Got My First

[4cruisin]

wedding invitation in poor taste this weekend.

Opening the mail I noticed a small notecard type envelope with a return address of dh niece. We never hear from her, haven't seen her in about 5 years. She is on her 3rd marriage and is only in her early 30's. Has 4 kids by 3 different guys....you get the idea.

I figure maybe she is throwing a party for her parent's anniversary or something so I open it up.

It's an invitation to her 3rd wedding,(we never got invited to the first 2) at a function hall along with a note to "bring a dish or dessert".

Last time dh talked to his sister (her mother) was several months ago and she mentioned that niece was going through a divorce. WTH

Dh said that we are not going but I think it may be fun. I don't mean to sound mean but why would we get invited to wedding #3 when we didn't get invited to #1 or 2? Is she running out of gift giving guests?

At least she didn't include a card mentioning where she was registered.

So waddaya think...should we go?

 

[budbeerlady]

I would go if I had nothing better to do, just to watch the entertianment this might provide. But I would bring a nice signed card with nothing inside. I wouldn't gift for a 2nd or 3rd marriage. As for a dish to pass, how about thankyou pudding poured from the can into a nice bowl. Seems apropriate some how.

 

[noodleknitter]

A potluck with "interesting" family members is always a good time! I'd go, and take a dish, and a very nice card wishing her well. As I am sure you do.

 

[Stitchfans]

I'd do just as others said. Go with a nice card, and a small dish of something to pass. Might be nice to see some family members you haven't seen in while.

 

[horseshowmom]

We had something similar not too long ago. My cousin's DD is also getting married (I'm honestly not sure whether it's the third or 4th time - she's in her twenties). They don't even live close to us (about 3 hours away), and we never see them.

My mother asked me first about getting an invitation (she lives about 800 miles away from them), and I couldn't believe it. Sure enough, mine came in the mail the next day. I'm afraid we both interpreted it as fishing for another gift, and neither of us went.

 

[mommy*RN]

I would so be there...the laugh factor alone is worth it! Think of all the jokes you and DH can share over the next few months with the "pot-luck wedding" as fodder! I like the posters idea of the pudding as your dish to pass...or a bag of generic potato chips. You must go then come back here and tell all!

BTW - this is the perfect time to "regift" anything you've received in the past and didn't like too!

 

[poohandwendy]

Ok, I hate to be the wet blanket, but I wouldn't go to a wedding for the entertainment factor. The whole point of being a guest at a wedding is to celebrate their marriage and share in their day. If I can't be genuinely happy for the couple, I feel it is wrong to go.

Yeah, the invite is cheesy and probably way inappropriate, but I wouldn't join in the festivities unless I genuinely wanted to share in their day without judgement.

JMHO, LOL I am sure to be flamed...it's all good.

 

[inaminute]

Ok, I hate to be the wet blanket, but I wouldn't go to a wedding for the entertainment factor. The whole point of being a guest at a wedding is to celebrate their marriage and share in their day. If I can't be genuinely happy for the couple, I feel it is wrong to go.

I agree. IMHO, going to a wedding simply for laughs is as tacky as the invite you received.

 

[kdudley3]

I went to one of those kind of weddings before my DH and I were married.

The bride was throwing up in the toilet from drinking too much !!! Her wedding gown was flowing all over the bathroom floor that just had a toilet OVER FLOWING all over the floor!!!

It turns out that her husband told our bartender at our wedding that he was gathering the booze to give it to us. Well, he ended up stealing it.

Go to the wedding, but watch you purse!

 

[AKLRULZ]

JMHO, LOL I am sure to be flamed...it's all good.

I'm sure you will so I'll stand there and burn with you b/c I totally agree - a wedding ceremony should be a sacred event in my opinion to be celebrated, not ridiculed. I feel sorry for this bride to be.

 

[sugarpie]

I'm sure you will so I'll stand there and burn with you b/c I totally agree - a wedding ceremony should be a sacred event in my opinion to be celebrated, not ridiculed. I feel sorry for this bride to be.

I agree, too. I had a cousin who had his third wedding ceremony at the age of 29. It was hard not to judge, but the family attended the wedding and wished him well. That marriage has lasted over 10 years and they have 2 wonderful boys. I hope nobody was rude enough not to bring a gift just because it wasn't his first wedding.

Please don't go to someone's wedding to ridicule them, that's horrible.

 

[4cruisin]

I'm sure you will so I'll stand there and burn with you b/c I totally agree - a wedding ceremony should be a sacred event in my opinion to be celebrated, not ridiculed. I feel sorry for this bride to be.

That's the point. This girl is going on her 3rd marriage. Obviously, she does not seem to feel a wedding ceremony is a "sacred event'. Dh and I have been married for 20 years. We basically eloped but we insisted on having a Catholic mass because we felt it was important to speak our vows in front of God. (I admit I am now a non-practicing Catholic for many reasons that I won't go into here) I'm pretty sure there will be a 4th marriage w/in a few years and maybe a 5th that we may or may not be invited to.

If she wanted to share the joy, why were we not invited to the first 2 scared events....that's what has me .

I like the idea of going to visit with family that we haven't seen in a while. It would be nice to see dh's sister and some of the cousins that may attend.

As far as a gift, I have some beautiful crystal that I have never used and would be perfect. I don't think of it as regifting because I haven't used it.

Thanks for the input. It's nice to see that some of the other dis'ers can relate and I'm not the only one with crazy inlaws.