzuro123]

My DF did not attend but he brought me there and picked me up. He knew about the shower (it was a surprise for me). When he got there he made the rounds and said hello to everyone. He then left and showed up just in time for the cake cutting and helping me carry our gifts home.

Linda

 

[Anna2984]

I thought if the DF comes its a Jack & Jill type shower. We are having one of those next month, and then Im having 2 others that will be just women.

With the Jack/Jill shower, we arent doing a traditional shower. We are doing a 'stop by and have tea' over 3 hours. That way the other husbands that come dont have to stay long either. I guess its more of a meet and greet type thing now that i think about it

 

[MegKate]

I thought if the DF comes its a Jack & Jill type shower. We are having one of those next month, and then Im having 2 others that will be just women.

With the Jack/Jill shower, we arent doing a traditional shower. We are doing a 'stop by and have tea' over 3 hours. That way the other husbands that come dont have to stay long either. I guess its more of a meet and greet type thing now that i think about it

I like that idea!

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

My DF will be there with my dad but they are hanging out at the bar in the country club. They will make an appearance to get some food and then wait around to haul out the presents but it will be all women.

 

[Princesskeyblade]

My family it is tradition for the groom to be there....

My DF looks forward to being the only man surrounded by women!

 

[Mocharilla]

My DF will be there for the presents, but absent for the rest.

We did the same thing for our baby shower. He hung out in the basement with video games and stuff until presents at the end, when he helped open them.

 

[disneygal922]

Every shower I've been to the groom has been in attendence along with the father of the bride and the father of the groom.

My one sister actually had a 'wedding shower' instead of a 'bridal' shower. This way the men didn't feel uncomfortable and even some of my uncles showed up for it!

 

[padisneyfour]

I have been to several of these with both men and women attending for both the bride and groom. It made for more of a friendly gathering than a "shower" but there were gifts for both bride and groom individually as well as for the couple too..

 

[CoP Luv]

Out of our three showers, my mom MADE him come to our side of the family's, so DH MADE his dad and brother come too. My father was also required to go and take pictures. For his side's shower thrown by his mom, he showed up at the end with his brother. For the last one, he didn't come at all.

 

[maraki527]

My dh came at the end of the shower after I had opened up the gifts we opened gifts from family together. He brought me a big bouquet of flowers and smaller ones for the mothers, grandmothers, and sisters.

 

[esbrick]

We are having 2 showers and 1 luncheon. I am originally from NY but I live in Chicago now. So I had my NY shower last week, I believe my Chicago shower is sometime this weekend because my mom is flying out but I'm not suppose to know about it! My boss' wife is having a lunch for me at their house for my work family. I am very blessed and lucky.

For my shower last weekend DF and my dad came in for 2 minutes to help my mother carry something and then they both came back at the end to meet people and carry the gifts to the car. Otherwise they and my MOH's husband and father in law went to a restaurant nearby and had a nice afternoon at the bar with food and drinks. Fun was had by all!

Remember, you are both a little stressed, and Katy may be more nervous then you realize. Maybe you could go in for a few minutes in the beginning, get her settled, go out during the shower and then come back at the end and mingle with her. That may be a good compromise? Just a thought

 

[bridetobe789]

Not trying to take over the post ..

But what did you guys do about people who are wanting to come or throw you a shower that know they aren't invited to the wedding. I know typically you don't invite people who aren't coming to the wedding but some people are mentioning they want to do or come to a bridal shower although they know we are having a small destination wedding.. ?

 

[not_Joanna_eggs]

We are doing a "couples" shower, and because we're planning on getting married in late January - our shower will double as a holiday party - to make it seem less akward. We're inviting everyone to the shower and everyone to the wedding, knowing that most people will come to the shower, not the wedding. We decided to do this in lieu of an at-home reception, as the timing and everything will work much better for us that way.

My parents have been invited to several showers like this, their friend's children who are getting married across the country... the parents throw a shower for them in their home town - and it's all couples. It's more informal than a reception, but everyone still can come to celebrate.