Grandparents with issues...

[Wishing on a star]

I can understand that, at this point, you don't want to 'tell your daughter not to call them'. Repeating what I just said in my earlier post, you can't really tell another adult what to do. You can't control anyone else's actions and attitudes.

But you should be in control of, and responsible for, YOUR actions and reactions.

That is why it is so sad that it has gone on like this, for years and years, and she has been allowed, enabled, to put your children in the middle.
Now they are adults..... You no longer have any power to protect them.

At this point, there are some pretty heavy issues, which include your children....

I can only say that I would just never have maintained a relationship with a toxic person who put my child(ren) in such a position, and even called the authorities on their father.

Instead of enabling, excuses, etc..... which are not going to help.
I am now thinking that I agree with the poster(s) who have mentioned some counseling so that you can begin to figure out how you got here, and how to effectively move forward. How to make positive changes.

I can only say that I would have no further entanglements with anyone who would do that to my child, and to me, and to my husband.

I know it sounds harsh, but I am really and truly just being candid and honest.

How you decide to handle this, of course, is up to you.

 

[faith]

Unplug your phones at dinner time. Talk with your daughter and tell her you expect respect and the truth from her. You can't control your parents, but you can control yourself. You sound angry but I think you're hurt about your years growing up. Can't change those years, but you do control your present.
I hope things improve.

 

[Ceila]

Your first seven posts on the CB are interesting.

 

[RitaZ.]

I will not excuse this as lonliness. Too much background. Because if they actually wanted to have a conversation they would have said that they talked with my child and then went on to say what she told them.

How old are they? Maybe some memory loss or dementia is beginning to set in.