Grieving at Disneyland?

[JennCa]

I'm sorry for your loss. People, even "adults" sometimes are uncomfortable when difficult situations arise. They may not know HOW to be supportive so instead just ignore/avoid. Grieving is something that each person does in their own way and whatever you choose will be great. Being supportive is also something that people do in different ways.

Crying is natural and I wouldn't worry about what anyone else would think except you : )

Jenn

 

[onesadduck]

Well, today's the day! We are headed to Disneyland today and will be at DCA on Friday. I hope things go alright. Wish me luck (I guess). I'll post more tonight or tomorrow.

 

[rosiep]

Well, today's the day! We are headed to Disneyland today and will be at DCA on Friday. I hope things go alright. Wish me luck (I guess). I'll post more tonight or tomorrow.

All the pixie dust in the world for you and your family. After you've digested your trip be sure to let us know how it went and how you're doing.

 

[disneymom8589]

All the best to you and your family on your trip. We will look forward to hearing about your time there, if you still wish to share.

 

[flying_babyb]

Honey! I feel you. We just got back from disney. Duren the 3rd day of the trip we recieved a call saying our grandmother was dying, expected to go in the next few hours. It was hard but we knew grandma would want us to have fun. We couldnt get a flight home other wise we would have been gone. I say go and try to have fun. Remember the fun times.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Add me to those who will be thinking of you these next two days. We'll be with you in spirit.

 

[kimis]

I have been a lurker on the DIS for a few months, but mostly on the DISabilities, tips, and college boards. My family and I were planning a Make a Wish trip to WDW for my younger sister. Sadly, she passed away on the sixth of this month, at the age of seventeen. We were also planning a small two-day trip to DL and DCA as we have done for the past two years during the whole "two parks for the price of one" thing. My parents still plan on taking my older sister and I in a few weeks for spring break and my 20th birthday (which was the ninth). I kind of don't want to go, but my parents really want to make this trip happen as both a good-bye to my sister (visiting her favorite spots and stuff), and also to let me have some fun for my birtday (which I think is a lost cause). Also, my older sister never went to DCA as she was never that interested, so we went on days that she was out of town. I think she would enjoy it because she (like me) is something of a thrill seeker, and there are a lot more thrill-type rides at DCA.

One of the many things my sister and I connected on was our love of Disney (which was unmatched by the rest of our family). She always loved to go to DL, so it would be very different without her. I suppose if I did go, I would get a small souveneir to leave at her grave, which I know she would have enjoyed. The whole thing seems a bit weird to me. My parents would never force me to go, but I know they would not go without me.

I guess I just want your opinions, does it seem too weird to be grieving at DL?

I apologize if this is in the wrong place, if it's filled with spelling and grammar errors, and for having such a depressing first post.

i too am so very sorry for your loss. I have lost two brothers in my life and I totally understand what you are going through. My dh and I had a 12 day trip planned to WDW in Feb. We had planned it a year in advance. My mother got diagonesed with cancer and passed away just 6 weeks before our trip. I wanted to conceal the trip because I knew it wouldn't be the same. Everyone I knew and those on these disboards encouraged me to go. We did go and I am glad we did. It was a little different but we still had a great time. I knew she wouldn't want me to stay home so i went and told myself she would be happy with it.
I would highly recommend that you go. Let that love for disney be a very special part of your memory of your sister. However go ahead and make more memories realizing this is what she would want. I know how hard it is to go ahead and live (and enjoy your favorite things) but that is the only option we have.
So go and enjoy! Let me know how it goes. I will be praying for you

 

[poconoboatniks]

Sadducky,

My thoughts and prayers are with you today and tomorrow. I know that "Disney Magic" will make you feel closer to your sister and know that she will be smiling while she watches you enjoy her favorite rides.

Poconoboatniks

 

[mommykatt]

There are no words that can be said to take away your sorrow. I am truly sorry for your loss.

We lost a good friend a few months ago totally out of the blue. We had palled around the park together for over 20 years. The first trip to Disneyland after his passing was odd. Somethings were happy reminders, others made me cry like a baby. It wasn't the easiest trip. I visited one of our favorite meeting places and just sat for a while thinking of him. The rest of the trip was a little easier after that. I would just take things slow at the park. Don't hesitate to stop at some of your favorite places to think of your sister. Go when you are ready.

I think the brick is a great idea. You could also take something of hers along with you so you have a little bit of her love with you when you go.

Hang in there.

Kathleen

 

[DizLushLvr]

This is heart breaking. All the best to you and yours.

 

[Keggy]

I hope you have a good trip. You will be in my thoughts...

I lost my brother unexpectedly in October of 2001. We had a family trip in December planned to WDW where he was going to propose in The Living Seas to his girlfriend. We were going to be eating lunch and he was going to be Scuba Diving and he had the whole thing planned out and the ring was purchased. Diving there was his favorite thing to do at WDW.

Our family trip that year was cancelled. I cannot speak for the rest of my family, but I think I personally should have gone. My husband, sister, and nephews went to DL instead. It was a good trip for us. But, we needed to have gone to WDW and walk into The Living Seas. Since I live in Orlando and go to WDW on a regular basis it was very difficult to me to go. It took me almost a year to be able to walk into TLS and believe me I cried when I did.

You need to do what is best for you. I know it is hard when you think about your parents and other people in your family. But, I hope you have a good trip and get out of it whatever YOU need to.

 

[teacups]

Sad duck, I am so sorry.

Might I share an idea?

Take a picture of your sister and leave it, or hide it, someplace inside the park. Go on the pirates ride and drop it over the side, or go on the Indy ride and let it fly, or down splash mountain.... I did something similar when my brother passed two years ago, but I took him to the Oregon Coast. Now, it is special to me for a whole new reason. I took a picture, a copy of his obituary and a note to him from me. I tied it with a ribbon and threw it in!
It helps me to feel connected to him still. I even talk to him, and ask him how's the weather on the coast.

Where and how you grieve is so individual. Nobody can tell you what is right or wrong. You have to tell you.

Bless you girl.