Malibustyle23
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- Apr 5, 2006
If you have a very close relative that has passed, mother, father, sibling, child, etc, do you visit their gravesite? If you do, how often do you visit their grave? Anyone never go back after the funeral and graveside service? Why do you choice to visit it? Why do you choose not to?
My father in law passed away a year ago next month. My husband was very close with him. He was young when he passed at only 57. While he was sick with cancer, it was unexpected and definitely took it's toll on our family. My husband has never returned to the grave since burial even though we pass it often and are only about 15 minutes away.
I am fully aware that he is only there physically at this point, you can do all of the things (mourn, cry, talk to them, etc) on your own at home or wherever that you can do at the tombstone. The situation just makes me wonder. How do others deal with loss? What are their routines? Is it "normal" to not visit ever again? Do you visit someone more often or less that you were closer with? The situation has just made me curious about others and how the world turns so to speak.
I have not lost anyone that I have been very close with but I feel as though I would make a point to visit them often. Everyone mourns differently though and who knows what would actually happen once the time actually comes.
My father in law passed away a year ago next month. My husband was very close with him. He was young when he passed at only 57. While he was sick with cancer, it was unexpected and definitely took it's toll on our family. My husband has never returned to the grave since burial even though we pass it often and are only about 15 minutes away.
I am fully aware that he is only there physically at this point, you can do all of the things (mourn, cry, talk to them, etc) on your own at home or wherever that you can do at the tombstone. The situation just makes me wonder. How do others deal with loss? What are their routines? Is it "normal" to not visit ever again? Do you visit someone more often or less that you were closer with? The situation has just made me curious about others and how the world turns so to speak.
I have not lost anyone that I have been very close with but I feel as though I would make a point to visit them often. Everyone mourns differently though and who knows what would actually happen once the time actually comes.