Grandma's insesitive remark

[missyc]

My Grandma has always been the type to put her foot in her mouth...and not even realize it most of the time. This time my mom said it's actually the worst one she has ever done.
My cousin (from my dad's side) just went to Iraq (National Guard) and my parents were telling me and my sister exactly where he's going, etc. Not good news I'm afraid. He's in Falluja as a front line medic. Needless to say we weren't very pleased with his location. My Grandma (mom's mom) said "and won't you all be so proud when he's killed over there."
My mom was furious with her. Dad thankfully didn't hear what she said about his nephew. No one would repeat it for him and later that evening when he cornered me and asked AGAIN what she had said I just made something up.
Just about all the men on my dad's side were in the Marines, and they are all very strong Bush supporters. My grandma (remember, she's my mom's mom) is very against the war in Iraq, thinks Bill Clinton walks on water , and is all for Kerry too (but only because he's NOT Bush).
Anyways, I realize the point she was trying to make, but was that not the most insensitive thing she could have said?

 

[holycow]

Yikes! You poor thing being caught in the middle. Ah, relatives...


good luck!

HC

 

[gr8tpanther]

I could tell you the COUNTLESS things that MY Grandmother used to say that well, would have just been better if she would have kept her mouth SHUT!!! But, warning, it gets worse with age and onset of Dimensia!!!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Yikes that is bad!

Recently my Brother and his girlfriend went to visit my Grandparents and my parents were there also. They all went out to dinner one night. My Bro and G'pa were discussing coon hunting. My Brother said something like "I could go out into the cornfield at night and get a couple of coons." My Grandmother than said "You can take (girlfriend) with you and make love in the corn." This is my really religious Grandma! My Dad was beat red and so was my Brother.

My Mom said it was like she was possesed that trip.

 

[DebbieB]

I have a 75 year old aunt who has a habit of regularly insulting people, especially my mom (her sister). My mom recently had her neck and side of the face marked with blue ink because she was getting radiation treatments. She felt very self concious about it. My aunt says to her "you look like you are ready for Halloween!". Meanwhile, she has emphasema and is always on oxygen. She has also blown up from prednisone. She has no room to talk!

 

[remyandhollandsmommy]

I have a great aunt who says things like that about DH all the time. I just look at her with mock concern and ask if her alzeheimers(sp?) is acting up again.

 

[aprilgail2]

I think once people reach a certain age they decide that they can say anything to anyone no mater how hurtful!! My firend took her mom to the eye Dr and he told her ...look left...look right...look at my nose....to which she says "well its so big how can I NOT look at it"....my friend was SO embarrased!

 

[TnTsParty]

I have a grandmother like yours!! Its tough to deal with. Mine is also all for Kerry because he is NOT Bush. And its my mom's mom as well. It was totally unappropriate to say what she did - I am glad your dad didn't actually hear it. I am sure it would have hurt his feelings like it hurt yours.

We are at least lucky that 1/2 the year she is in NC driving my mom nuts and the the other 1/2 she is down here and Florida and I take her out to dinner once a week when she is down here which unfortunatly its almost time for her to come back (we try to stay FAR away from politics because she is NEVER wrong) She will argue about anything.

 

[Buckalew11]

I'm not surprised at the comment because it could have been said by my grandmother. I have no idea why old people say some of the things they do.

 

[4nana]

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I can't imagine any Grandma being so insensitive and rude.

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[DukeStreetKing]

Well, we all say things that don't come out right sometimes.

 

[princessbaileigh]

My grandmother is the same way, She is never wrong and always has something mean to say about people....especially if they are not BLOOD related. She is my father's mother and hates all of her son and daughter-in-laws, not to mention all of the grandkids spouses. If your father would have been in the room I am sure it would have only made the whole situation worse. Sometimes, they need to be put back in there place.....RESPECTFULLY, of course. You can get the point across to her by being tactful but, firm! I have had to do that myself. The comments come few and far between now, at least when I am not there. She is not a hateful person, just sometimes her mouth gets her into touble. She saids that she is sorry about things that she says and that sometimes things come out before she has time to think about what she said. Just explain to her that what she said was inappropriate and that she hurts poeple when she makes UNWANTED comments like that. Remember, if you can't say something nice.......don't say anything at all!